new to VJ i have a couple of questions Thanks!

[Azn30 0]

Hi,

I am trying to petition my wife thru k1 process and had a few concerns. I met my fiance online and already went back once to meet her and everything turned out very well but have a few concerns.

-i dont speak vietnamese but she knows a little english and we use translator sometimes chatting online is okay. Will the CO look at this?

-She has a sister living in the US but I have never met her until out first meeting in vietnam, she happen to come back to visit the family as well.

I plan to make one more trip to propose to her then have an engagement party towards the end of this year.

Please advise if any the above will throw up red flags as this is my first time doing this.

Thanks!

[Avery Cates 1,141]

Since you've only met once, I always recommend that this kind of thing doesn't get rushed. You should really spend more time together before trying to go through with this process.

Worst case, and one we've seen happen more than once... you file everything, it's approved, she gets here and the minute the green card is in her hand, she's living with the sister and she's filed VAWA charges.

[Pete82 5]

-i dont speak vietnamese but she knows a little english and we use translator sometimes chatting online is okay. Will the CO look at this?

*This might be a red flag. At my finance interview they ask her how we communicate. English via chat, and Vietnamese on the phone so no issue for us. I think you will need to have an attack plan on this area. Proof with chat session with English strings. How bad is the communication over the phone?

-She has a sister living in the US but I have never met her until out first meeting in vietnam, she happen to come back to visit the family as well.

*This is another potential red flag. They might ask if she has any relatives in the US. Does her sister live in the same state and city that you live in? If yes could be a little hard in my opinion

I plan to make one more trip to propose to her then have an engagement party towards the end of this year.

* umm.. when are you filing the I-129f paperwork? I recommend that you submit it after you have your engagement party and not before. Take lots of pictures, keep the engagement ring receipt and GIA paperwork. Take pictures with her family, friends, etc. Keep all receipts of the engagement party as much as possible. Keep your hotel receipt. Is she going to stay with you in the hotel? If Yes then put both your names on it for proof of relationship.

These are just my opinion. Maybe others can chime in.

Please advise if any the above will throw up red flags as this is my first time doing this

[Pete82 5]

Since you've only met once, I always recommend that this kind of thing doesn't get rushed. You should really spend more time together before trying to go through with this process.

Worst case, and one we've seen happen more than once... you file everything, it's approved, she gets here and the minute the green card is in her hand, she's living with the sister and she's filed VAWA charges.

I agree with this comment. Spend more time with her. I see some red flags for this case but not impossible. But the most important thing is to protect you. Make sure her feelings for you is real and that takes time.

There are a lot of vn girls that will take advantage of you just to get the green card and the families on in it too. Just take your time to get to know each other. visit her a few more times. If she really loves you then she wouldn't mind the wait. If she doesn't want to wait a little longer for you 2 to get to know each other then you know what is up with intentions.

Have her take English classes so she can improve her communication with you. Take Vietnamese class so you can improve you communication with her.

Good luck with everything

Edited March 23, 2014 by Pete82

[Azn30 0]

-i dont speak vietnamese but she knows a little english and we use translator sometimes chatting online is okay. Will the CO look at this?

*This might be a red flag. At my finance interview they ask her how we communicate. English via chat, and Vietnamese on the phone so no issue for us. I think you will need to have an attack plan on this area. Proof with chat session with English strings. How bad is the communication over the phone?

-She has a sister living in the US but I have never met her until out first meeting in vietnam, she happen to come back to visit the family as well.

*This is another potential red flag. They might ask if she has any relatives in the US. Does her sister live in the same state and city that you live in? If yes could be a little hard in my opinion

I plan to make one more trip to propose to her then have an engagement party towards the end of this year.

* umm.. when are you filing the I-129f paperwork? I recommend that you submit it after you have your engagement party and not before. Take lots of pictures, keep the engagement ring receipt and GIA paperwork. Take pictures with her family, friends, etc. Keep all receipts of the engagement party as much as possible. Keep your hotel receipt. Is she going to stay with you in the hotel? If Yes then put both your names on it for proof of relationship.

