The Rainbow Rant (now with Unicorns)

[SAT 9,609]

Maybe that's why I loved NYC so much

Nah, I run off them in the morning too, since I was +1's to other posts in this thread

You brown oner !

never thought i'd say this but it's really cold in singapore tonight...my thermostat says it is 82 degrees fahrenheit, but it's still freezing! brr.

Quick turn on the oven to keep the house warm lmao.....

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

more often than not people get married (so I have noticed) because they don't see any other way how they could simply date

since they are so far apart....that is where that rash move becomes the only option since you are (general you) at that point of being all in love and blind and really want to be together...I am pretty sure if many couples got to live in the same area or country even ...they would probably not marry until later or at all.... it is hard to see in the immediate situation that things might be a little too difficult...the alternative being breaking up.

Yeah, I think we hurried it up a little because of the distance, but I did tell him engaged in a year and married in two or just GTFO now. I think we were married at one year, engaged at 6 months. Honestly, I probably underestimated the stress of having a spouse who was more patient, more careful, and not as learning new things oriented as me.

If I wasn't aware of how moody my wife can be before she came here, I would have sent her back within the first year. But after knowing her for ten years before she came, I was well aware of this and accepted it as just part of her.

I think my husband would say the same about the moodiness and also my vindictiveness and holding on to grudges. Once someone wrongs me in a big way, they are never allowed back into the fold, even my own blood. That just isn't the way he is with his family and he doesn't even want to hear me be that way. It is who I am and I dislike having to pretend that it doesn't exist.

I am sure one should have some criteria in mind even before deciding whether to date the person or not?

Or am I being too rational/calculative here?

OMG, I have a list:

6'2"+

Reasonable job that shows some semblance of ambition

Has own car (Danes the exception, can you believe our new "cheap" Subaru cost like 60k there?)

Good relationship with his family, but not living with them

Wants children

Only Northern European

Doesn't smoke, doesn't drink alcohol more times than he can count on a hand during the year

Handy

Conservative

Not a monotheist

Not younger than me, and not more than 4 years older

Preferably a Scorpio

Doesn't think he is better than other people

Would rather a small house over a big mortgage

Tolerates my BS

Doesn't own a cat

No ivory tower academic types

Picky enough?

that has always been my problem...mainly because whenever I chose to date someone I would be told "he is not good enough, he is not making enough money"....I wanted to believe the romantic notion of love conquers all and was prepared to take care of him to be honest no questions asked.

I believed that when tables are turned, as they would be upon my arrival, he would be prepared to do the same and believed him when he said he would. He was not ready for it and I realized very quickly that I would spend the rest of my life being his support and being extremely alone when I needed him to step up and always, always would be second to his family .....he would not side with me no matter how right I was.

Again....in my case...I really do not blame him...as the adult in this relationship and someone who has had more experience...I should have seen it...or should have been aware enough to see it. I decided not to because I wanted to be happy with a person who..believe it or not...treated me the best out of all of my bfs. I have learned my lesson...hopefully.

I feel kind of bad that this is the best one. I don't really believe in love per se. I love my husband, but it is just this quiet calm sea that could overcome life's battles, but it doesn't have the waves of change.

I think mostly, a marriage between two folk of different classes/castes can work, if effort is made. IMO (and others), he's not exhibited any effort, much less any change. repeated for emphasis: I blame his parents for creating him and enabling his lack of effort.

Yeah, it is hard work. You have to constantly check yourself, both of you that is, to realize that the other person just has this totally different perspective on things. I even find it difficult with my half-brothers who grew up without any money and still don't have any. We just come at life very differently.

i know, it sounds warm, but i'm cold...

It was 56 today, toasty! Actually, that is like perfect for me. We turn off the heat in the house sometime around now and jackets are all put away.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

I am a thread Killa

[JTB11 1,079]

back from a bike ride, dog walk and shower....yes, in that order.

I am out of shape but happy...need to adjust the seat a bit and the breaks and just tune it up overall but yay...I get to bike every day...hopefully in a month or so...I won't feel like I am extremely out of shape but only mildly......uhh lol

Salad for lunch soon...

doing laundry and washing dishes. got some air floating into this house and sun...it is great.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

We seriously need to talk to people in Minnesloooooowta about returning emails. C'mon guys!

[Ontarkie 14,227]

Wow was lots of reading to catch up.

J - You got to do what makes you happy, if your husband can't grow up then it's time to go your own way. Kinda feel sorry for the guy because I don't see him taking his head out of his butt to see what he is about to lose.

Nola that is one heck of a list. After being with my ex for 15yrs my list was simple.

No drugs

No drunks, he could have a few drinks here and there but I would not put up with another drunk

must like kids

must like pets

Have a job

That pretty much eliminated everyone guy in the town I was in

When I met the man well he was put to the test pretty fast. 4 crazy kids did that

I used to think that the man had to be taller then me

must be no more then 4 yrs older

and well my husband is shorter and younger then me so good for that list

I don't think I would of married him or even thought he was a possibility if we weren't friends for awhile first. We have a lot in common but are so different in many ways at the same time. But his eyes tell all and well they show so much I couldn't help it.

[Darnell 8,478]

The library is boooorrriiinnnngggg.

ug ug.

When I was a yoot, I knocked around in different cities, always finding the local library. I learned a lot about how to do research from talking to librarians beween the age of 9 to 11. By the time I was reunited with my father at the age o 12, I was severely hooked on using the library.

Schedules different? pick me up at the library.

busy? pick me up at the library later.

have a meeting? drop me at the library.

Uncle Bob is taking me to the library after school, come get me when yer finished with work.

I was always well behaved, never causing a ruckus there, somehow endeared myself (as a polite yoot) to each librarian I encountered.

