emotional baggage of the visa journey...

[jordanianprincess 0]

JP..I PMed you. Maybe that will explain it better. I hope

right back at ya babe.

[gonewiththewind 0]

WOW take it easy people just have fun enjoy VJ

[crazyinEgypt 0]

Wowza, I have not been here in a while and seems every time I do happen to pop in there is forever so kind of conflict going on which is why I don't come around here much. I did not reads Jean's post as being negative at all being that I sympathize with her completely. This whole experience has been mind boggling to me and continues to be so. Take a walk in our shoes and one may understand. I pray others going through this process do not have to wait so long to be with our SO like we had to. Maybe if some of you knew what it was like to be away from the one closest to your heart for so long you could be more understanding.

[sarah and hicham 3]

Wowza, I have not been here in a while and seems every time I do happen to pop in there is forever so kind of conflict going on which is why I don't come around here much. I did not reads Jean's post as being negative at all being that I sympathize with her completely. This whole experience has been mind boggling to me and continues to be so. Take a walk in our shoes and one may understand. I pray others going through this process do not have to wait so long to be with our SO like we had to. Maybe if some of you knew what it was like to be away from the one closest to your heart for so long you could be more understanding.

I think most people here with SO's in or from different countries can understand being apart for long periods of time.

[Together4ever 1]

I can't believe I am yet again forced to repeat myself. I am NOT complaining. I started a discussion because I was curious what people found in themselves after their SO arrived after all that time apart. If you all want to read more into it, that's fine. But my position remains, I simply wanted to discuss. But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

we got plenty of spectator seats still open. call your local ticket office

[chiquita 0]

I can't believe I am yet again forced to repeat myself. I am NOT complaining. I started a discussion because I was curious what people found in themselves after their SO arrived after all that time apart. If you all want to read more into it, that's fine. But my position remains, I simply wanted to discuss. But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

Ohhhhhhhh how I can relate!

At first i wasn't sure what you meant, but then I got the picture. We waited 3 long years to be together. I did go stay with him during this time but it was agony to have to leave hin behind.

Now, we are inseparable. He has been here 5 months and we still find it so difficult to be apart. I don't know when it will end. We are lucky in that we both work opposite shifts I think. He is sleeping while I am at work and I am sleeping while he is at work. We both miss each other when we are apart.

When will that stop??? I am not complaining but it is scary. Its like a fear that somehow someone is going to take us apart. We do not take anything for granted. Nothing. We do everything togther when we are awake. I mean everything. If he is on line I am in there with him reading a book. If I am on line he might be next to doing suduku or watching a movie. He cooks for me I cook for him. It's so weird how we are like twins in a way. Lol...maybe we are. I know we are soulmates but I never dreamed we would be so close after all this time.

I guess we will just take it one day at a time and hope we can let up on the feeling of loosing one another.

chi

[sarah and hicham 3]

I can't believe I am yet again forced to repeat myself. I am NOT complaining. I started a discussion because I was curious what people found in themselves after their SO arrived after all that time apart. If you all want to read more into it, that's fine. But my position remains, I simply wanted to discuss. But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

Ohhhhhhhh how I can relate!

At first i wasn't sure what you meant, but then I got the picture. We waited 3 long years to be together. I did go stay with him during this time but it was agony to have to leave hin behind.

Now, we are inseparable. He has been here 5 months and we still find it so difficult to be apart. I don't know when it will end. We are lucky in that we both work opposite shifts I think. He is sleeping while I am at work and I am sleeping while he is at work. We both miss each other when we are apart.

When will that stop??? I am not complaining but it is scary. Its like a fear that somehow someone is going to take us apart. We do not take anything for granted. Nothing. We do everything togther when we are awake. I mean everything. If he is on line I am in there with him reading a book. If I am on line he might be next to doing suduku or watching a movie. He cooks for me I cook for him. It's so weird how we are like twins in a way. Lol...maybe we are. I know we are soulmates but I never dreamed we would be so close after all this time.

I guess we will just take it one day at a time and hope we can let up on the feeling of loosing one another.

chi

I guess I don't really understand the part about being at work. I think most grown up married couples are working couples these days. Isn't it normal to be at work all day and see your husband/wife at night?

[MrsAmera 41]

Sarah - I think chiquita was saying they work opposite shifts, she works during the day and he works at night for example so they don't see each other for any big part of the day. At least that's what I understood from reading it

[tnh9479 1]

For me, there wasn't so much baggage from the visa journey, as it was my own expectations. I never knew I had these ideas that wives were supposed to be a certain way. I was miserable at first because I thought I was not doing everything the way I should. Once I realized it, I talked with my husband about it and he helped me (as always) find some peace.

Twila

P.S. Our real trial came not during the visa journey but the AOS journey. Everything got delayed because of a hurricane that hit our area and turned biometrics into the worst backlog ever! It was really hard for my husband to just sit home, not work, and to feel something less than human (I can understand...I probably would have been much worse).

[Marry American 0]

I can't believe I am yet again forced to repeat myself. I am NOT complaining. I started a discussion because I was curious what people found in themselves after their SO arrived after all that time apart. If you all want to read more into it, that's fine. But my position remains, I simply wanted to discuss. But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

I understand what you meant. I think that you have anxiety about all the changes you are faced with now. Those are very big changes. A new person to share a bed with everyday, share bathrooms. Toilet seat up or down, lol. Just the fact that your space has an additional person in it now. Then comes all the major things. It is not simple. Being married and divorced before, relationships are hard. You have to work at it each and every day. Sometimes every second. But then that is when maturity kicks in and you realize that you both are in it for the long haul.