These are just my opinion. Maybe others can chime in.

Please advise if any the above will throw up red flags as this is my first time doing this

-Her english is limited but not to the point we cant understand eachother, so it works out better when we skype becuase if she doesnt understand i can type out the phrase and then she can understand, its becuase sometimes i talk to fast and she cant understand. She is improving alot since the begining we were using translator almost all the time but now our conversation is all english so I think its progress!

-Her sister lives on the east coast and im on the west coast. Why would this be a red flag? would it be that her sister is introducing me to her sister in vn? that would make a red flag?

-OK I will start the paper work after the engagement party.

[ConGau1981 56]

-Her english is limited but not to the point we cant understand eachother, so it works out better when we skype becuase if she doesnt understand i can type out the phrase and then she can understand, its becuase sometimes i talk to fast and she cant understand. She is improving alot since the begining we were using translator almost all the time but now our conversation is all english so I think its progress!

-Her sister lives on the east coast and im on the west coast. Why would this be a red flag? would it be that her sister is introducing me to her sister in vn? that would make a red flag?

-OK I will start the paper work after the engagement party.

-Her sister lives on the east coast and im on the west coast. Why would this be a red flag? would it be that her sister is introducing m e to her sister in vn? that would make a red flag? Some CO may think that she is only marrying you in order to immigrate to the US to live with her sister....However it is not something you should worry about. There is nothing you can do to change it and it is almost a non-issue, it seems like lately most of the problems have been with not meeting the income restrictions.

[Azn30 0]

-Her sister lives on the east coast and im on the west coast. Why would this be a red flag? would it be that her sister is introducing m e to her sister in vn? that would make a red flag? Some CO may think that she is only marrying you in order to immigrate to the US to live with her sister....However it is not something you should worry about. There is nothing you can do to change it and it is almost a non-issue, it seems like lately most of the problems have been with not meeting the income restrictions.

thats good to hear..I dont think Ill have a problem making income requierment...

[luckytxn 2,264]

Save all chat logs. Take your time and get to now her better.

Hi,

I am trying to petition my wife thru k1 process and had a few concerns. I met my fiance online and already went back once to meet her and everything turned out very well but have a few concerns.

-i dont speak vietnamese but she knows a little english and we use translator sometimes chatting online is okay. Will the CO look at this?

-She has a sister living in the US but I have never met her until out first meeting in vietnam, she happen to come back to visit the family as well.

I plan to make one more trip to propose to her then have an engagement party towards the end of this year.

Please advise if any the above will throw up red flags as this is my first time doing this.

Thanks!

[Pete82 5]

Really? I'm totally SHOCKED hearing that! You just bursted my bubble! I always thought Vietnamese girls were the NICEST in the world. They're just in love with foreigners because Vietnamese men smoke too much and they're VERY abusive.

In Vietnam females get beaten up and the gov't won't do a thing about it, unless the females turn up dead.

BTW, why don't you wait a few more years and find out if your own (yes, the one who just moved to SD with you) is any good.

Co nam trong chan (men), thi moi biet chan co ran/rep hay khong (once laying inside a blanket, one would then be able to tell whether there's any bed bug in it)

1st let me apologize to you. It appears that you feel that my comment was very offensive to you even though I think otherwise.

I am not sure what your issue is and why you are being so defensive with my comment. I was trying to help the op out since he was planning to submit the paper work before the having the engagement. Like every country, there are bad and good people and sometime it is difficult to judge from a long distances away.

If you want to get personal, sure lets get personal. I met my fiancee entire family. I had my family do a background check on her. My dad, uncles and aunt and my fiancee meet quite a few times to get to know each other. I know most of her friends and I visit a lot of her distance relatives. Yes I only visited my fiancee twice but I stayed with her for almost 3 months and spend almost every single day with her entire family where they would cook for me and take care of me and even visit my grand mothers funeral which she past away in Dec. 2013. My fiancee doesn't have any relatives in the US. I provided her an option for me to live in VN to be with her while I would work at Intel in Vietnam. She already has a good life in VN, her family there and she had a good job however she didn't want me lower my status by going to VN because life is difficult for new comers. We decided that it was best that she came to the US knowing that she will be away from her family which is very hard. She will have to start from scratch and go to school. She is sacrificing a lot. There are many evidence that I have that shows me that her feelings is true to me and that she is not coming to the US just for a green card. For example, She knew that my mom would dis-own me for marrying her and she didn't want that. She cared about my relationship between my mom and I and she didn't want to ruin that relationship. We had to have a very long talk regarding that situation. Things like that showed me her true heart. She wants to come to the US to be married with me and start a family where our kids can grow up have a good education and life.

