visa on hand! but USC husband doesnt want us to leave!

[uscparent 4]

Come if you must since you can legally, however, make sure you are prepared to face all the consequences like what if it doesn't work out with your husband after all or the possibility that you might not be able to take your son back to PI should you decide to go back because without the father's consent, the child may not travel with you alone. Are you willing to take that risk?

[AnotherLostSoul 167]

I am not trying to be judgmental but i have to agree with this poster. To me, personally, it seems the OP is way more over focused on going to the US then actually her whole marriage and family unity. The fact that her baby has autism does not fly in my world. Finances are insanely expensive in the US first of all, let alone a kid who has autism...and top of that, how can the OP expect the kid to function well and accept well his dad later on, and maybe even his relatives if he'll be all isolated off just because his mommy wanted to move to the US at all cost? I am sorry if I sound harsh, but the OP needs to accept that her husbands wants to stay in the Philippines and might as well have a great family there. Just sounds odd how the OP is like "I have my own money, and friends in the US" sort of like "hell with him! I want to go so bad, and he wants to stay behind screw that, I'm ready to leave". These kind of statements make it all sound visa fraud all over it, forward and backwards. If this is not the case, I truly apologize, but somehow the stories and short reasonings that came up from the OP doesn't seem to indicate she is too inclined to a family unity, but more of focusing busily on how she can make it to the US with her kid. Again, I APOLOGIZE if this is not the case! But that just how it sounds (to me).

Wish you all the best, whatever you decide to do...

Very interesting... Hmmmmm. Thx for posting this. Shed's a whole new light on things to say the least.

Sorry, gotta be honest, something isn't adding up with this whole story (er, rather, stories) Honestly, if your husband is not wanting you to come here, I don't care what the reason is, why in the world would you come or try and figure out a way to come on your own in the manner that you are?! I would be absolutely devastated that he didn't want me to come and by far the very last thing on my mind would be who else I could move in with in his country once visa is in my hand. It'd be one thing if you said that you were wanting to still tell him you were coming and would be at his front door to figure things out, but that is by far NOT what you are saying. In fact, it's the opposite. The whole purpose of getting the visa is to BE TOGETHER, not taking your own money and moving in with friends/family that you conveniently have already (seemingly) plotted with. Wrong. Wrong on soooooooo many levels and devious. Apparently he has a very valid point when he states, according to your previous post, that "he couldn't trust you anymore."

I am usually a very positive person and poster when it comes to this entire process. But this thread seems to shed light on the ugly underbelly of immigration and those with ulterior motives. Sad. I hope things work out for you both. By the sounds of it he would rather move to your home. Why not try that route first? Have you told him you'd like him to move to you for a while instead to repair your relationship first? Seriously.... you seem way too focused on "Getting to the US" and not about your relationship. Unless I'm missing something here.... then please, let me know.

Wishing you the best of luck with everything and hoping that maybe since we are not seeing the whole picture, nor know all the facts, that things aren't really what they seem at the moment by reading your posts.... hoping.

[mas85 0]

Well i just said that to know what happens if i have money and friends to stay in US but doesnt mean im really doing it. Maybe i said it out of frustration because of my husband's changing mind everytime we have argunents. I don't want a brokenfamily and i want to save our marriage as much as possible.

[raven52 233]

Well, my wife came on a K-1,.(was delayed almost 3 months "sputum fiasco, St. Lukes 'fixed, corrupt' "", but I was in the Phillipines when she finally got her visa, and God knows we were so happy! After such a long process, how can this man not be a proud husband, and father, and not welcome this loving wife and child? Sounds "fishy" to me.,,..,except for the "condo" thing.,.,,that confuses me!

Does anyone else see a bigger percentage of Philippines problems coming to the web site,..,.as being a husband of my filipino wife, I could not be happier, nor more proud.,.,.,some of the best wives in the world come from the Phils..,,..but I see an alarming trend of problem cases.,.,..,on this.,the premier web site for immigration, talks, problems, and "the right answers!"

