Words of Encouragement...

[Emily and Nathan 39]

Just wanted to say that as someone going through this immigration struggle.. as many of you are.. and although I haven't been waiting nearly as long as a lot of you have. I really feel for every single one of you.

Being away from the person you want to be with most is so difficult.

If you need some words of encouragement.. feel free to post in here.

The best is yet to come for all of you

[Marco&Bettina 502]

Just wanted to say that as someone going through this immigration struggle.. as many of you are.. and although I haven't been waiting nearly as long as a lot of you have. I really feel for every single one of you.

Being away from the person you want to be with most is so difficult.

If you need some words of encouragement.. feel free to post in here.

The best is yet to come for all of you

However, you have been waiting longer than some I've seen on here. You're only about 3 weeks away from 5 months & if you don't hear something by then, I'm sure you'll be calling in for a Service Request or Infopass.

Edit: My math is off. You're about 7 weeks away.

Edited March 27, 2014 by Marco&Bettina

[sweet cakes 326]

The K1 process only strengthened my relationship with my then fiance and now husband. We didn't have a perfect relationship and being away from each other didn't help. Patience is truly a virtue in this journey and understanding each other's nature took time.

I am very happy and thankful we are over that stage and now, living a happy married life here. Cheers and wishing everybody all the best! Let me assure you that all those waiting is definitely worth it!

[Emily and Nathan 39]

Thanks M&B- I had to double check to.. I had a moment of thinking maybe my math was wrong... either way- I'm not in horrible circumstances since my fiance is only 50 minutes away.. I'm friends with most of the people at the border because I cross so much- I go every week once or twice.. So at least I get to see him.. I know a lot of people are much worse off than me.... What sucks for me is being at a job I despise in the mean time.. But you are right- USCIS better prepare for my wrath if I reach 5 months

However, you have been waiting longer than some I've seen on here. You're only about 3 weeks away from 5 months & if you don't hear something by then, I'm sure you'll be calling in for a Service Request or Infopass.

Edit: My math is off. You're about 7 weeks away.

I think it is doing the same for us... Nathan is much better at rolling with the punches than me.. so I'm trying to get better at that versus crying everytime I have to leave there lol like a big puss puss.

Congrats on your next chapter.. sounds like you are very happy.. best of luck!

The K1 process only strengthened my relationship with my then fiance and now husband. We didn't have a perfect relationship and being away from each other didn't help. Patience is truly a virtue in this journey and understanding each other's nature took time.

I am very happy and thankful we are over that stage and now, living a happy married life here. Cheers and wishing everybody all the best! Let me assure you that all those waiting is definitely worth it!

[Marco&Bettina 502]

The K1 process only strengthened my relationship with my then fiance and now husband. We didn't have a perfect relationship and being away from each other didn't help. Patience is truly a virtue in this journey and understanding each other's nature took time.

I am very happy and thankful we are over that stage and now, living a happy married life here. Cheers and wishing everybody all the best! Let me assure you that all those waiting is definitely worth it!

I tell my Fiancee very frequently that this time apart is actually making me want a life with her even more. Not to mention the fact that we both have things we have to situate before we'll be ready. This is just allowing us time to do that. I know I'm only barely into the process but I am finding that it's easier to pass time if you stay busy, set goals & stay focused on them, have hobbies, don't spend all day obsessing over the process, and drink some alcohol occasionally.

[sweet cakes 326]

Thanks M&B- I had to double check to.. I had a moment of thinking maybe my math was wrong... either way- I'm not in horrible circumstances since my fiance is only 50 minutes away.. I'm friends with most of the people at the border because I cross so much- I go every week once or twice.. So at least I get to see him.. I know a lot of people are much worse off than me.... What sucks for me is being at a job I despise in the mean time.. But you are right- USCIS better prepare for my wrath if I reach 5 months

I think it is doing the same for us... Nathan is much better at rolling with the punches than me.. so I'm trying to get better at that versus crying everytime I have to leave there lol like a big puss puss.

Congrats on your next chapter.. sounds like you are very happy.. best of luck!

I tell my Fiancee very frequently that this time apart is actually making me want a life with her even more. Not to mention the fact that we both have things we have to situate before we'll be ready. This is just allowing us time to do that. I know I'm only barely into the process but I am finding that it's easier to pass time if you stay busy, set goals & stay focused on them, have hobbies, don't spend all day obsessing over the process, and drink some alcohol occasionally.

As it should! This journey should be taken positively and not as a struggle. Each hurdle is only but a test of how strong a relationship is. If one falls, we can only try harder on the next stumbling block. I was not as strong as I sound, but it does help to have a very supportive other half. I think I have matured as well in the process. The time away from each other must be taken as an opportunity to make sure everything will be as ideal as possible come the time that you guys reach that most coveted happily ever after!

Edited March 27, 2014 by sweet cakes

[rshree 16]

Just wanted to say that as someone going through this immigration struggle.. as many of you are.. and although I haven't been waiting nearly as long as a lot of you have. I really feel for every single one of you.

Being away from the person you want to be with most is so difficult.

If you need some words of encouragement.. feel free to post in here.

The best is yet to come for all of you

Thank you very much. We need all of those encouraging words.

We have been in this process since July 2013.... now in AP in Montreal since 2 weeks. When in AP, there is nothing much we can do but to patiently wait. We are at that phase where these kind of encouraging words keep us sane.

[Marco&Bettina 502]

As it should! This journey should be taken positively and not as a struggle. Each hurdle is only but a test of how strong a relationship is. If one falls, we can only try harder on the next stumbling block. I was not as strong as I sound, but it does help to have a very supportive other half. I think I have matured as well in the process. The time away from each other must be taken as an opportunity to make sure everything will be as ideal as possible come the time that you guys reach that most coveted happily ever after!

