SCAMMED!! (Thank you lawyer, good friends)

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Everyone cool your jets.

OP is having anxiety and lashing out due to emotional pain, not an excuse but a reality. Put yourself in his shoes, how would you feel just finding

all this out and having your father just pass away ?
Stop beating down on someone who is already down and out.

OP..... DNA test definitely. Only after that you will know the next step. I would get the test done in her country though.

I am still unclear on why your (?) child is in a different place and who was the other baby in her home and why was it there ?

I would take some time to settle things before her coming here and get the paternity issue settled.

Please calm down, all this anger will not help you. Get some counseling asap so you have an outlet for your frustrations.

I wish you the best.

Edited April 15, 2014 by Ebunoluwa

[novedsac 355]

Thank u M/M EMB for your support.

MY friend is a Ilocos Norte woman who has resided in Hawaii for over 23 years. She speaks the truth and from the heart. She's already established in Hawaii with 3 kids, 2 jobs, house, husband, etc.

To those who speak negatively and/or do not support what I am saying:

What about my son? MY REAL SON? Like my Ilocano friend says, "If u see your baby, u know that's yours. In your heart, you can feel."

She is absolutely KOREK. Again, the first 2 trimesters weren't the problem; I even did the baby calculator thing; he looks like a (almost) dead ringer like me, yes, I know babies change throughout the first couple of months, but bottom line is, DNA test is the most accurate way to find out. And thx again to those 3 ppl who said to take a DNA test. I will. We will. Of that I have no doubt!!!

I said some pretty harsh things to her for:

Not giving me information solely when I asked for it regarding my son when I arrived my first night in PI on April 7th

Not showing me pictures during her birth, and/or her last 2 months

I was set to be in PI from March 1st to the 31st. She gave birth at 37.5 weeks, on February 26th, 2014.

MY FATHER DIED ON THE SAME DAY MY SON WAS BORN.

I TUNED OUT THE WORLD TO BE WITH MY DYING FATHER, to respect and honor him. What part of that do you idiots not understand? Death is eternal, my fiancee said: "God gave us a son in place of your dad; thus, the cycle of life continues". IT WAS JUST BAD TIMING. It is what it is. There was NOTHING I could do about it. I COULDN'T BE IN 2 PLACES AT ONCE!!!

She thought I was only there to visit PI a second time to bring him back, and him alone. She was sorely wrong. I was (and still am going through a rough stretch) with all the legal ####### my dad left behind. I'm in no mood for dry jokes, racism? (really? from the melting pot of the Pacific?) or name calling here. Either be positive and support or don't waste your time and post.

Actually u know what, forget it. I'll just unfollow this topic. F u guys who was negative. Big behind a computer screen, you wouldn't dare say those things to my face...if u know what was best to you. I can guarantee u that. I'm wasting my time and energy listening to harsh words when all I want is my son (and her HONESTY, really) to be safe in Hawaii. At this point u guys are making me really want to hate her, did she lie to me? No doubt. Was she wrong, and sorry about it? You bet.

Do I believe in giving people a second chance? ABSOLUTELY.

Nobody knows her except me. If she burns me a second time, so be it. Quite frankly, she just confessed to OUR REAL SON, being in her original province and her sister and aunty is taking care of him as we speak, and will show me PICS OF HIM TODAY, (like how terrorist do with a current newspaper with today's date) because I have all of his original pics. Yes, I'll subject the both of us to DNA testing.

Mahalo for your understanding AND SUPPORT!!!!

You need a lot of time on your own to think things through. I don't see a rationale decision on your part yet in all of this. Perhaps the loss of your Dad has clouded your judgement. You seem to have a temper as well. You need time and solitude to pull yourself together and think this through. People here have seen so many similar situations which have turned out very, very bad, that it's hard not to be cynical. Further haste is more likely than not to find you in an even worse predicament. Edited April 15, 2014 by novedsac

[Avery Cates 1,141]

You need a lot if time on your own to think things through. I don't see a rationale decision on your part yet in all of this. Perhaps the loss of your Dad has clouded your judgement. You seem to have a temper as well. You need time and solitude to pull yourself together and think this through. People here have seen so many similar situations which have turned out very, very bad, that it's hard not to be cynical. Further haste is more likely than not to find you in an even worse predicament.

I would agree with all of that.

[Ontarkie 14,506]

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