My comments to OP/poster was just trying to be helpful to help protect him as much as possible until he can gather the evidence that he needs to determine everything is ok with the relationship but it will be his decision to make. Everyone here on the forum can only give recommendations and opinions since he ask.

Now, is there any other comments that you want to use to attack me? Go ahead and attack me and continue to be sarcastic. Now if you want to have a decent conversation that I am also up for that. We don't have to agree with each others opinion but we sure can share it with one another in order to help.

Note #1 : In the future, if you disagree with a comment then simply state that you disagree and input justification to the disagreement. No need to attack other people.

Note #2 : I see your account was just created. Hmm.... Could you be the op fiancee? or could you be the op? or just some random person...... =T

Regards,

Peter

Edited March 26, 2014 by Pete82

[novedsac 355]

Since you've only met once, I always recommend that this kind of thing doesn't get rushed. You should really spend more time together before trying to go through with this process.

Worst case, and one we've seen happen more than once... you file everything, it's approved, she gets here and the minute the green card is in her hand, she's living with the sister and she's filed VAWA charges.

Why would she need to file VAWA (which aren't charges in the legal sense) if she's got the green card in her hand already?

[luckytxn 2,264]

Please don't feed the soon to be gone Troll.

1st let me apologize to you. It appears that you feel that my comment was very offensive to you even though I think otherwise.

I am not sure what your issue is and why you are being so defensive with my comment. I was trying to help the op out since he was planning to submit the paper work before the having the engagement. Like every country, there are bad and good people and sometime it is difficult to judge from a long distances away.

If you want to get personal, sure lets get personal. I met my fiancee entire family. I had my family do a background check on her. My dad, uncles and aunt and my fiancee meet quite a few times to get to know each other. I know most of her friends and I visit a lot of her distance relatives. Yes I only visited my fiancee twice but I stayed with her for almost 3 months and spend almost every single day with her entire family where they would cook for me and take care of me and even visit my grand mothers funeral which she past away in Dec. 2013. My fiancee doesn't have any relatives in the US. I provided her an option for me to live in VN to be with her while I would work at Intel in Vietnam. She already has a good life in VN, her family there and she had a good job however she didn't want me lower my status by going to VN because life is difficult for new comers. We decided that it was best that she came to the US knowing that she will be away from her family which is very hard. She will have to start from scratch and go to school. She is sacrificing a lot. There are many evidence that I have that shows me that her feelings is true to me and that she is not coming to the US just for a green card. For example, She knew that my mom would dis-own me for marrying her and she didn't want that. She cared about my relationship between my mom and I and she didn't want to ruin that relationship. We had to have a very long talk regarding that situation. Things like that showed me her true heart. She wants to come to the US to be married with me and start a family where our kids can grow up have a good education and life.

My comments to OP/poster was just trying to be helpful to help protect him as much as possible until he can gather the evidence that he needs to determine everything is ok with the relationship but it will be his decision to make. Everyone here on the forum can only give recommendations and opinions since he ask.

Now, is there any other comments that you want to use to attack me? Go ahead and attack me and continue to be sarcastic. Now if you want to have a decent conversation that I am also up for that. We don't have to agree with each others opinion but we sure can share it with one another in order to help.

Note #1 : In the future, if you disagree with a comment then simply state that you disagree and input justification to the disagreement. No need to attack other people.

Note #2 : I see your account was just created. Hmm.... Could you be the op fiancee? or could you be the op? or just some random person...... =T

Regards,
Peter