Marriage on tourist visa? Could US citizen be responsible/guilty? Marriage fraud.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

Likely. There's a few thing not adding up.

I think someone didn't get their green card payout.

I don't think so. I think OP was in an abusive relationship. Victims of abuse are so messed up in the head that they don't want to report the abuse because they don't want to get the abuser in trouble. They love their abuser in a sick way. They hope that the abuser will realize that they really love the victim and start to treat them nice. Victims think things like "I am the only one that is patient with him, he'll understand that soon."

Trying to get him in trouble for the tourist visa thing is misplaced, though. It's really not the main issue.

[David & Diana R 1,005]

Avery Cates, on 17 Mar 2014 - 11:57 AM, said:

Likely. There's a few thing not adding up.

I think someone didn't get their green card payout.

Harpa Timsah said: I don't think so. I think OP was in an abusive relationship. Victims of abuse are so messed up in the head that they don't want to report the abuse because they don't want to get the abuser in trouble. They love their abuser in a sick way. They hope that the abuser will realize that they really love the victim and start to treat them nice. Victims think things like "I am the only one that is patient with him, he'll understand that soon."

Trying to get him in trouble for the tourist visa thing is misplaced, though. It's really not the main issue.

I'll vote with Avery Cates on this one. I wish I could give you two thumbs up Avery. Seriously, who in this day and age would be ignorrant (and I use this word using the Websters dictionary definition) enough to think they had to get married? I'm sorry, I don't buy it at all. I think this a disgruntled spouse that perhaps was treated poorly, that's it. Maybe she thought it would all be rosy once they were married???

[SingleDad2usc 71]

With all my compassion to victims, D&Z, what's been going on in "Effects" is far beyond this one story. Again, USCs are systematically encouraged to rat on their estranged spouses. It goes under "fulfill your duty". Whereas the actual duty would be NOT to bring USCIS marriages of this kind.

USCs don't seem to understand that marriages presented to USCIS have higher burden (of foreseeable longevity) than any fling one may try in private. If one had exercised the higher diligence required, then there hardly be room left for successful scammer. So probabilities are in the high 90's that either USC has faulted to begin with, or that the break-up was a natural conclusion (not fraud). Very unfortunate for both, btw; but life goes on - so find other interests in life... What waste to engage in these stories - in place of stories of how to comply with orderly paperwork and let USCIS deal with next family situation

Harpa Timsah said: I don't think so. I think OP was in an abusive relationship. Victims of abuse are so messed up in the head that they don't want to report the abuse because they don't want to get the abuser in trouble. They love their abuser in a sick way. They hope that the abuser will realize that they really love the victim and start to treat them nice. Victims think things like "I am the only one that is patient with him, he'll understand that soon."

Trying to get him in trouble for the tourist visa thing is misplaced, though. It's really not the main issue.

I'll vote with Avery Cates on this one. I wish I could give you two thumbs up Avery. Seriously, who in this day and age would be ignorrant (and I use this word using the Websters dictionary definition) enough to think they had to get married? I'm sorry, I don't buy it at all. I think this a disgruntled spouse that perhaps was treated poorly, that's it. Maybe she thought it would all be rosy once they were married???

[aishabay 2]

I don't understand why you thought him coming on a tourist visa you would get in this kind of trouble for NOT marrying him? What the heck? Yeah maybe if you filed for the K-1 Visa and you both knew it was fraud from the beginning. But in your situation? If anything I would be afraid of getting in trouble for marrying him because I didn't want to marry him after all and I was marrying him on a tourist visa, with intent of marrying before he got here.

I mean even if you file K-1 visa and the person gets here and you decide after all you don't want to get married, you don't have to go through with the marriage in the end if you don't want to. I really don't understand why you thought you would get in trouble for not marrying him, unless you thought he was going to hurt you if you didn't because of all of his threats... Maybe you should of called the police because of the threats and made him leave your home... Although I know you still loved him and wanted it to work, but that was not the right way, marrying when you were not ready.

Sorry you are going through this though.

Thanks. I know it doesn't make much sense now, but I was afraid because he blackmailed me and said I will get into trouble if I don't marry him. And I was sooo scared and you know how you act when in fear? Yea, I didn't use right judgment. I know I would not have gotten into trouble now, but back then I didn't know.

[aishabay 2]

Do not worry,If he has conditional green card , also you have reported to USCIS about him, with/by documents or without / by document,USCIS will Not give him new green card ,his 1-751 will NOT work for him, he should find another way to stay in U.S. May be he is trying to find new girl from facebook or else to find a way to stay in U.S. Let he does every thing he wants. Do not try to be evil. go to church ask god help you and make you more strong to move on.

If you have a divorce now, just move on and try to find new thing for enjoy. If you do not have a divorce, go make it

Do not stir the ###### again, If he leaved let goes Just let him to goes.

If you really scare he makes a problem for you change your home or go to your family home for a while.

Do not try to find a new boyfriend until your feel get back to normal.

Love yourself , forget the abuse man. JUST move on.

Thank you! You seem like you know what you are talking about. Soo you think he will not get his permanent green card? I hope so for everything he did to me...

And if USCIS does give it to him then they are stupid....I mean after everything I reported, the fact that he threatened me against annulment, DRAGGED out divorce for 7 more months under threats even though we were separated...you know? Doesn't this alone spell trouble? And not to mention he is already engaged to his longtime gf in his country..