Do Not Marry A Man From Nigeria! They Are Very Violent People....

[Boiler 46,147]

Not black.

That would be racist.

Amusingly I have noticed in my travels that those countries are far more racist that the so called western nations.

[ManCharsey 254]

And the 98% of Somali women that have Type III FGM? I'm sure that was a misunderstanding as well.

And well the same map you just put up also shows even more areas with no such things happening or under 10% (That is if I have to even assume your data or map is credible). Again you are proving no point. You are just trying to re-reinforce a preexisting false minor premise. Please read on fallacy of syllogism. Thank you.

[ManCharsey 254]

Not black.

That would be racist.

Amusingly I have noticed in my travels that those countries are far more racist that the so called western nations.

And does that give you grounds to be racist towards people from such countries too?

Have you traveled to Africa? If you have, which countries have you visited and how long?

I have and I speak with proof. I have spent over 5 years in several African countries because of the nature of my work.

Again please desist from making hasty generalizations. Thank you!

[ManCharsey 254]

They are? where?

Making generalizations?

Pot... kettle... black?

You have the internet and a good supply of electricity (Thank God for America!) so please do the research online. We have more gun violence issues than any other country on earth. I don't think I need to educate you on that as well. Thank you

[Boiler 46,147]

You have the internet and a good supply of electricity (Thank God for America!) so please do the research online. We have more gun violence issues than any other country on earth. I don't think I need to educate you on that as well. Thank you

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/worldviews/wp/2012/12/14/schoo-shooting-how-do-u-s-gun-homicides-compare-with-the-rest-of-the-world/

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[Kolewenoik31 57]

And so are thousands of cases in the US everyday on domestic violence. You are on a forum dedicated to immigrants so you of course wont see issues regarding spouses where both are Americans..but just make the research and see for yourself. You will realize that from the research we are NOT so different from anyone from any of the countries we are so quick to judge harshly. American spouses are shooting at each other every single day etc. Does it make everyone here bad, NO! That is what I am saying, so don't support something you have no proof against or can't ascertain with facts. Thank you!

ManCharsey...I agree with everything that you have posted {just wanted to chime in}. I was married to an American man and guess what?!?!? He was abusive....

I think it is very wrong to stereotype a certain group of people as well. Not trying to down play the OP, but there is always three sides to any story. Yours, mine, and the truth. Now, I am married to a Kenyan and he is the most sweetest, nicest, humblest man in the world far different from my American man. What is the difference?!?! Sorry to throw this in there but I must. God.....I allowed God to choose my husband {new}. I did not go around looking to be remarried. I waited and prayed daily that I could keep my eyes on Him and if he saw fit to bless me with another husband then he would do the choosing and I would follow. I can say that it was the best thing that I could have done. I wrote a list of Godly things that I wanted and gave it to God and he answered them and some. So its important to put Him first and just wait, not just get up and run ahead of Him because it sounds good. Also in closing it is important to study this individual carefully before making that commitment and if possible spend time with him in his country {if possible}, before putting it on paper because once its on paper you are to make it work without putting yourself in harms way of course. Here is a words of council "Let the husband and wife talk things over together. Renew the early attentions to each other, acknowledge your faults to each other, but in this work be very careful that the husband does not take it upon him to confess his wife's faults or the wife her husband's. The evil is always increased when either the wife or the husband, finding someone who appears to be a congenial spirit, ventures to whisper to this trusted one the secrets of the married life. The very act of making known the secret confirms the existence of a condition of things that would not be at all necessary if the husband and wife loved God supremely."

Edited April 7, 2014 by Kolewenoik31

[ManCharsey 254]

ManCharsey...I agree with everything that you have posted {just wanted to chime in}. I was married to an American man and guess what?!?!? He was abusive....

I think it is very wrong to stereotype a certain group of people as well. Not trying to down play the OP, but there is always three sides to any story. Yours, mine, and the truth. Now, I am married to a Kenyan and he is the most sweetest, nicest, humblest man in the world far different from my American man. What is the difference?!?! Sorry to throw this in there but I must. God.....I allowed God to choose my husband {new}. I did not go around looking to be remarried. I waited and prayed daily that I could keep my eyes on Him and if he saw fit to bless me with another husband then he would do the choosing and I would follow. I can say that it was the best thing that I could have done. I wrote a list of Godly things that I wanted and gave it to God and he answered them and some. So its important to put Him first and just wait, not just get up and run ahead of Him because it sounds good. Also in closing it is important to study this individual carefully before making that commitment and if possible spend time with him in his country {if possible}, before putting it on paper because once its on paper you are to make it work without putting yourself in harms way of course. Here is a words of council "Let the husband and wife talk things over together. Renew the early attentions to each other, acknowledge your faults to each other, but in this work be very careful that the husband does not take it upon him to confess his wife's faults or the wife her husband's. The evil is always increased when either the wife or the husband, finding someone who appears to be a congenial spirit, ventures to whisper to this trusted one the secrets of the married life. The very act of making known the secret confirms the existence of a condition of things that would not be at all necessary if the husband and wife loved God supremely.