I am glad you posted something you were feeling and it was honest. I could not be that honest and post something like that because people always have away to change what you meant around and look to the negative about it. It is called their baggage they have to carry with them that makes people act like that. Regardless as to how they may feel or think, the responses on here should be tactful.

Let the subject people be GOOD BEHAVIOR fo 2007. MANNERS.

I could complain that when I have a problem with my man, he seems to always turn it around like he is the victim. No sense of Ownership. But guess what I will not complain because then people will have something to say. LOL

[sarah and hicham 3]

I can't believe I am yet again forced to repeat myself. I am NOT complaining. I started a discussion because I was curious what people found in themselves after their SO arrived after all that time apart. If you all want to read more into it, that's fine. But my position remains, I simply wanted to discuss. But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

I understand what you meant. I think that you have anxiety about all the changes you are faced with now. Those are very big changes. A new person to share a bed with everyday, share bathrooms. Toilet seat up or down, lol. Just the fact that your space has an additional person in it now. Then comes all the major things. It is not simple. Being married and divorced before, relationships are hard. You have to work at it each and every day. Sometimes every second. But then that is when maturity kicks in and you realize that you both are in it for the long haul.

I am glad you posted something you were feeling and it was honest. I could not be that honest and post something like that because people always have away to change what you meant around and look to the negative about it. It is called their baggage they have to carry with them that makes people act like that. Regardless as to how they may feel or think, the responses on here should be tactful.

Let the subject people be GOOD BEHAVIOR fo 2007. MANNERS.

I could complain that when I have a problem with my man, he seems to always turn it around like he is the victim. No sense of Ownership. But guess what I will not complain because then people will have something to say. LOL

gosh, I didn't realize that my baggage and I had been introduced to you yet. Maybe you would be willing to remind me what my baggage is also, I seem to have forgotten.

[Bosco 1]

I can't believe I am yet again forced to repeat myself. I am NOT complaining. I started a discussion because I was curious what people found in themselves after their SO arrived after all that time apart. If you all want to read more into it, that's fine. But my position remains, I simply wanted to discuss. But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

I understand what you meant. I think that you have anxiety about all the changes you are faced with now. Those are very big changes. A new person to share a bed with everyday, share bathrooms. Toilet seat up or down, lol. Just the fact that your space has an additional person in it now. Then comes all the major things. It is not simple. Being married and divorced before, relationships are hard. You have to work at it each and every day. Sometimes every second. But then that is when maturity kicks in and you realize that you both are in it for the long haul.

I am glad you posted something you were feeling and it was honest. I could not be that honest and post something like that because people always have away to change what you meant around and look to the negative about it. It is called their baggage they have to carry with them that makes people act like that. Regardless as to how they may feel or think, the responses on here should be tactful.

Let the subject people be GOOD BEHAVIOR fo 2007. MANNERS.

I could complain that when I have a problem with my man, he seems to always turn it around like he is the victim. No sense of Ownership. But guess what I will not complain because then people will have something to say. LOL

gosh, I didn't realize that my baggage and I had been introduced to you yet. Maybe you would be willing to remind me what my baggage is also, I seem to have forgotten.

Your baggage is Samsonite. Samsonite, this is Sarah. Sarah, this is Samonsite. Samonsite and Sarah, that was your free psychoanalysis.

[peezey 0]

I could complain that when I have a problem with my man, he seems to always turn it around like he is the victim. No sense of Ownership. But guess what I will not complain because then people will have something to say. LOL

Seems to be a common thought tonight, something must be weighing down someone's carry on.

[sarah and hicham 3]

I can't believe I am yet again forced to repeat myself. I am NOT complaining. I started a discussion because I was curious what people found in themselves after their SO arrived after all that time apart. If you all want to read more into it, that's fine. But my position remains, I simply wanted to discuss. But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

I understand what you meant. I think that you have anxiety about all the changes you are faced with now. Those are very big changes. A new person to share a bed with everyday, share bathrooms. Toilet seat up or down, lol. Just the fact that your space has an additional person in it now. Then comes all the major things. It is not simple. Being married and divorced before, relationships are hard. You have to work at it each and every day. Sometimes every second. But then that is when maturity kicks in and you realize that you both are in it for the long haul.

I am glad you posted something you were feeling and it was honest. I could not be that honest and post something like that because people always have away to change what you meant around and look to the negative about it. It is called their baggage they have to carry with them that makes people act like that. Regardless as to how they may feel or think, the responses on here should be tactful.

Let the subject people be GOOD BEHAVIOR fo 2007. MANNERS.

I could complain that when I have a problem with my man, he seems to always turn it around like he is the victim. No sense of Ownership. But guess what I will not complain because then people will have something to say. LOL

gosh, I didn't realize that my baggage and I had been introduced to you yet. Maybe you would be willing to remind me what my baggage is also, I seem to have forgotten.

Your baggage is Samsonite. Samsonite, this is Sarah. Sarah, this is Samonsite. Samonsite and Sarah, that was your free psychoanalysis.

Oh phew, thank you! I must say that Samsonite luggage is quite wonderful.