When I travelled for work, I always stopped in at the local library, got useful info from a librarian...

When my son was young, we hung out at the library often.

My 2nd worst life-changing event occured when an ex 'told me' to get rid of my library o books....

Still, I can get to a library, it's never boring to me - I've always felt 'at home' there, regardless of the city or country....

If you were stuck doing homework at a library, well bring some earphones and jam out the next time.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Wow was lots of reading to catch up.

J - You got to do what makes you happy, if your husband can't grow up then it's time to go your own way. Kinda feel sorry for the guy because I don't see him taking his head out of his butt to see what he is about to lose.

Nola that is one heck of a list. After being with my ex for 15yrs my list was simple.

No drugs

No drunks, he could have a few drinks here and there but I would not put up with another drunk

must like kids

must like pets

Have a job

That pretty much eliminated everyone guy in the town I was in

When I met the man well he was put to the test pretty fast. 4 crazy kids did that

I used to think that the man had to be taller then me

must be no more then 4 yrs older

and well my husband is shorter and younger then me so good for that list

I don't think I would of married him or even thought he was a possibility if we weren't friends for awhile first. We have a lot in common but are so different in many ways at the same time. But his eyes tell all and well they show so much I couldn't help it.

Yeah, my list eliminates a lot of people and it basically meant having to look elsewhere in the US or abroad. I'm glad you found someone though.

I completely understand about the alcohol. My dad was an alcoholic when I was younger and I remember having to go into bars and tell them to stop serving him and give me the keys to the car. Once he got pulled over when me and a friend were in the backseat, maybe when we were 9 or so. The police officer knew he had been drinking because he reeked of it, but I think he didn't want us to go through the arrest and child services and stuff, so he let him keep driving. *headdesk* The last straw was one night he was so drunk, he went out into the woods barefoot with a knife between his teeth looking for the neighbor's dog.

I couldn't put my kid through that.

[Ontarkie 14,227]

Yeah, my list eliminates a lot of people and it basically meant having to look elsewhere in the US or abroad. I'm glad you found someone though.

I completely understand about the alcohol. My dad was an alcoholic when I was younger and I remember having to go into bars and tell them to stop serving him and give me the keys to the car. Once he got pulled over when me and a friend were in the backseat, maybe when we were 9 or so. The police officer knew he had been drinking because he reeked of it, but I think he didn't want us to go through the arrest and child services and stuff, so he let him keep driving. *headdesk* The last straw was one night he was so drunk, he went out into the woods barefoot with a knife between his teeth looking for the neighbor's dog.

I couldn't put my kid through that.

Oh boy can I relate. I'm glad you all made it home safely that night.

My father was similar with the bars. My mother had to break up many fights in our home with her cast iron frying pan. One of the many reason I do not drink at all, the other is well I can't stand the taste of alcohol.

[Caryh 5,206]

Yeah, I think we hurried it up a little because of the distance, but I did tell him engaged in a year and married in two or just GTFO now. I think we were married at one year, engaged at 6 months. Honestly, I probably underestimated the stress of having a spouse who was more patient, more careful, and not as learning new things oriented as me.

I think my husband would say the same about the moodiness and also my vindictiveness and holding on to grudges. Once someone wrongs me in a big way, they are never allowed back into the fold, even my own blood. That just isn't the way he is with his family and he doesn't even want to hear me be that way. It is who I am and I dislike having to pretend that it doesn't exist.

OMG, I have a list:

6'2"+

Reasonable job that shows some semblance of ambition

Has own car (Danes the exception, can you believe our new "cheap" Subaru cost like 60k there?)

Good relationship with his family, but not living with them

Wants children

Only Northern European

Doesn't smoke, doesn't drink alcohol more times than he can count on a hand during the year

Handy

Conservative

Not a monotheist

Not younger than me, and not more than 4 years older

Preferably a Scorpio

Doesn't think he is better than other people

Would rather a small house over a big mortgage

Tolerates my BS

Doesn't own a cat

No ivory tower academic types

Picky enough?

I feel kind of bad that this is the best one. I don't really believe in love per se. I love my husband, but it is just this quiet calm sea that could overcome life's battles, but it doesn't have the waves of change.

Yeah, it is hard work. You have to constantly check yourself, both of you that is, to realize that the other person just has this totally different perspective on things. I even find it difficult with my half-brothers who grew up without any money and still don't have any. We just come at life very differently.

It was 56 today, toasty! Actually, that is like perfect for me. We turn off the heat in the house sometime around now and jackets are all put away.

OMG that's one list. Did the Dane fill all that?

My wife is freezing at her office today, sounds like they turned the heat off, although its only 54 here today. Feels great outside to her in the sun though.

[JTB11 1,079]

oh salad...you are awesome...with strawberries (I stole 2 from MIL) and couscous (that is mine lol) yum....did not feel like waiting on egg whites lol

[Caryh 5,206]

We seriously need to talk to people in Minnesloooooowta about returning emails. C'mon guys!

4 to 10 days is a perfectly reasonable response time in Northern Minnesota. Don't be like my users, and send 6 emails because you haven't gotten a reply in 5 minutes.

[Ontarkie 14,227]

oh salad...you are awesome...with strawberries (I stole 2 from MIL) and couscous (that is mine lol) yum....did not feel like waiting on egg whites lol

This is so sad.

[JTB11 1,079]

This is so sad.

what !!! it is a great salad !

[Caryh 5,206]

Nola that is one heck of a list. After being with my ex for 15yrs my list was simple.

No drugs

No drunks, he could have a few drinks here and there but I would not put up with another drunk

must like kids

must like pets

Have a job

Women my age in my town have an even shorter list.

He's breathing.

well they want slightly more for marriage, but thats all it takes to shack up.