Black Toenails and Killer Chicken

[NikLR 13,231]

My mom called me a cougar when I met hubs. He's only 4 years younger ffs... If you even out him and my ex it's about the same age as me.... LOL

Jada... You have people who care about you and want you to be happy. Just remember that. You don't have to stay somewhere if you feel like you're done, no matter what the circumstances. Just do me a favour and figure out WHERE that done line is and stop pushing it back.

[SAT 9,609]

1-My mom called me a cougar when I met hubs. He's only 4 years younger ffs... If you even out him and my ex it's about the same age as me.... LOL

2-Jada... You have people who care about you and want you to be happy. Just remember that. You don't have to stay somewhere if you feel like you're done, no matter what the circumstances. Just do me a favour and figure out WHERE that done line is and stop pushing it back.

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1- Cradle robber!

2- I couldn't agree more. But you spelled "favour" wrong.....I know I know...Canuckian.....

3- J met whats his face online, that's a curse. Now she stumbled across you good folks, it's a blessing.

[SAT 9,609]

Who else is older than their hubs? huh?

Wacko- Cougar!

Toothache- Cougar!

Tarklar- Dirty old man!

[NikLR 13,231]

I met hubs online. I can't say SH!T about meeting people online.

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

I am younger than my husband - I have always preferred Scorpios born in 85, always.

[SAT 9,609]

I am younger than my husband - I have always preferred Scorpios born in 85, always.

How bout if they were born in 86? That was year of the tiger ya know....

[SAT 9,609]

I met hubs online. I can't say SH!T about meeting people online.

Well I didn't say it was bad to meet online lol.

But from what I read here. I don't think J hubs can meet anyone in everyday life....not even a guy.....

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

How bout if they were born in 86? That was year of the tiger ya know....

Nah, then I'd know it would just be a fling...

[NikLR 13,231]

well.. there are geeks and nerds... and I'm a geek not a nerd.

[SAT 9,609]

And how would you know?

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

And how would you know?

Because the universe thinks it is funny that anyone that I've dated in a long term relationship (or married) must be born then and have been held back for a year in Kindergarten. Seriously, no freaking joke.

[SAT 9,609]

Every long term GF I ever had was Sagittarius. Except Tiff.... Lol

[Ontarkie 14,378]

thanks...and ya..I am feeling ....I don't know...I am giving it a thought and reflecting....maybe she is right maybe I did something very wrong somewhere. *shrugs* It is worth a thought before I get really pissed off.

Stop that right now, it takes two to make a marriage work. You can't do it all!

Well, he is her son and she is liable to defend him. My own mother tells me I should be nicer to my husband and give him more leeway, I think she likes him (finally a guy she likes).

Nah, don't let her get you thinking that way. You are a wonderful woman who has gone so out of your way for this man, you cook for his family, you take care of their pets, you moved half way around the world, and you deserve so much better.

Why even bother to cook for them anymore?

Wake up, lady Jada. No matter how good FIL to you, ultimately they would still stick to their son. Keep saying sorry to you doesn't deflect what lousy parents they are, perhaps to guilty trip you to stay in the sh*t hole.

After what the MIL asking you to reflect on yourself, OMG I would have pack my bag and leave ASAP.

Nobody should ever trample your pride, self worthiness like that.

F**k them!

I don't see it as bad as you do. As Nola said...he is her son so it makes sense for her to defend him, ultimately she is entitled to her opinion no matter what it is. I am here for now and cannot really pack my bags and leave...I don't think she hates me but I do think that she may have thought I was different that I was more like her son...no opinion no need to communicate and less of a threat.....I feel bad for her really and I am sure she feels bad because she was a big part of it all.

To say this again - she was not mean nor did she say anything with attitude but I think her opinions derive from her own experience with her husband...she had to spell out everything to him. force him to listen and push him to do things. I am not that kind of person and find that extremely unbalanced in terms of any relationship....she doesn't ....that is her normal behavior...enabling - so of course she does not see where the problem is and why I would be so upset and blames me for lack of "pushing".

I understand and truly am not mad at her.....annoying that she doesn't really see it but I could not expect her to. If I walk away from this knowing that I helped her manage her diabetes, get hubs to understand a minimum about life and how to deal with people then I can at least have that....just sitting here and do nothing and pout won't solve much except that it will make me feel more like #######. I act the best way I know how. Whether others appreciate it or not is a different story and it is for them to reconcile with later on.

thats my reasoning anyways.

Girl my oldest is going to be 23, no way would I even put up with how you are being treated by your husband. I'd knock my kid upside the head if he pulled that #######.

Who else is older than their hubs? huh?

Wacko- Cougar!

Toothache- Cougar!

Tarklar- Dirty old man!

I am too, but he looks older does that count?

I met hubs online. I can't say SH!T about meeting people online.

Same here, playing Everquest at that! WoW is for babies

Ok I think I got caught up. Oh wait Darnell I hope your wife feels better soon.

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

Just to make tbone happy:

I finally get to start my testing at the fertility clinic....hate 41 days cycles, hate.

[Ontarkie 14,378]

Just to make tbone happy:

I finally get to start my testing at the fertility clinic....hate 41 days cycles, hate.

Oh yay but boo cause that means Aunt flo is visiting.