Exactly. The part in your statement that I bolded is the part that I focus on the most. Spend the time apart focusing on positive action instead of negative energy. It'll make you both happier & it will feel good. I also believe it'll make the transition to life together more smooth & prepared.

[Emily and Nathan 39]

Oh rshree- yes please keep your sanity!!! I will hope for the best for you.

Keep your chin up!

Thank you very much. We need all of those encouraging words.

We have been in this process since July 2013.... now in AP in Montreal since 2 weeks. When in AP, there is nothing much we can do but to patiently wait. We are at that phase where these kind of encouraging words keep us sane.

Lol- I actually did laugh out loud at this... So true.

I tell my Fiancee very frequently that this time apart is actually making me want a life with her even more. Not to mention the fact that we both have things we have to situate before we'll be ready. This is just allowing us time to do that. I know I'm only barely into the process but I am finding that it's easier to pass time if you stay busy, set goals & stay focused on them, have hobbies, don't spend all day obsessing over the process, and drink some alcohol occasionally.

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[gwenstar 66]

Being away from the person you want to be with most is so difficult.

If you need some words of encouragement.. feel free to post in here.

The best is yet to come for all of you

This is such a wonderful idea for a thread! This process is absolutely challenging and can be hard to appreciate the things we are learning while it's going on. It's really easy to get bogged down by the frustration. I know for me and my husband it has really made our relationship stronger and it's really amazing to know you can make a great team and get through some tough stuff together.

There are have been good days and bad days and totally hopeless days.... But I am finally getting close to the end. We just passed our 1 year since we started this process. We have been apart for almost two years. We have made it work and have gotten to have some really fun trips to see each other. Things we maybe wouldn't have done if we weren't in the middle of this.

The paperwork I can handle, it's the unknown and not being able to make plans. Also all the details like health insurance, importing the car, filing taxes, him getting a job when he is here, how will he adjust. And the questions from people - can't he just move here? When is he gonna get here? Haha.

One thing I try to remember when I get really discouraged is that there are people who have had a longer wait and more hardships than I have. It helps put it in perspective for me and help me not focus so much on how frustrated I am. I am very lucky to have such an amazing man in my life and by the time he gets here, I know I can appreciate it that much more

[HoussemAnna 20]

I have to agree this process is not for the faint of heart and those ready to give up easily. I have cried many nights out of frustration just because I have no control over my life and what to expect. I felt lost at times because no one understood my pain. I havent had much of a support except in visa journey. I am so happy today my I130 was approved today and I can smile and laugh without worry creeping in my thoughts. Today I am celebrating!!! I hope soon to be with my husband finally since a year and almost four months now being apart.... I hope we have this process completed before the two year mark. I hope everyone finds their reasons to celebrate throughout this process.

[Ortolan 381]

I have to agree this process is not for the faint of heart and those ready to give up easily. I have cried many nights out of frustration just because I have no control over my life and what to expect. I felt lost at times because no one understood my pain. I havent had much of a support except in visa journey. I am so happy today my I130 was approved today and I can smile and laugh without worry creeping in my thoughts. Today I am celebrating!!! I hope soon to be with my husband finally since a year and almost four months now being apart.... I hope we have this process completed before the two year mark. I hope everyone finds their reasons to celebrate throughout this process.

Yep. It's really been hard over this year to explain to our family and friends why the heck it's taking so long (because even we can't fathom this). They've asked some funny questions: "Why won't his country let him out?" (like he's in prison or something! LOL) and "Why won't the U.S. let you in?" and "Why don't you just pay them extra for express service?" (I laughed out loud at that one!)

I've explained so many times I'm sick of talking about it when I get together with friends. And midway through, over and over having someone ask all perky-like: "Well...any news?" made me want to just tear my hair.

Unless you're going through the process, it's hard to explain to people who aren't going through it too. But hang in there, because it WILL get done, and one day you'll be with your sweeties and all will be fine.

[2018JourneyDone 77]

"I've explained so many times I'm sick of talking about it when I get together with friends. And midway through, over and over having someone ask all perky-like: "Well...any news?" made me want to just tear my hair." <<<---- TOTALLY!! Ha ha haaa!

My fiance and I have known each other since 2010 and started this journey in July of 2013. The longest part for us was AFTER receiving our NOA2...52-days for NOA2, 188-days from NOA2 to approval. Grrrr. We were in AP for 71-days after our interview and were finally approved yesterday! Whew! Even through the not-knowing and how the black-hole of AP gnawed at us daily, we knew this journey wouldn't be easy but vowed to each other that our commitment to each other would carry us through without question. And it has. Not once did we want to throw in the towel and walk away. Not once did we argue and yell at each other. We have talked every single day since we've met without fail. We are closer than ever (even though we are countries away, for now) and know without a doubt we are here for each other for the long haul. We speak openly about our feelings every step of the way. After our approval, we both were talking about how happy but NERVOUS we are because it's actually happening, like for real, no "waiting for approval". I describe it as a delicious nervousness, we know our lives will change and soon now. He is traveling far from all he has known, family, country, etc. to start a new life here with his daughter and I. We expect a period of adjusting into our new schedules and life and honestly welcome every last bit of it with open arms. No government, no red tape, no borders will keep us apart.

This site has been such a blessing and will continue to be one. The comfort of knowing we are/were not alone in the struggle is indescribable. The highs and lows are tremendous but it is worth every single last minute of this to know, soon, we conquered it and will be together.

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[Dreamers 0]

sniffles i haven't seen my husband in person for 443 days and its so hard to live the life without him.