Issues you may need to discuss with your MENA SO

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Or was the topic of this thread 'I am more palestinian than you'. ? If that was the purpose, then I apoligize for hijacking it with trivial issues.

That wasn't it, and neither was it what you all are discussing, but there's no doubt that substantive issues are not the forte of this board, nor is staying on topic, so be it.

Carry on.

Edited January 9, 2007 by Green-eyed girl

[~Jackie~ 30]

Then what was it? I'm confused. What issues did the OP intend on discussing?

carry on. (is that like 'permission' to continue?) gee thanks.

Jackie

[brnidokiegurl 0]

When Ahmed comes he will automatically go under my health and dental so i already know will be hitting the dentist. He also shows signs of not being to (friendly) with the pets. According to him i think when he was younger he and a dog didnt agree! anyway my cat died but still have two small dogs, he knows this, and i have tried to reassure him they are very friendly. Glad some issues are finally surfacing.

[ceriserose 1]

point is, the outrageousness of some bills can shock your ME/NA SO.

Oh, believe me, it's not just the ME/NA immigrants that are shocked by the medical bills here. This Canadian was pretty blown away by some of the costs. !!! ZOWIE!

[ya falaha! 0]

I've been talking to Mohamed lately about getting to the dentist. I explained that dental work is extremely expensive here. He promised he will get to the dentist and get any dental work he may need done prior to coming here. I also told him to get another check up with the doctor. I can get him on my medical, dental and optical plan at work but not until open enrollment in October.

Another thing that MENA men (in general) are big on is "checking in". Even though Mohamed is in Egypt he still wants me to let him know when special occasions (things other than visiting family and friends or shopping..normal stuff) are coming up. Like my concert plans for next month. He expected me to talk to him about it prior to buying the tickets. My ex was like that and so are many MENA men that I know. I know many American women have a problem with this as it seems controlling but I believe it is an issue that needs to be discussed with your MENA men.

Before Mohammed came to America, I suggested he see his eye doctor and dentist. He paid $50 there for a nice pair of glasses and exam. The same glasses here he saw at Sears and they would have been over $300 with exam. Same with dentists, it is much cheaper in the ME.

Jackie

Or was the topic of this thread 'I am more palestinian than you'. ? If that was the purpose, then I apoligize for hijacking it with trivial issues.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

He has said many times how we will discuss everything, hopeing i can always remember to do this and not just take off and take care of whatever.

[ya falaha! 0]

That's an issue with us. I'm so used to taking care of business for myself that I don't think of him before I do things. That has caused a few arguments.

[Together4ever 1]

Here's an interesting one... the lovely American custom of "standing in line and waiting your turn" everywhere you go. Not necessarily a customary thing in Egypt.

[doodlebug 3]

I've been talking to Mohamed lately about getting to the dentist. I explained that dental work is extremely expensive here. He promised he will get to the dentist and get any dental work he may need done prior to coming here. I also told him to get another check up with the doctor. I can get him on my medical, dental and optical plan at work but not until open enrollment in October.

Another thing that MENA men (in general) are big on is "checking in". Even though Mohamed is in Egypt he still wants me to let him know when special occasions (things other than visiting family and friends or shopping..normal stuff) are coming up. Like my concert plans for next month. He expected me to talk to him about it prior to buying the tickets. My ex was like that and so are many MENA men that I know. I know many American women have a problem with this as it seems controlling but I believe it is an issue that needs to be discussed with your MENA men.

Before Mohammed came to America, I suggested he see his eye doctor and dentist. He paid $50 there for a nice pair of glasses and exam. The same glasses here he saw at Sears and they would have been over $300 with exam. Same with dentists, it is much cheaper in the ME.

Jackie

Or was the topic of this thread 'I am more palestinian than you'. ? If that was the purpose, then I apoligize for hijacking it with trivial issues.

normally you can add him as a "change of status" and not have to wait for open enrollment. I'd double check with your HR on that.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

I think the prices also, wont be like he can stand there and argue down the price and i was thinking how about the all you can eat places. I'm not sure how avail they are over there now, I know i only saw that one in the hotel in Casa besides being all new foods for him.

[jordanianprincess 0]

Then what was it? I'm confused. What issues did the OP intend on discussing?

carry on. (is that like 'permission' to continue?) gee thanks.

Jackie

Cultural Issues

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Issues of dress:

Will he expect you to dress a certain way, ie usually more conservative than you might be used to.

Likewise, will he listen when you have advise, ie his jeans are way too tights.

[sarah and hicham 3]

Issues of dress:

Will he expect you to dress a certain way, ie usually more conservative than you might be used to.

Likewise, will he listen when you have advise, ie his jeans are way too tights.

haha I hope most men aren't wearing jeans that are too tight! That made me laugh.

Hicham never tried to change the things I wear or advise me against wearing something. I don't dress in provocative clothing and am a jeans/sweats/shirt/sweater/sweatshirt girl oh and don't forget the Uggs.

[LaL 418]

I've been talking to Mohamed lately about getting to the dentist. I explained that dental work is extremely expensive here. He promised he will get to the dentist and get any dental work he may need done prior to coming here. I also told him to get another check up with the doctor. I can get him on my medical, dental and optical plan at work but not until open enrollment in October.

Another thing that MENA men (in general) are big on is "checking in". Even though Mohamed is in Egypt he still wants me to let him know when special occasions (things other than visiting family and friends or shopping..normal stuff) are coming up. Like my concert plans for next month. He expected me to talk to him about it prior to buying the tickets. My ex was like that and so are many MENA men that I know. I know many American women have a problem with this as it seems controlling but I believe it is an issue that needs to be discussed with your MENA men.

Before Mohammed came to America, I suggested he see his eye doctor and dentist. He paid $50 there for a nice pair of glasses and exam. The same glasses here he saw at Sears and they would have been over $300 with exam. Same with dentists, it is much cheaper in the ME.

Jackie

Or was the topic of this thread 'I am more palestinian than you'. ? If that was the purpose, then I apoligize for hijacking it with trivial issues.

normally you can add him as a "change of status" and not have to wait for open enrollment. I'd double check with your HR on that.

some people have had difficulty adding a spouse to insurance once they move to the US if they are already married. In other words, you have been married for some time, and the spouse moving to the US is not a "qualifying event".

Absolutely rediculous, but better to question this if you have married overseas if they will give you grief later on.

[Ban Hammer 13,349]

normally you can add him as a "change of status" and not have to wait for open enrollment. I'd double check with your HR on that.

good point - i jumped that hurdle already.