hi my case rejected

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John yes, you've exercised your "American" right to run your self-righteous mouth. Now STFU.

OP--why are you standing by a man who knowingly destroyed your entire immigration process by smoking pot? I could not forgive this.

YOUR RIGHT I ASK THAT MYSELF EVRYDAY. I guess only time will tell how my daughter will handle so i feel like if i have to for her?

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I'm with Alex...Did you say he doesn't treat you well or did Ir ead that wrong?

No, you read it right thats another question I ask myself everday also after being with him for almost a decade it makes it hard to walk away no matter how much i want to. I'm hoping that he will wake up within the next three years.

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Roxy, the system definitely worked right in your case. I'm not going to coddle you at all, because we got the same ban that you did for something my husband did almost a decade ago, coupled with a mistake in judgment by a "panel physician" who is likely receiving some kind of kickback for every time they can call someone a drug addict, whether it be true or not. And my government, when given the opportunity to fix that mistake, decided not to. If your husband is currently smoking marijuana, he needs to stop immediately, seek counseling as well as a drug re-hab program, and have regular drug tests performed throughout the duration of the 3 years, so that he may present all of that evidence to the same physician he saw the first time, to show that he has been clean for 3 years. He can get this information at his local state-run medical center (I can't remember what they're called). If all that sounds extreme to you, imagine how we feel with my husband who hasn't used drugs since his mid-teenage years (and he's now almost 27); we are doing all of those things, for no other reason than to satisfy the requirements and to get his Visa after our 3 years are up. You may not file a Waiver for drug abuse. You will have to wait until the 3 years is up, go to his interview at that time, and file your I-601 Waiver. With any luck for you, by the time 3 years is up, either the processing times for Waivers will have gone way down or immigration reform will have passed eliminating the waiver from the process.

your right and i wasn't looking for sympathy on that part at all what i meant by worthless is the time and money i invested into the whole process because it didnt work in my favor so it was the money and time that was the worthless part. it's not the systems fault why my husband made the choices he did and maybe god is doing me a favor by what happened but i just dont see it yet

Roxy, the system definitely worked right in your case. I'm not going to coddle you at all, because we got the same ban that you did for something my husband did almost a decade ago, coupled with a mistake in judgment by a "panel physician" who is likely receiving some kind of kickback for every time they can call someone a drug addict, whether it be true or not. And my government, when given the opportunity to fix that mistake, decided not to. If your husband is currently smoking marijuana, he needs to stop immediately, seek counseling as well as a drug re-hab program, and have regular drug tests performed throughout the duration of the 3 years, so that he may present all of that evidence to the same physician he saw the first time, to show that he has been clean for 3 years. He can get this information at his local state-run medical center (I can't remember what they're called). If all that sounds extreme to you, imagine how we feel with my husband who hasn't used drugs since his mid-teenage years (and he's now almost 27); we are doing all of those things, for no other reason than to satisfy the requirements and to get his Visa after our 3 years are up. You may not file a Waiver for drug abuse. You will have to wait until the 3 years is up, go to his interview at that time, and file your I-601 Waiver. With any luck for you, by the time 3 years is up, either the processing times for Waivers will have gone way down or immigration reform will have passed eliminating the waiver from the process.

I forgot to "thank you" for the info THANKS

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John yes, you've exercised your "American" right to run your self-righteous mouth. Now STFU.

OP--why are you standing by a man who knowingly destroyed your entire immigration process by smoking pot? I could not forgive this.

You comment that I am self righteous, but you comment on it as well? I agree with your comment, but maybe you too need not express yourself and STFU. Neither of them have any respect for the law or consequences for breaking it. Read her profile, she tells her daughter that she cant see her daddy because of the president and the immigration laws!!! Be real! Now she is asking for loop holes and blaming everything and everyone but her husband selfish behavior. To add to it all, he is here illegally, working under the table and not paying taxes!!! We want this in our country? Righteous? If thats what you want to call it.

NO comment you dont know me i hope you read the replies ive posted

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John yes, you've exercised your "American" right to run your self-righteous mouth. Now STFU.

OP--why are you standing by a man who knowingly destroyed your entire immigration process by smoking pot? I could not forgive this.

You comment that I am self righteous, but you comment on it as well? I agree with your comment, but maybe you too need not express yourself and STFU. Neither of them have any respect for the law or consequences for breaking it. Read her profile, she tells her daughter that she cant see her daddy because of the president and the immigration laws!!! Be real! Now she is asking for loop holes and blaming everything and everyone but her husband selfish behavior. To add to it all, he is here illegally, working under the table and not paying taxes!!! We want this in our country? Righteous? If thats what you want to call it.

