Booze Or No Booze? That is the Question

[Pooky 3,784]

Yep...It's over. Well...at least I'm loved.

It's a learning experience.

Don't waste it.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

I say tell him ahead of time and let him decide whether he wants to come or not. If he asks you why, I'd lay it on the line and tell him he's a fvcking lush and disrupts the mood of the party when he lets the alcohol get the best of him. Learn how to handle your booze or don't drink. And then maybe slug him in the gut to prove your point.

All joking aside, I'd tell him ahead of time and if he asks why I'd explain what happens when he drinks to excess and it make everyone uncomfortable. He needs to be accountable for his own behavior. Don't let the needs of the one outweigh the needs of the many.

I didn't think you were joking. In fact - I think it's a good idea!

But - I am being road blocked by my wife. & I am appropriately intimidated by my wife.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

He's going to be expecting to be able to drink as he always has in the past. I think it is the polite thing to let him know ahead of time. Drunks do not like surprises. Maybe his behavior is even worse when he's got the D T's.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

He's going to be expecting to be able to drink as he always has in the past. I think it is the polite thing to let him know ahead of time. Drunks do not like surprises. Maybe his behavior is even worse when he's got the D T's.

I would plus you but VJ has cut me off for the day.

My thoughts exactly....he will be looking for the cocktail pitcher as soon as he crosses the threshold. & I agee - drunks get their feelers hurt if no booze is offered.

AND - this will be the very first time to be in his company with him dry. It could get ugly.

Edited March 22, 2014 by Crashed~N2~Me

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Or tell him if he drinks you're inviting The Truth to the party and he'll have to listen to her drivel all night. That should be enough to scare him sober.

I would plus you but VJ has cut me off for the day.

My thoughts exactly....he will be looking for the cocktail pitcher as soon as he crosses the threshold. & I agee - drunks get their feelers hurt if no booze is offered.

AND - this will be the very first time to be in his company with him sober. It could get ugly.

I'd tell him anyway and not tell my wife I did. You wouldn't believe how tough I am when she's not around.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

Or tell him if he drinks you're inviting The Truth to the party and he'll have to listen to her drivel all night. That should be enough to scare him sober.

I think our guests would end up being p!ssed at us for walking them into a trap!

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

I'd tell him anyway and not tell my wife I did. You wouldn't believe how tough I am when she's not around.

Me too! (sometimes) I do Arnold poses when she's not looking just to make myself feel better.....& then when she starts to look..I strike a normal pose = humbled...

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Good luck, I'm sure it will all work out. I have to go clean the cat box and wash dishes.

[Pooky 3,784]

Or tell him if he drinks you're inviting The Truth to the party and he'll have to listen to her drivel all night. That should be enough to scare him sober.

Man, that's so far below the belt it could be right around the ankles!

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Man, that's so far below the belt it could be right around the ankles!

All in good fun, no malice intended.

[Pooky 3,784]

All in good fun, no malice intended.

Ain't that The Truth!

[novedsac 355]

Dilemma =

Now...my wife and I aren't having an argument - rather - we are having a "discussion".

Ha - you think you're having a discussion … you're wife likely sees it as an argument, or a disagreement at best …

With that said, your wife is right on this one.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

Ha - you think you're having a discussion … you're wife likely sees it as an argument, or a disagreement at best …

With that said, your wife is right on this one.

I see your point of view.

But..let me clarify something about me = I have learned (via trial and error ) to use safe - non confrontational words when describing a conversation where we have a differing opinion. This keeps the situation dialed down whereas - statements like - "I disagree" are ... high risk.

So with practice - I have learned to approach it like this = "baby, I would like to discuss some options and get your opinion". Now that's smooth sailing...

& Thanks for your feedback! My wife is almost always right & probably this time too.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

Where I'm from it's custom to give something to your host, and quite often it's a bottle of something or other. From what I've seen that's not uncommon in the US either. Is there danger of him showing up with an unwelcome gift if unaware?

I missed your post and late to reply. I apologize.

Good point. Yanno what?...very good point. I bet that is exactly what will happen cozzzz...last time we were at their home for dinner = we brought a bottle of wine.

Me thinks that alcoholic will show up with bottle in tote. Okay...that re-opens - advance notice or no notice - "discussion".

Brilliant! Thanks for your feedback!

[sharky-rex 76]

Good luck with the "discussion"!

Edited March 23, 2014 by sharky-rex