[LmmL 46]

I will not come to US if my husband doesn't want me and my toddler! If my husband wants to live with me in Philippines i will support his decision because i want to live together with him anywhere as long as he is with me. I still could use skype or facetime to talk to his family and see them on the video and to get to know them even though i never met them in real life. I also believe that one day they could visit us to Philippines or me and husband and our kid could visit them in US in the next few years.

[kzielu 1,149]

Belinda63: thanks for the advise. I was just asking about the possibilities but i really don't intent to come to US if its against my husband's will. I really wanted us together as a family. I understand he wants to live here with us in the philippines cos he likes to come here back and forth. I just want us to be fair and give me the right as a wife.

Ask him when he's coming to live with you then and why not now...

To answer your other questions - there's absolutely nothing free about healthcare in US, quite the opposite - probably one of the most expensive in US. And you may not be able to go back with your child once you land in US.

[belinda63 3,038]

And what will she do when it comes time to remove conditions? Or if someone reports her for misusing the visa? How will she prove she came to the US to live with her spouse (which is the purpose of the visa).

As to all the issues ignoring whether she lives with her spouse or not. She will come here with no support system other than a few friends. She will have to find a job. She will have to purchase her own health insurance as she cannot get Medicaid. She will not qualify for food stamps or any public assistance. If she files for benefits for the child who is a USC this will open up problems since they will want either the father's income also or they will pursue him for child support (not sure how it would work since they are legally married but separated). And if she decides to return to the Philippines she may do so sans child.

Most people don't understand how difficult life in the US can be. Finding a job that pays enough to survive with two people is difficult. The cost of housing (depending where you live) for a one bedroom place can be from $400-$1000 per month. When you add in utilities and food you are looking at $700-$1500 a month just to live. Transportation could be an issue as not every place has public transportation.

[pushbrk 12,883]

Folks, she has an IR1 visa, so she'll have a ten year green card and will NOT remove conditions. Surely, she has enough opinions and advice, to make her own decision for her own reasons. She's married, with an autistic child who is a US Citizen, and would like to save her marriage to that child's father. Which of you would like to save YOUR marriage from across and ocean?

[Mr.&Mrs.EMB 55]

Folks, she has an IR1 visa, so she'll have a ten year green card and will NOT remove conditions. Surely, she has enough opinions and advice, to make her own decision for her own reasons. She's married, with an autistic child who is a US Citizen, and would like to save her marriage to that child's father. Which of you would like to save YOUR marriage from across and ocean?

Well said.

[Novembro 1,763]

Folks, she has an IR1 visa, so she'll have a ten year green card and will NOT remove conditions. Surely, she has enough opinions and advice, to make her own decision for her own reasons. She's married, with an autistic child who is a US Citizen, and would like to save her marriage to that child's father. Which of you would like to save YOUR marriage from across and ocean?

Thread should be locked with this post.

[mas85 0]

On my passport it says: "IV category: IR1" "UPON EDORSEMENT SERVES AS TEMPORARY I-551 EVIDENCING PERMANENT RESIDENCE FOR 1 YEAR"

[mas85 0]

What does it mean?

[pushbrk 12,883]

What does it mean?

It means that when you arrive in the USA, they will put a stamp in your passport near or perhaps touching your visa. That stamp serves as a temporary green card until the real one comes in the mail in about a month or two. Your green card will be valid for 10 years, with IR1 status. The status does not expire if you maintain US residence, but the card must be renewed every ten years until or unless you become a US Citizen. You can apply for citizenship anytime after being a resident for three years.

You can disregard any previous posts about removing conditions. There would be no conditions to remove, when you have an IR1 visa.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

She can't apply for citizenship after 3 years if she is not with her husband.

She can be turned away at the border because she is not coming to live with her husband.

[pushbrk 12,883]

To clarify, that's correct if she is no longer married to the petitioner. Then, it would be five years.

The keyword is married, not "with". There is no requirement to be "together".