You, my friend, are a very wise woman and I respect your train of thought. God bless you and your husband. Thank you

[ManCharsey 254]

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/worldviews/wp/2012/12/14/schoo-shooting-how-do-u-s-gun-homicides-compare-with-the-rest-of-the-world/

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Good article. Your 'article' indicated homicide rate and NOT general gun violence rates. 1000 people could be shot in the US and 50 people shot in Brazil. If 5 people die in the US and 30 die in Brazil, by the map and statistics indicated on the site, Brazil is rated higher than the US. This again does not prove any point or disprove the fact that the US has the highest gun violence issues relative to any country. Please get your facts right before trying to counter arguments. it is very important. Thank you!

[Boiler 46,147]

Ohhh dear.........

[JoBri 548]

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh, no lectures!!

To the OP, I am so sorry for the brokeness you suffered. You are courageous though. And broken hearts are so hard to mend, but they do mend in time.

As sorry I am for you regarding your situation and happy that you took measures to ensure he longer hurts you, I would want you to take the time to learn about the fallacy of hasty generalization in philosophy. To generalize that all Nigerian men because you met a bad one or a couple of your friends met bad ones is a very big error which you shouldn't ever repeat again. It is like someone outside the US saying all american women are disrespectful and obnoxious because they met a few who fit in that category or the media creates that stereotype in the eyes of people through movies etc, but we here know that is so far from the truth.

A lot of African men are rather good and caring people and have a deep sense of family. They might have different cultures and how they relate to/with people might be different but I know a whole LOT of them and have spent a lot of time in all the continents (except Australia) in the world because of the nature of my work and I can tell you there are good and bad men everywhere. What would you say then to the men who beat up their girlfriends and wives everyday here in the US. A typical case is Jennifer Hudson's (Yes the RnB artist) mother and sister's case (Google it up if you don't know about it already), would that mean that all American men are violent and killers?? NO! So before you start stereotyping wrongly and making very false hasty generalizations, perhaps take the time to research more about cultures of the world.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Singling out a specific group of people, country and Nationality to stereotype with generalizations is small minded and against TOS. Period.

[Laspoxaroumeni 68]

Im so sorry for what happend to u but u cant talk about all Nigerian persons! He was a bad one. It doesn't have to do with his country or his color,

Your post is racist for me,

Some black men in all the continents kill ppl and sell drugs, Some other black men have a great career a perfect family and morals.

Some white men in all the continents kill ppl and sell drugs. Some other white men have a great career a perfect family and morals.

It doesn't have to do where u live,in which country,in which continent.....it doesnt matter the skin color,

Out there are bad persons.., but good persons too.

And whatever problem u have with him just think that u have a son with that person, And no matter what a son will always needs a dad! wish u the best

Edited April 7, 2014 by Laspoxaroumeni

[Laspoxaroumeni 68]

ManCharsey...I agree with everything that you have posted {just wanted to chime in}. I was married to an American man and guess what?!?!? He was abusive....

I think it is very wrong to stereotype a certain group of people as well. Not trying to down play the OP, but there is always three sides to any story. Yours, mine, and the truth. Now, I am married to a Kenyan and he is the most sweetest, nicest, humblest man in the world far different from my American man. What is the difference?!?! Sorry to throw this in there but I must. God.....I allowed God to choose my husband {new}. I did not go around looking to be remarried. I waited and prayed daily that I could keep my eyes on Him and if he saw fit to bless me with another husband then he would do the choosing and I would follow. I can say that it was the best thing that I could have done. I wrote a list of Godly things that I wanted and gave it to God and he answered them and some. So its important to put Him first and just wait, not just get up and run ahead of Him because it sounds good. Also in closing it is important to study this individual carefully before making that commitment and if possible spend time with him in his country {if possible}, before putting it on paper because once its on paper you are to make it work without putting yourself in harms way of course. Here is a words of council "Let the husband and wife talk things over together. Renew the early attentions to each other, acknowledge your faults to each other, but in this work be very careful that the husband does not take it upon him to confess his wife's faults or the wife her husband's. The evil is always increased when either the wife or the husband, finding someone who appears to be a congenial spirit, ventures to whisper to this trusted one the secrets of the married life. The very act of making known the secret confirms the existence of a condition of things that would not be at all necessary if the husband and wife loved God supremely."

U sounds like my mother in law!!! Both u have wise words for us and must listen careful!!! God bless u and ur family!

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

There's a lot of stereotyping in this thread and it's not really sensible or called for at all.

A Frenchman scratched my car once in Normandie so clearly all French people are vandals and should not be trusted near other peoples property

P.S I do admit that the French should not be allowed to make cars after owning several dodgy Renaults and Peugeots

[His and Hers 1]

I do agree with you N-o-l-a, judging people collectively is not a good idea, I presently live in a country in Asia,where they hate Nigerians with a passion and they lie against them, I work with some of these Asians as colleagues but there are quite a number of nice and friendly ones amongst them, also, there are lot of bad bad people everywhere, that does not have any significance with where they come from or culture, people should be judged individually, am so sorry to hear you chose the bad Nigerian man.