WAS HERE HE'S NOT ANYMORE AND HE DID PAY TAXES AND WAS NEVER ABLE TO CLAIM ANY OF THEM BACK BECAUSE OF HIS SITUATION. It was his parents who made the decision for him not him. I don't think its fair to hold someone responsible for something that was out of their ( he was 7 when he came) control. I guess he just didnt have good role models to show him the proper way but if you've been parent you should understand that after kids turn about 13 they seem to think they know it all.

John yes, you've exercised your "American" right to run your self-righteous mouth. Now STFU.

OP--why are you standing by a man who knowingly destroyed your entire immigration process by smoking pot? I could not forgive this.

You comment that I am self righteous, but you comment on it as well? I agree with your comment, but maybe you too need not express yourself and STFU. Neither of them have any respect for the law or consequences for breaking it. Read her profile, she tells her daughter that she cant see her daddy because of the president and the immigration laws!!! Be real! Now she is asking for loop holes and blaming everything and everyone but her husband selfish behavior. To add to it all, he is here illegally, working under the table and not paying taxes!!! We want this in our country? Righteous? If thats what you want to call it.

DUde, she is not asking for loopholes! She wants to know what the *legal* steps are. I understand you feel strongly about drug use and illegal immigration, and you are absolutely entitled to. But surely you must also understand that she is frustrated because she cannot be with the one she loves. However you may feel about what you perceive as the "character" of her fiance, you are only likely to irritate and anger the OP by expressing you approval of the government process that is keeping them apart. And this only makes the OP disagree even more with your point of view -- which is poor rhetoric and probably not what you want.

"NOT ASKING FOR LOOPHOLES" THANK YOU I'M GLAD THAT THE REST OF YOU GET IT

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Now she is asking for loop holes and blaming everything and everyone but her husband selfish behavior. To add to it all, he is here illegally, working under the table and not paying taxes!!! We want this in our country? Righteous? If thats what you want to call it.

Again, he is NOT in the US. He was NOT deported. And yes, he was probably working illegally in the past, but again, given that USCIS forgives illegal work via marriage to a USC, this is NOT an issue in this case. You certainly have no proof that he didn't pay his taxes via an ITTN - which is legally available to anyone regardless of immigration status.

YES, he was RIGHTFULLY denied due to drug use. She is now simply trying to understand what the correct next steps are. He has three years to get through rehab and get his life back on track so he can be a father and wife. He will also have to file a waiver to forgive his illegal presence. He is doing everything he needs to do to straighten this out - why on earth do you have to continue to kick his wife when's she's already down?

Why does she not move to Mexico?

Oh yeah Immigration is much stricter there.

Sorry, I am with John on this, 22 is not a child. phhh

But I also understand she is trying to figure out the next steps. Would moving to Mexico be the next step? Is she really going to wait 3 years and hope he is in Mexico getting rehab?

But reading the post got to me too. Cant help to vent.

HE Thinks he's still a child i've been trying to explain to him that from the momment we decided to have our baby things changed. I mean i know for gods sake he's a grown man and i dont understand what in the world makes him think he's still a child. lets move now thinking about this is making me mad

i hope for the sake of his daughter he will stay clean and learn.

IM NOT GOING TO MEXICO MEXICO IS NO PLACE FOR ME and my daughterI HAVE MY MOM MY SISTERS are HERE. i know that with time this feeling of him not being here will ease but sometimes im to mad at him to even think about im not its about my and my daughters survival here.

Its ok i dont mind but i just dont like when john confuses me along with him im not asking for acceptances for what he did im asking to see what needs to be done next so that hopefully he will come back the right away and hopefully within the 3 years that hes been given and if not he'll have to wait it out

but everyone is right he needs to come back with the idea that the law is above him and not him above it

Now she is asking for loop holes and blaming everything and everyone but her husband selfish behavior. To add to it all, he is here illegally, working under the table and not paying taxes!!! We want this in our country? Righteous? If thats what you want to call it.

Again, he is NOT in the US. He was NOT deported. And yes, he was probably working illegally in the past, but again, given that USCIS forgives illegal work via marriage to a USC, this is NOT an issue in this case. You certainly have no proof that he didn't pay his taxes via an ITTN - which is legally available to anyone regardless of immigration status.

YES, he was RIGHTFULLY denied due to drug use. She is now simply trying to understand what the correct next steps are. He has three years to get through rehab and get his life back on track so he can be a father and wife. He will also have to file a waiver to forgive his illegal presence. He is doing everything he needs to do to straighten this out - why on earth do you have to continue to kick his wife when's she's already down?

right thank you

Why does she not move to Mexico?

Oh yeah Immigration is much stricter there.

Sorry, I am with John on this, 22 is not a child. phhh

But I also understand she is trying to figure out the next steps. Would moving to Mexico be the next step? Is she really going to wait 3 years and hope he is in Mexico getting rehab?

