Anyone awake I need help now

[Luvmytater 88]

If Aboby broke, no mean say e go use the poor lady position, wan extort her naa. Haba? Na dis pattern dem dey take dey give us bad name. Wida Olopa go hold you for traffic offence, cum dey demand $1000 USD? For inside Naija kwa? Hmmmmmm. Dis young man, need to dey careful o, make him no put himself for position wey Oluwa go carry him favour, go far. "GBAM" !!! (my Naija ppl, know what am talking about).

Everyone seems to want to give 9ja bad name. It kills me that people always think scam when they hear of problems. I dey pray that all goes well o. But I do know it will be fine soon.

Edited April 11, 2014 by Luvmytater

[belinda63 3,041]

Sadly we have seen this or similar scams from this and other countries too often. I am glad everything is working out for you and your man and you are lucky to have people there who can check on the matter for you. If you google Nigeria and marriage scam you will see many stories similar to this.

[doublebng 7]

Everyone seems to want to give 9ja bad name. It kills me that people always think scam when they hear of problems. I dey pray that all goes well o. But I do know it will be fine soon.

My dear, it depends on the LOAD, attached to the problem. Most of us, where born and breed there, thats why u see us AMAZED. Nevertheless, what ever it is, he is a Nigerian and our brother. So we put him in our prayers, that all goes well with the situation at hand, and you guys dont have to bother about spend that kind of money, this season. GODBLESS !

[LoveNigarmostyle 164]

Look, being held for a few Naira happens and people pay a small bribe to go on their merry way. What does not happen is being held

for $1000 and dragging the American wife into it. Let him deal with it and keep both of your eyes wide open and never ever send money for anything, be it for a hospital, sickness or any police matter.

If his story is true they will let him go eventually. No worries and sleep well. Seriously, nothing to worry about. Tell him: dear I have confidence in you

that you will find a solution to this because I can't help you. End of story.

Then be very careful with the relationship. It is common in many third world countries to extort money from vulnerable women and make

up stories.

I am very sorry if my comment offends you but I have been around the block a few times and know what I am talking about.

Best wishes.

I am in full agreement with Ebunoluwa's comments. I am married to a Nigerian and when I first told him about this post subject he said it is a scam tell her not to send any money.

True, there are some Nigerians who are in these long distance relationships just to milk the women abroad. THIS doesn't mean every Nigerian is in it for money or visa to a better life in the US or any other foreign country. There are good,kind and decent people in any country as there are bad and evil ones. To always pin African/Nigerian men as scams is uncalled for.

In this journey, we have come to know some couples who were taken advantage of, but all the red flags were there and obvious but the person involved did not want to see or acknowledge them! Use discretion and logic as much as you use your heart.

Good luck!

[Luvmytater 88]

I want to thank you all for your opinions. I am the biggest skeptic even. I have know my husband for 10 years but only started dating 3 years ago. Here in the USA we are trained to think every nigerian is a scammer and that's why it was so hard for me to commit to him. After years of getting to know his friends and family I finally decided to just give in to love. I know this sounds like a scam and I have to admit at first I was wondering myself, but I know my husband too well to think that. Like I said he just fell victim of a Hungary police man and I know it will all be well by morning. You guys really are the best for trying to help the "innocent victims" and I pray one day your advice wakes someone from the sweet words that are too often used as a tool for money.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Everyone seems to want to give 9ja bad name. It kills me that people always think scam when they hear of problems. I dey pray that all goes well o. But I do know it will be fine soon.

I am the first to fight tooth and nail when people yell scam in this forum and beat down on Nigeria and Nigerians for stupid stuff that does not

remotely resemble a scam. I do not stereotype and generalize and everyone that knows me knows that.

Women come here with threads like : All Nigerians are scammers blah blah and I hate that with a passion and make my comments accordingly.

I don't know you or your husband and you may be totally right that it is as you believe it to be. I can only go by what I read in a short post.

I do not mean to insult your intelligence, again I do not know you but when I read the post it seemed clear to me that it was a

questionable occurrence.

1. The amount is too high

2. US currency

3. You ending up in the middle of it (through a phone conversation).

Instead of your husband possibly insisting you pay he would normally laugh at the police for the outrageous demand and be on his way

with family coming to his aid with a few Naira to settle the situation. He would never agree to you as his wife taking responsibility for a

hungry police officer in his own country. A man handles himself and does not drag his wife into it. He knows they will let him go very soon

with very little bribe, that I am sure of.

I believe you have been to 9ja twice and visited for a short while going by your previous posts. Many others have too and still were duped.

I am not here to convince you of that though. That is your decision and responsibility and nobody else can push you to doubt your husband.

I said what I said to give you a heads up and to be careful in case you are someone who really does not understand the basic scams.

