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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Italy
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Good that AOS has not been filed... Your moms finances are fine since the 134 is non binding and basically expires when the &1 does. After 90 days he will be out of status with NO WAY to adjust without you... Keep any correspondane, change the locks and keep up eyes open. Call the cops if anythi g fishy.. Good luck.

Also NEVER BE ALONE WITH HIM FOR ANY REASON ... Do not give him a chance to file for VAWA falsely (he may get coaching to do so especially once he finds out he has no way to be come legal without you or a false claim)...

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I never filed the paperwork for his AOS, I saw things weren't going right and wanted to wait. It wasn't so much that he "changed" it was what changed in him that just wasn't right. Then, the emails started coming from his friend saying "just file his paperwork and he never has to come back to your house." "Let him rest in the US and leave him alone." The best one was "he only wanted his papers after the two years" to me he did not marry in good faith. He and his friend are under the impression that once you get married you get full rights to be here. His friend kept telling me that he knows the laws in the US and he has the right to be here, that i need his signature for a divorce. (I don't need his signature for anything) the annulment has not been granted yet, but it will be. They have to wait 35 days for no response in order to enter it as "granted by default." I sat down an explained everything to him the night before he took off. I told him that we will file the paperwork and he can go home. We can do it the right way. I explained everything we had to do. Obviously he had other plans after that. It makes me very uncomfortable that my neighbor has him there.

Hi. It is my understanding that once you married, he is legal in the US until his i-94 expires, 90 days. After that, he is "out of status." This means that any driver's license / state id card will have expired the day the i-94 expires. I live in the state of georgia and this is how it is here. Where you live, state and county, it might be different. Depending if, when and what for he gets stopped by law enforcement and asked to show id, the fact that his driver's license / id card is expired may or may not be a big deal. But, he is and will not be your responsibily. Go ahead with the divorce. You picked the wrong one this time. Just take your time and make sure this doesn't happen again!

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Thank you everyone for the encouraging words. I feel so stupid. I keep going over and over our old conversations and seeing if there was anything I missed. He was a great actor and played it well. Honestly as long as my mom can't lose her income, I'll just have to work on reporting him after the 90 days if that will even do anything. Thank you all again so much.

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Good that AOS has not been filed... Your moms finances are fine since the 134 is non binding and basically expires when the &1 does. After 90 days he will be out of status with NO WAY to adjust without you... Keep any correspondane, change the locks and keep up eyes open. Call the cops if anythi g fishy.. Good luck.

Also NEVER BE ALONE WITH HIM FOR ANY REASON ... Do not give him a chance to file for VAWA falsely (he may get coaching to do so especially once he finds out he has no way to be come legal without you or a false claim)...

Good advice. This guys only path to permanent residency at this point is VAWA. Seems he got some bad advice from his friends on how the process works. Once he figures it out, look for him to show up with flowers etc. wanting to reconcile.

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Thank you everyone for the encouraging words. I feel so stupid. I keep going over and over our old conversations and seeing if there was anything I missed. He was a great actor and played it well. Honestly as long as my mom can't lose her income, I'll just have to work on reporting him after the 90 days if that will even do anything. Thank you all again so much.

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He is from Algeria. I went there and spent a month with him and his family....it seemed great. He was the same person I was talking to from the day I met him. When he got here his personality completely changed. My mother even noticed a difference. We figured...Someone in a new country going through all these changes but it wasn't. He had no personality now. He barely spoke and when he did it was to explain to me that the USA is ####### and his country is great. I had many fights with him telling him "I find it odd that the US is such ####### when we have people fighting to get visas here all day every day and we have a visa lottery...What does Algeria have? I don't see people jumping boarder or fighting to get into there." Before he was all supportive of school, when he got here he wanted me to drop out. I'm getting ready to apply to graduate schools. I didn't come all this way to drop out of school. I was never expecting someone to change me. He tells me he is embarrassed to go home. I told his friend he just wanted a visa here and thought I wouldn't see through his BS when he got here. I married him in good faith, my mom felt like he was her own and couldn't wait for him to be here....once he got here her comment to me was "I really think he had a twin and sent the other one here because this is not the same person" There is nothing more I can't stand than someone who comes here illegally and gets everything....I always felt do it the right way. That is why as soon as I realized he wasn't coming back I emailed ICE twice and Social Security because he has a SS #. I won't let him fade. I will continue to email and call ICE. I have friends that come from other countries (Germany, Sweden, and Italy) to visit me, they use my name as a contact. I don't want this messing me up in the future. I found porn on my computer....He was watching it while my daughter was awake in the house and the changing in front of a child is not acceptable. It was when I confronted him that I decided I didn't trust him and I didn't want to be with him. It was just too many ODD things that I couldn't overlook. Especially when it porno movies while my daughter is awake and changing in front of her, it is just odd....

Unfortunately, a month is not enough time to see the true personality of a person, or figure out there true motives. A vacation relationship is very different from building a life together.

You found out early. Best to move on as best you can.

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Here's what I don't get. If our country is such #######, why does he want to remain here?

And why would a neighbor take him in?

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Im so sorry know about your issue. I think he cant do the AOS without you, plus I dont think he can pay the $1,070 fee, I think he will overstay ilegally and will be deported in the first issue that he get.

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Here's what I don't get. If our country is such #######, why does he want to remain here?

