Never Met My Fiance

[Hamzah and Amna 23]

Petitioner here responding now.....

There have been a lot of rude comments here regarding the intent of the visa, intent of the petitioner and reasons why I cannot travel. I have been on dialysis since 2008 and before that my transplant that never started completely and had many many many complications with it and it only lasted 4 years. I was never able to travel without getting sick somehow and having a rejection episode of my kidney. As for the fact that Amna (The OP) can travel and meet me, that is half true. Yes she's perfectly healthy and able to travel, but being in medical school, there was never a break long enough for her to travel, and during the time of her medical school, there was a lot of terrorism within her country, and many travel advisories against Americans traveling to Pakistan. On top of that the terrorism in her country gave partial 'gaps' in her schooling, which meant any break she did have, was shortened to make up for her schools closure.
As for the life we plan to have with my devastating debilitating condition.... I work, I go to school and have a perfectly capable life, 99.99% of people would never know that I have a condition in the first place. I have dealt with the issue since childbirth and the whole reason i had to leave Pakistan (my birth place) was because of my condition. I do not have a nurse with me, nor do I need a nurse/doctor/caretaker. I have been taking care of it since 1989 without ever having any form of additional caretakers, besides my mother, just like your mom, who probably took care of you too as any mother would.
As for the intent of the OP, Amna, on whether or not she is here just to work as a doctor. We were engaged long before she was even in the medical profession and wasn't even on a career path when our engagement was set. I love her and will take care of her whether or not she's works as a doctor in the US, and besides if she wanted to come work in the US as a doctor, they have a specific visa for that as well which she would qualify in a heartbeat for unlike you guys.
Being cousins is not an issue, we have never met as if we were strangers. Genetically it doesn't matter, the condition I have is idiopathic (look it up because Amna doesnt have to). When you study genetics like my fiancé, and know what will happen to us in the future regarding the fate of our children i will gladly apologize, till then it is unfair to assume that we did not think of these issues before hand.
In our petition, we submitted the WAIVER as required if we did not meet due to hardship of the beneficiary. Just for good measure, we hired a respected lawyer to oversee and file our case who will see it to the end. And if the unfortunate event that it is denied, I will gladly reapply for whatever visa is necessary to marry my future beautiful intelligent wife who deserves a bit more respect then I have seen here already.

We are 2 people who are trying to marry and live our life together. She has completed her education and is completely free from obligations and is able to fully come to America to marry me, whereas if she had applied before, she wouldn't be able to attend the rest of her school due to the 2 year requirement to stay in the US after being married and applying for Change of status. And visiting was not an option for either of us as explained above.

Sorry for sounding so harsh in my first response here, but I didn't really appreciate seeing my fiancé attacked when she was just looking for answers. Thank you.

[Boiler 45,837]

There is no 2 year requirement.

Any comments on here are minor compared to what is likely at the Consulate.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

As for the life we plan to have with my devastating debilitating condition.... I work, I go to school and have a perfectly capable life, 99.99% of people would never know that I have a condition in the first place.

This statement sounds contradicting to the mentioned 'facts', as why you can't meet her in person because of your extreme poor health.

[cdneh 3,112]

Why is it, can anyone tell me, that new people come on VJ, ask questions, get answers that are honest, and right on the money, and then have a three cornered fit because the truth of the situation does not match what they imagine will happen, what they want to have happen. If the responses they get don't jive with what they want to hear, they are being attacked.

USCIS has fairly rigid criteria. You have to be free to marry, and you have to have met with the previous 2 years. USCIS don't give a fiddlers about your hopes, your plans, how clever you are, your paid for wedding arrangements, or any of the innumerable excuses people have claimed are impediments by way of an excuse. They want what they want, the way they want it, and that is the way it is.

Edited March 18, 2014 by cdneh

[Darnell 8,479]

well, hardship on the beneficiary is one thing, but

if you showed actual hardship on the petitioner, IMO, you'd get some grease at USCIS.

[cdneh 3,112]

well, hardship on the beneficiary is one thing, but

if you showed actual hardship on the petitioner, IMO, you'd get some grease at USCIS.

You might, Although given recent information on how actually unwell the petitioner actually is, it will be difficult to get much traction from that standpoint.

[Hamzah and Amna 23]

The first line was sarcasm... my waiver is due to the fact that her country does not have peritoneal dialysis facilities and i need aseptic conditions in order to perform peritoneal dialysis. The trip itself is 40+ hours and any hiccup in the trip (lost supplies, miscommunications with the dialysis provider) could be detrimental to my overall health and not worth the risk. I get daily dialysis here, and don't have tubes and needles apparent all over my body for people to see. Thats what i meant by I do not appear sick.

And as for feeling attacked, we had thought about all the possible issues prior to applying and responded to them as needed. Cdneh you are absolutely right, USCIS does have a rigid structure which we followed and hopefully they will see our situation and see that we went through all possible avenues before applying for a waiver. I am having a 'three cornered fit' because of people saying that my fiancé is here as a caretaker, or needs me to come to the US and work. She does not need me to come to the US and work, nor do i need her as a caretaker. We thought of all of the possibilities of what could happen with the fiancé visa in our case, and made sure to address them when we applied, and will address them when the interview arrives.

[David & Diana R 1,005]

Why is it, can anyone tell me, that new people come on VJ, ask questions, get answers that are honest, and right on the money, and then have a three cornered fit because the truth of the situation does not match what they imagine will happen, what they want to have happen. If they responses they get don't jive with what they want to hear, they are being attacked.