It is precisely that people know what's up in this sub-saharan forum that makes them comment on what may be potentially the case.

Many have been here for years and seen and heard it all and try to truly be helpful. Nobody ever wants to hear that it can happen to them.

It happens to others but not to us is the mantra....until it does and then we are shocked and ask how could I have ignored the red flag.

Again, I hope all works out for you and my apologies if I stepped on your toes. I did not mean to insult you but to help you.

[ForeverLove4u 8]

Hey girl, sorry to hear what you are going through......just be strong and watch your back. Will be praying that this tough situation works out for you. Do call the consulate and report this to them, whether they can help or not, who knows. But at least it will give you some relief that you have done something. Blessings!!

[Luvmytater 88]

Hey girl, sorry to hear what you are going through......just be strong and watch your back. Will be praying that this tough situation works out for you. Do call the consulate and report this to them, whether they can help or not, who knows. But at least it will give you some relief that you have done something. Blessings!!

Thank you. I will be calling as soon as they are open to report this even if it don't help.

[justojai 53]

Ive been following you on the July filers tread and hoping you get approved but right now I dont even know what to think about the whole story.... am stiĺl wondering what traffic offence will cost $1000, offiicially most traffic offence cost N20000 "$120" and in most cases you can bribe your way out with $20.

I do not see any reason why any police officer will want to even speak with you when as a born Nigerian male he can handle them and IMO the demand is questionable. if there is any other reason they are demanding for $1000 that can be understandable but for traffic! no way. Fighting with a traffic officer attracts $600 which is the highest amount anyone can pay officially.

Since you said you trust your husband the only thing I can think of is your husband could be in need of money and this is one of the ways he think he can get it and to be honest with you this is not a good sign.

[Luvmytater 88]

Wow I'm still in shock over all the negative stuff everyone has been posting about my husband. Just so everyone knows he was release this morning without having to pay a dime to anyone. My brother went with his officer friend and got this all handle. But thanks for proving to me just how negative VJ can really be SMDH

[Tiff&Babs 62]

Wow I'm still in shock over all the negative stuff everyone has been posting about my husband. Just so everyone knows he was release this morning without having to pay a dime to anyone. My brother went with his officer friend and got this all handle. But thanks for proving to me just how negative VJ can really be SMDH

I don't think that our comments we're necessarily negative. You presented us with a typical red flag case and we responded accordingly. It's nice that your case was a typical.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

If someone come to this board with a report of something that Nigerians know wouldn't happen you should expect to be warned about the questionable behavior. With about 50% of the marriages here not making 2 years post arrival in the US there are as many scams as there are not. I know of several cases of the USC being wiped out before the big wake up comes. You weren't being warned by outsiders being snarky but by Nigerians who fully know what this kind of stuff means. Someone in the mess see you as a money bag so keep your guard up.

[His Glory 25]

Glad everything turned out ok. Must have been such a relief to get the call he was released. When im visiting...I see how the police target the expensive cards to pull over. The bribe situation really bothers me when I go there. When im approached I just act like I don't know whats going on. Hey! Im Hispanic....I should pull the "no hablo ingles" card. LOL but I think they know my face at the airport now. Glad your boo is out and safe.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Wow I'm still in shock over all the negative stuff everyone has been posting about my husband. Just so everyone knows he was release this morning without having to pay a dime to anyone. My brother went with his officer friend and got this all handle. But thanks for proving to me just how negative VJ can really be SMDH

Why the shock ? It was a very negative situation and you asked what you can do besides sending the money. People assumed that is what you

would end up doing and warned you not to and that it will resolve itself. That is a lot of money over nothing !

This forum understands the pitfalls well for the most part and gave you their opinions. It is nothing personal but it was not

something that could be responded to with rainbows and butterflies.

Remember people can only respond in a manner that the topic itself is presented in.

Glad it worked out for you and just as I said he will be let go.

You can shake your head but the people here care and want the best for you so please lose the chip on your shoulder, the amount

was just too much over the top than what reality reflects. All we are saying is be careful....because we care.

[Ouryear 15]

Look, being held for a few Naira happens and people pay a small bribe to go on their merry way. What does not happen is being held

for $1000 and dragging the American wife into it. Let him deal with it and keep both of your eyes wide open and never ever send money for anything, be it for a hospital, sickness or any police matter.

If his story is true they will let him go eventually. No worries and sleep well. Seriously, nothing to worry about. Tell him: dear I have confidence in you

that you will find a solution to this because I can't help you. End of story.

Then be very careful with the relationship. It is common in many third world countries to extort money from vulnerable women and make

up stories.

I am very sorry if my comment offends you but I have been around the block a few times and know what I am talking about.

Best wishes.

Your advice is spot on. I asked my Dad and finance- both Nigerians currently in Nigeria, and they both said not to send anything. If his story is true, he'll eventually be released.