And why would a neighbor take him in?

Obviously US is a 'Free' country. New found freedom, so liberalized to strip naked in front of little girl, and surf porn online :P

Done with K1, AOS and ROC

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Obviously US is a 'Free' country. New found freedom, so liberalized to strip naked in front of little girl, and surf porn online :P

He's fitting in already.

I love a guy who looks like he could be on Criminal Minds as either an agent or a killer.

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My neighbor feels bad for him. My neighbor is gay and I believe he thinks he is going to have sex with him from comments he has made. I have no idea why he wants to stay here if he thinks it's such #######. I asked him the same thing a few weeks ago and he just gave me a blank stare. I told him at that point if my country is so horrible go home.

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Can someone please tell me who I can contact or what my next step would be. I brought my fiancé here on a K1 visa, we got married and after a month he turned into a completely different person. I told him I filed for an annulment (I told him on thursday April 10) on April 11, his passport and all his money was gone and the house key was left on the bed. I have emails from his friend asking me to keep him here and give him his papers, to let him live some place else. I told him he was crazy and there is no way in hell I am committing fraud. I emailed ICE and called USCIS, I found out now he is living in my neighbors house and only comes out when he thinks I am not home. What do I do? I don't want him here. He tries to talk to my daughter and waves to her. My biggest fear is he will take her to hurt me! Someone please help me. I really had no idea he was going to run on me. I truly thought he loved me, he was completely different. He thought our country was great and when he got here our country was #######! His country was the best and everything there was the best. He also undressed in front of my daughter twice.....I told him that is disgusting that we don't do that here. I told him if he did it again after I asked him not to he would have to leave. There was just so many things that went wrong, I couldn't stay with someone like that. I have the emails proving he is trying to get me to commit fraud, but where do I go from here? Who do I call? My mom sponsored him, her pension and Social Security is in jeopardy. He doesn't care and nether does my neighbor. My neighbor is on section 8, I will call them on Monday to report him having him in there. Please someone help, I feel unsafe and don't trust him at this point. I have called the police and they told me the only thing they can do is come here and tell him to leave me alone when he bothers me. Any help will be greatly appreciated.

Assumptions:

1. Married

2. Not File Adjustment of Status after marriage

3. Annulment included move-out order but court not grant anything yet.

If all of the assumptions are true,

then if you want -

you can do stuff with USCIS/ICE, in person, to have things added to his A-File. When/if he attempts to do something about his status, after I-94 expires, the A-File will have this stuff in it.

What to do, how to do:

1. set up an infopass appointment to your local office at https://infopass.uscis.gov [does not matter the reason, as what you want isn't listed]

2. go to the infopass appointment - tell the clerk you need to speak with the FDNS officer. Wait till that human shows up past the security door, then show him all of the correspondence. You shoud write letters of attestation between NOW and the appointment, detailing the stuff that led to the annulment, giving those over to the FDNS officer

You should get a temporary restraining order filed in conjunction with the annulment filing - usually the same court can handle it.

If you have any joint accounts set up, remove his name.

re: the I-134s other people signed for you - they are not legally enforceable and expire with the I-134 expires.

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Unfortunately, a month is not enough time to see the true personality of a person, or figure out there true motives. A vacation relationship is very different from building a life together.

You found out early. Best to move on as best you can.

Sometimes. My husband asked me to marry him a month after we first spent time together (which was a week.) But both of us were genuinely being who we are and our marriage is still working 2 years later. Been here since June 2013. Our marriage is BETTER now that we're together actually. But not everyone is being who they truly are when they talk to someone and it's a good thing to be wary.

The OP is taking the right steps because she felt something was up and was correct. It's a good thing to follow your gut when things don't seem right. Unless you're a paranoid personality, it generally works out.

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.  - Dr. Seuss

 

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I never filed the paperwork for his AOS, I saw things weren't going right and wanted to wait. It wasn't so much that he "changed" it was what changed in him that just wasn't right. Then, the emails started coming from his friend saying "just file his paperwork and he never has to come back to your house." "Let him rest in the US and leave him alone." The best one was "he only wanted his papers after the two years" to me he did not marry in good faith. He and his friend are under the impression that once you get married you get full rights to be here. His friend kept telling me that he knows the laws in the US and he has the right to be here, that i need his signature for a divorce. (I don't need his signature for anything) the annulment has not been granted yet, but it will be. They have to wait 35 days for no response in order to enter it as "granted by default." I sat down an explained everything to him the night before he took off. I told him that we will file the paperwork and he can go home. We can do it the right way. I explained everything we had to do. Obviously he had other plans after that. It makes me very uncomfortable that my neighbor has him there.

Okay, it's good you haven't filed for AOS. He can certainly try to file, however, like I said, his options will ber very limited once he realizes that both of you have to present at the AOS interview.

Divorce laws vary from state to state, however, immigration laws are the same in every state. His friends are under the 'automatic citizenship' misconception. There is nothing automatic. As I said, K-1 is one of the, if not the most restrictive visa categories in terms of adjustment of status. He can only file for AOS based on his marriage to you, the original petitioner. Once he has been in the country for longer than 90 days without filing for AOS, he is in the country illegally.

Karma and stupidity seems to have already killed his American dream.

Darnell gave you some excellent advice.

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