But reading the post got to me too. Cant help to vent.

Who knows - maybe she WILL move to Mexico during the three years. But in the meantime, she's just looking for some guidance.

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Who knows - maybe she WILL move to Mexico during the three years. But in the meantime, she's just looking for some guidance.

Understood, here is some more guidance.

http://www.freenewmexican.com/news/54929.html

THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR YOUR REPLIES I REALLY APPRECIATE IT FINDING THIS IS HELPING ME TO NOT FEEL SO LONELY

AND PUT SOME THINGS INTO PROSPECTIVE!

------------AND JOHN YOUR RIGHT IT IS A HORRIBLE THING FOR ME TO TELL MY DAUGHTER THAT ITS THE PRESIDENTS FAULT BUT I DONT TELL HER THAT EVRY TIME I SAID IT TO HER MAYBE ONCE BUT YOUR RIGHT I SHOULDN'T B/C THEN I MIGHT BE TEACHING HER TO HAVE NO REGARDS FOR AUTHORITY AND I SURELY DONT WANT HER THAT WAY ITS BEEN ENOUGH WITH HER FATHER I MEAN I DIDNT INTEND ON MAKING THAT MY EXPLANATION FOR EVERYTIME SHE ASKS MOSTLY I TELL HER THAT I WILL DO EVERYTHING WITHIN MY POWER TO BRING DADDY HOME AND HE WILL COME AS SOON AS HE CAN

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I am not one to get on a soap box, but this really got me pissed off. This all started with her calling the process worthless, its not, IT WORKED!! It kept an undesirable out for three years. It is also obvious that he is an illegal alien as well as his parents. If I am wrong, then I appologize. So, illegal alien, probably him and his parents never paid taxes, used our over-exhausted system, uses drugs and everyone here thinks we should accept it, because its just a mistake and I should be tolerant. Dont think so. This country has a long list of people who want to enter here and be law abiding, taxing paying citizens. But we have many, like above who waste the quota space. The process worked, and she called it worthless????? I challenge her to post a forum and see how many LEGAL AMERICANS would support this or support a person who has no regard for the laws and proper immigration laws to allow them another chance and calls our system worthless.

OK - agreed. She called the system worthless when in fact it did exactly what it was supposed to do. No one said his situation should be accepted or even tolerated. But this was not a discussion about illegal aliens in the US. It was a request for assistance regarding the next steps to make things right.

I agree with both sides. I feel for her because she obviously is trying to follow the process and bring him over as a legal immigrant, unfortunately this young man should have known better to at least refrain from smoking when he knew his medical exam was approaching. They do give you SOME notice. maybe she needs to reconsider if she wants to be married to someone that would risk the chance of legally being reunited with his family to provide for them and live the "american dream". It seems to me as if she is doing most of the work to get him here and exhausting herself in the process. Unfortunately love is blind, but maybe she needs to think about the bigger picture. I do agree that the system did it's job, he was irresponsible, and she is requesting assistance and advice, so we should not take it out on her. Just be thankful that you have made it through most of this process and are able to be with the one you love. I can only imagine that this young woman has a lot harder times ahead of her.

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I'm surprised nobody else has objected to the word "undesirable." I realize this is a very old post, but I just came across it and was struck by that word.

My husband, whom I met during a year doing volunteer work in Mexico, admitted to past marijuana use during his medical interview in Juarez. He is not nor has he ever been a drug addict or even a drug abuser, according to established professional guidelines regarding mental illness (I'm a mental health counselor licensed to diagnose drug abuse and addiction, just in case my opinion would be called into question). He was given a 3-year ban on his visa.

I finally managed to get him here last December and now he is a fully-functioning member of U.S. society, and he pays taxes (which JohnandSonya obviously hold in much esteem) just like everyone else.

He could have been going to college and contributing to this society, including as a taxpayer, for the past four years, instead of wasting time in Mexico and being separated from his wife for the duration of that ban.

My husband has made his share of mistakes, just like everyone else has, but I defy anyone to refer to him as "undesirable," especially some faceless presence on a message board who has never met him.

Additionally, I am fairly certain that the percentage of immigrants issued visas to live in this country who have never broken a single law nor committed a single sin nor made a single bad decision is very small, whether they admit to those crimes/sins/mistakes during their interviews or not (let he who has committed no sins cast the first stone, etc. etc.).

One more thing to consider - visa applicants who have been convicted of selling drugs in their own countries are eligible for a 601 waiver, thereby reducing their bans and allowing them to enter the U.S. sooner if their waivers are approved. Applicants who admit to using drugs, even recreationally on a few isolated occasions (such as my husband) are not eligible for such a waiver. Speaking of "undesirables."