Never Met My Fiance

[Cathi 5,777]

The original comment was that he he could not travel.

Half way through we are advised: I work, I go to school and have a perfectly capable life, 99.99% of people would never know that I have a condition in the first place.

So all the comments prior to that were on the basis of a misunderstanding.

I am going to guess that the above statement was not included in the waiver application, but the K1 would include employment information, I think?

It will be interesting to see what happens. As they had already applied the whole thread is a bit pointless.

BTW Cancun is less than 2 hours away.

I'm dying to go to Cancun. Can I go too?

[Boiler 45,852]

I'm dying to go to Cancun. Can I go too?

Ok, you can!

To be honest I have been and was not that impressed, seemed like a Mexican Torremolenos.

Edited March 19, 2014 by Boiler

[Golden Gate 530]

I agree that since they already filed, it is just a matter of waiting to find out what happens. Also, I can see how their situation might be confusing.

I want to try to explain what living with a chronic condition means. It is like a fragile balancing act. Any little thing can tip the balance and create a major devastation. You can, for example, get an infection in the area where the tubes go into your body. This infection could go right to your organs and you would suddenly need to be hospitalized. It might be that you catch something, like pneumonia, and very quickly your situation becomes dire. If you are traveling, perhaps you will suddenly require emergency services which can be very costly and dramatic. My dad once had to be air lifted from Mackinaw Island by helicopter.

This doesn't mean that these people don't try to live a normal life, and that my Dad didn't work, they didn't travel, etc. Coping must take place.

However, since you don't know what could happen, and the risks are so much greater than a healthy person, you want to maintain as much stability in your life as possible. You also tend to put on a brave face, because other people, quite frankly, can't handle your situation as you must handle it. You also may feel isolated because others don't understand the fragility of your life. Thus, it might be incomprehensible to the outsider how you could both function on a daily basis and appear normal, because no one wants pity, while at the same time be dealing with numerous issues and a complicated regimen outside the observer's awareness.

The point is that things aren't always as they appear and for the OP to be able to explain fully their situation in some postings in an online forum to a bunch of strangers in a way that is acceptable to all readers is a bit presumptuous. Reminds me of my high schools students who think that I am available all the time to grade their work the minute they submit it. How impudent they become when I don't satisfy their immediate desires.

Perhaps the consulate will take on this attitude with them, or perhaps based on the evidence they have submitted, they will have a bit more of an enlightened view. Who knows, but considering the challenges this person has faced in his life, I would say that he has a lot more experience dealing with obstructions than a lot of people and will deal with things accordingly. He doesn't need to be lectured to.

Edited March 19, 2014 by Golden Gate

[Hamzah and Amna 23]

Great way to put it! Thanks for explaining it so thoroughly/calmly. I was just searching for the words without trying to be too emotional (hotheaded) about it lol.

And yes all I can do is wait for either RFE or NOA2 or just a strait up refusal.

Edited March 19, 2014 by Hamzah and Amna

[Golden Gate 530]

No problem

[rade2rising 205]

Just wait. Your waiver stands a great chance of being approved

[bobototokoko 0]

Great way to put it! Thanks for explaining it so thoroughly/calmly. I was just searching for the words without trying to be too emotional (hotheaded) about it lol.

And yes all I can do is wait for either RFE or NOA2 or just a strait up refusal.

I truly believe you have a good chance in this particular scenario. ....USCIS agents are human and will be understanding, I just hope you provided all the needed evidence and docs. you would have to think that they put this waiver in for a reason

Cheers

[Kev-N-Ann 45]

OK, I stopped reading posts on page 6, because I do not appreciate negativity and sarcasm when it comes to people's lives, whom we don't even know

All I want to say is STAY STRONG, keep your head up and your fingers crossed. There must be a way to make it happen.

My best wishes for your fiance's health. I find it very brave that you two want to procceed with this wedding despite the situation.

Keep us posted and good luck!

[Jeremy12095 8]

we applied through the lawyer he didnt say anything regarding this problem that we never met even we didnt have this in mind till I read that everyone met and was asked for pictures

internship thing is over it was last year now i am a graduate. For now we have applied for K1. My fiance lives in Florida and I had an accommodation at his place as were related his dad is my uncle

So your fiancée is also your cousin? And your fiancée is unable to move to visit you.. There has to be another way for you to come to the USA to meet him to satisfy the requirement. But you have been denied tourist visa's... This is quite the complicated case. If you were able to go to a 3rd party country (Bahamas or something) and your fiancée could take a cruise to the island you could meet then but he's not movable. There's cruises from FL going on basically every day. You too could meet up there.. How long is your fiancée non movable, is this permanent or will he get better?

[Jeremy12095 8]

Sorry I didn't see the post about the dialysis until recently... I don't know too much about dialysis except one of my "older friends" has to do every night. They leave tubes in his stomach and he just "plugs in" every night. He still goes on trips and travels but he can't miss his nightly dialysis or he dies. With that being said a short trip to the Bahamas or some 3rd party country on a cruise would be fine. You would have plugin just bring bleach/water to clean your room. If there's a will there's a way. There is also a battery operated dialysis machine you can bring where ever you go. People actually bring their dialysis machine with them on flights also. http://www.davita.com/services/travel-support/travel-tips-and-articles/travel-rights-for-people-on-home-dialysis/s/9046

So basically your options are to apply for the waiver and just give them a ton of documentation and prove your case as to why it would be a hardship for you to meet or you fight man.. You fight hard and do what ever it takes to meet your fiancée some where.. You find a way and man up and just do it..

Edited March 19, 2014 by Jeremy12095

[Boiler 45,852]

Because they are in love?

Following this topic is interesting. Good luck OP on your waiver!

[Kev-N-Ann 45]

A little less judgment and a little more helpful advice maybe?

Completely uncalled for and very disrespectful to the OP who you don't even know.

P.S I am one of those "insane" people... who incidentally has a wonderful husband, a successful marriage and a warm, loving caring home and environment to raise my step-children.

Really Insane huh?

Try to refrain from making a judgment on someone's relationship when it contributes 0% to this tread.

thumbs up!

I met my tomorrow-to-be husband on the internet and I was madly in love with him before I actually met him in person for the first time

[Ryan H 3,819]

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Because they are in love?

Following this topic is interesting. Good luck OP on your waiver!

A little less judgment and a little more helpful advice maybe?

Completely uncalled for and very disrespectful to the OP who you don't even know.

P.S I am one of those "insane" people... who incidentally has a wonderful husband, a successful marriage and a warm, loving caring home and environment to raise my step-children.

Really Insane huh?

Try to refrain from making a judgment on someone's relationship when it contributes 0% to this tread.

[QueenComley 295]

thumbs up!

I met my tomorrow-to-be husband on the internet and I was madly in love with him before I actually met him in person for the first time

Thank you Kev-N-Ann

[dwheels76 5,468]

thumbs up!

I met my tomorrow-to-be husband on the internet and I was madly in love with him before I actually met him in person for the first time

I never understood peoples comments and criticisms when people are trying to get a waiver to bring their hunni over.

Really its just a change in venue. I mean read all over VJ and you see women, men flying all over the world to meet and marry first visit (Yes I did it). So how is that different the beneficiary coming here and marrying first visit?. It's same thing but different venue.

People need to just stop. Shut up, help, not throw stones. I mean of all the websites in the world we should be the most caring and unified folk ever (Okay maybe I am too Pollyanna here) But dang can't we just believe Love is grand and sometimes it doesn't even makes sense. Life is a risk. (Okay speech over lunch time now)