visa on hand! but USC husband doesnt want us to leave!

[mas85 0]

Finally I just received my IR visa last saturday! I am really excited for me and our toddler to go to US and live with my USC Husband. We should leave by july because visa will expire on july13 2014 but because me and my husband have so many marital issues and we've been arguing alot he decided not to buy us ticket to go to US because he reasons that he has no money but i dont believe him cos if he really wants to take us to his country he would do everything to make it happen. My question is..if already have money to pay for the ticket can i and our toddler son

Still go to US even if my husband doesnt want? I already have visa and our son have his US passport.?

[belinda63 3,038]

Where will you live? How will you make money? What will you do when you land in the US?

Better to work on your marital problems than hop on a plane to the US with a toddler and nowhere to go and no money to eat.

[Caryh 5,206]

If you have an IR-1 visa, yes you can go to the USA without your husband. You will face the questions Belinda pointed out though And one has got to ask why would you want to?

If you have a CR-1 visa, I think you'd run into serious problems when it came time to remove conditions, as it would greatly appear you got the visa not to be with your spouse but to get around the other immigration laws.

[mas85 0]

Thanks for the advise. I actually have my own savings and assets even before we got married and i have friends there too. My thinking is maybe if we land in the US without his help he would somehow change his mind.

[dens 5]

Whats up with him,supposed to be he should be excited that You come over to join with him but it seems like he is not. He must think of it how far had you been goin through with all the process. So many are they get not lucky at time of final round so Be it. You need to confront him again beside any other reason,

Like we did after we received the packet 2 days after we fly out right away has no any reason in myself to have them taking so long to go with me whenever takes to be we can find a way. I'm so lucky that i have friend who are willing to loan me some$ cost a hundred thousand pesos in php currency but nevertheless its worth it no matter how big or expensive it is. Nothing could be replace to it when it comes to your family matters.. i know someone who can understand ..

[Caryh 5,206]

Thanks for the advise. I actually have my own savings and assets even before we got married and i have friends there too. My thinking is maybe if we land in the US without his help he would somehow change his mind.

I just realized he's actually still in the USA, so it makes a bit more sense to me. Living in the USA is very expensive, so it might be he is having a hard time coming up with the funds to buy the tickets. The entire visa process can be very hard on relationships to. If he's doubting the relationship, the claim of not being able to afford the ticket might just be an excuse because he's worried he made a mistake. One could put a ton of reasons why this happening now, and likely be wrong on most of them.

I'm not sure if just showing up is the greatest idea, maybe if you said you've got the money for the tickets his mind would change? I don't know, just thinking out loud with that comment, but I'd be concerned his reaction is not going to be that good if you just show up in the USA and move in with friends. If he's doubting now, that might just confirm in his mind it was all about getting to America and not a real marriage.

Good luck getting your marriage back on track.

[Ed and Gina 45]

He's had plenty of time to save up the money. But, since you have your own finances and friends in the US, you shouldn't have a problem making the trip. However, as others have indicated, you'll have an issue when it comes time to adjust status if you and your husband can't work things out. Sorry to hear that you're having a rough go of it.

The very long time that it took for you to get your visa may have played a role in what's happening between you. The long and drawn out process is frustrating. Hopefully, as you said, he has a change of heart and mind.

Best of luck to you and yours!

[Ed and Gina 45]

He's had plenty of time to save up the money. But, since you have your own finances and friends in the US, you shouldn't have a problem making the trip. However, as others have indicated, you'll have an issue when it comes time to adjust status if you and your husband can't work things out. Sorry to hear that you're having a rough go of it.

The very long time that it took for you to get your visa may have played a role in what's happening between you. The long and drawn out process is frustrating. Hopefully, as you said, he has a change of heart and mind.

Best of luck to you and yours!

[Caryh 5,206]

Whats up with him,supposed to be he should be excited that You come over to join with him but it seems like he is not. He must think of it how far had you been goin through with all the process. So many are they get not lucky at time of final round so Be it. You need to confront him again beside any other reason,

That's what surprises me to. When my wife got her visa, I couldn't wait for her to arrive I was so excited. Either he is really hurting on the money side, or something has really gone sour in their relationship from his point of view.

[Caryh 5,206]

He's had plenty of time to save up the money. But, since you have your own finances and friends in the US, you shouldn't have a problem making the trip. However, as others have indicated, you'll have an issue when it comes time to adjust status if you and your husband can't work things out. Sorry to hear that you're having a rough go of it.

The very long time that it took for you to get your visa may have played a role in what's happening between you. The long and drawn out process is frustrating. Hopefully, as you said, he has a change of heart and mind.

Best of luck to you and yours!

She stated IR-1 visa, so there is no Adjusting Status or even Removing Conditions as long as its really not a CR-1 visa. She'd get a 10 year green card on arrival.

[dens 5]

Yes right Pr will get it very soon..

[dwheels76 5,468]

WOW so we are advocating that the VISA is the golden ticket and whether the US citizen wants you or not come on over because well it’s okay really.

Do we even know the whole story? Sorry to play devil’s advocate here. But I have issue with someone saying “I have my own money and I have friends in US”. So what bump the US citizen who is on the hook for your butt. Seems you already have your plan laid out and could careless whether he “comes around” or not. Really?

If this was a K1 person and they said he or she broke up with me but I am coming (It was posted here 2 weeks ago). She was jumped on with all 4’s . How dare she come here when she wasn’t wanted. Why would she come if she wasn’t wanted. Yet here you go promoting someone come here, live where they want, do what they want.

I thought it was a spousal Visa. Meaning you are coming to live with the spouse.

A visa should be the LAST thing you should be focused on. Your marriage should be first and foremost. Damn the Visa. Good grief.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

OP's previous post.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/475973-usc-husband-changes-his-mind/

Looks like they have not worked things out since the last post.

Edited March 31, 2014 by Merrytooth

[Tahoma 2,292]

Finally I just received my IR visa last saturday!

My question is..if already have money to pay for the ticket can i and our toddler son

Still go to US even if my husband doesnt want?

I already have visa and our son have his US passport.?

Yes, you and your son can go to the U.S. Your son can stay in the U.S. because he is a U.S. citizen. You can stay in the U.S. because you have an IR-1 visa and will be issued a 10-year (permanent) green card.

If you are not going to live with your husband, you will want to notify the USCIS about your change of address.

[mas85 0]

It is actually hurting me that my husband doesnt want to take me now to US. He says he loves our family but he prefers to live in the philippines cos its much cheaper. We have a condo unit that will be finished soon this year and he's excited more excited to move in there with us than going to US. I just want him to take us to his country so i can meet his family so they can also meet their grandchild. I love my husband so much but sometimes i feel he is testing me cos i have been obeying and doing what he likes. He visits us here 3 to 4 times a year.

It is actually hurting me that my husband doesnt want to take me now to US. He says he loves our family but he prefers to live in the philippines cos its much cheaper. We have a condo unit that will be finished soon this year and he's excited more excited to move in there with us than going to US. I just want him to take us to his country so i can meet his family so they can also meet their grandchild. I love my husband so much but sometimes i feel he is testing me cos i have been obeying and doing what he likes. He visits us here 3 to 4 times a year.