USCIS has fairly rigid criteria. You have to be free to marry, and you have to have met with the previous 2 years. USCIS don't give a fiddlers about your hopes, your plans, how clever you are, your paid for wedding arrangements, or any of the innumerable excuses people have claimed are impediments by way of an excuse. They want what they want, the way they want it, and that is the way it is.

cdneh,

I am also tired of the crying that goes on here, by both the original poster and the responders. The sugar coating of the responses makes me sick. Let's just get real. I have heard there is some sort of waiver for the 2 year meeting but "I personally" am unaware of anyone as yet that has ever gotten to the US without the meeting... While there may be lets be honest with the person asking the question. Let's not give them all this pie in the sky rubbish. You are right, USCIS could give a rats a** what anyones dreams or hopes are. Let's get real, shall we? And moments ago the person that is so ill just said 99.9% of people would never know he was sick. He says he works and functions like anyone else. While I am sure he is very ill will and I feel very sorry for the two of them it is irrelevant. It all comes down to what the government believes.

[Darnell 8,479]

You might, Although given recent information on how actually unwell the petitioner actually is, it will be difficult to get much traction from that standpoint.

Ugh. I disagree,

as for K-1 visa chasers,

when a petitioner cannot travel to meet up,

and shows proof of same,

USCIS does take it into consideration.

It must be a big reason. IMO, needing kidney dialysis on a schedule should be a reason for USCIS to grant the waiver of the meet up requirement.

But, hey, that's all just my opinion.

With it, and 1.25, one can purchase some nice toilet paper and take care o business.

[cdneh 3,112]

The first line was sarcasm... my waiver is due to the fact that her country does not have peritoneal dialysis facilities and i need aseptic conditions in order to perform peritoneal dialysis. The trip itself is 40+ hours and any hiccup in the trip (lost supplies, miscommunications with the dialysis provider) could be detrimental to my overall health and not worth the risk. I get daily dialysis here, and don't have tubes and needles apparent all over my body for people to see. Thats what i meant by I do not appear sick.

And as for feeling attacked, we had thought about all the possible issues prior to applying and responded to them as needed. Cdneh you are absolutely right, USCIS does have a rigid structure which we followed and hopefully they will see our situation and see that we went through all possible avenues before applying for a waiver. I am having a 'three cornered fit' because of people saying that my fiancé is here as a caretaker, or needs me to come to the US and work. She does not need me to come to the US and work, nor do i need her as a caretaker. We thought of all of the possibilities of what could happen with the fiancé visa in our case, and made sure to address them when we applied, and will address them when the interview arrives.

I think you will find people's response to her along the lines of her being a caretaker were based of the picture she initially painted, of her fiance as housebound, gravely ill.

You don't have to travel to India, Canada has perfectly aseptic conditions, and she may find it easier to attain a visa to visit you there.

It's all pretty moot at this stage any rate, you have applied and now you wait. If you are denied, bear the Canada, or other 1st world countries as a place to meet in mind.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

By the way, I found this website for Peritoneal Dialysis providers in Pakistan

http://www.novasans.com/peritoneal-dialysis/pakistan/

Aadil Hospital

This hospital located in Pakistan is an ISO 9001:2000 Certified General hospital with special emphasis on gynaecology, paediatrics, eye surgeries, and specialized renal surgeries.With a team of highly skilled healthcare professionals, aesthetic procedures are also provided including botox implants, lip augmentation, and skin rejuvenation. Available is also a body storage unit service for the deceased and grave arrangements.

Edited March 18, 2014 by Merrytooth

[Golden Gate 530]

You might try contacting this lawyer, Laurel Scott. She is mentioned frequently on Visa Journey. I believe this is her website: http://www.scottimmigration.net/. Right now, it does seem to be a matter of just waiting to see what happens with your petition. I feel for your predicament. Both my parents had kidney diseases, were on peritoneal dialysis, and though my father got a kidney from his sister, my mother's transplant was not successful. I also have my Dad's kidney disease. Wish you all the best!

[Golden Gate 530]

By the way, I found this website for Peritoneal Dialysis providers in Pakistan

http://www.novasans.com/peritoneal-dialysis/pakistan/

Aadil Hospital

This hospital located in Pakistan is an ISO 9001:2000 Certified General hospital with special emphasis on gynaecology, paediatrics, eye surgeries, and specialized renal surgeries.With a team of highly skilled healthcare professionals, aesthetic procedures are also provided including botox implants, lip augmentation, and skin rejuvenation. Available is also a body storage unit service for the deceased and grave arrangements.

I am sorry, but so what? Not sure he should ever need to consider traveling all the way to Pakistan, when there are other options. Having seen passengers on my trips from Morocco coming from that part of the world, they have been traveling for more than 30 hours. Certainly not something any kidney patient should be doing. Just because it is possible doesn't make it reasonable.

Edited March 18, 2014 by Golden Gate

[Hamzah and Amna 23]

Not in the same city its very far way from her city and it it through nova sans, i would need to change suppliers and doctors, stuff with insurance. Its not as simple as picking a hospital and going there, it is a very costly procedure. Believe me I've tried looking at options, if it is denied it is not the end of my visa journey, i will find a way to marry her. And Golden Gate, I will look into this lawyer and see what she says. I know you know what kidney disease entails and what i mean by looking healthy despite being sick.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

I am sorry, but so what? Not sure he should ever need to consider traveling all the way to Pakistan, when there are other options. Having seen passengers on my trips from Morocco coming from that part of the world, they have been traveling for more than 30 hours. Certainly not something any kidney patient should be doing. Just because it is possible doesn't make it reasonable.

He is stating that her country does not have peritoneal dialysis facilities. I found one to prove him wrong.

Not saying that he should go to Pakistan in his conditions.

But how about Canada then? Canada is third world country too?