Prepare for worse case scenarios...It happens

[Adslip 6]

Hi everyone,

I wanted to share my own personal story so others may take time to think of things for themselves.

In Feb 2010 I met my husband on the internet, met him in person and spent 6 wonderful weeks with him over xmas 2010 returning back to Australia in Jan 2011. We knew we loved each other online, but the meeting for real in person was far beyond what we had both expected...it was wonderful.

In 2011, our relationship even more than before if that was possible but it was, he mentioned many times how much he wanted me as his wife and I felt the same way.

July 2012, I arrived back to visit with him again, was perfect and he asked me to marry him. I had met his friends and family that were part of his everyday life and they embraced me with friendship love and acceptance. As his eldest sister and her husband lived in Florida they had only head about me...they were up visiting under bad circumstance themselves as she had lost her youngest son the year before...so my husband and I got married on the spur of the moment and in the time frame that he had all his family there.

I went back to Australia in Sept 2012 and he posted the I-130 when I left...we were so excited....But then tragedy...My husband become ill with Legionaries pneumonia a little over 3 weeks of me getting back home...it was bad and he was admitted and placed on life support on 2nd October 2012...his family contacted me and it took me a few days to get everything in order to fly back and be with him...I arrived the evening of the 8th Oct to be with my critically ill husband....he had already died that morning whilst I was in flight for the 30 hours it takes for me to get there!

I flew back with my dad as I was a mess and stayed on in the USA till Dec 2012 to attend his funeral and attend to other matters.

Feb 2013 My sister inlaw emailed a scanned copy of our I-130 that had arrived...it was a mix of feelings yay cause thats all we wanted and a sadness because I felt there was nothing left for me in the USA without him. His sister one in particular I grew very close to...come back live we will help you, we want you here etc....I get my letter from the NVC asking for a Registered agent to be appointed in response to my husbands approval in the March 2013. I did not act on this information.

I have family, children and a life back in Australia...was more than I believed was still in the USA for me. Wasn't nothing if my husband wasn't going to be part of it. I had to return back to the USA in June 2013 to deal with my husbands estate...wasn't easy. He had wanted me to be added to his bank account etc before I returned to Australia...I had said to him NO RUSH...when I get back we will get everything in order.

Was a bad mistake on my behalf because it caused so much more drama...

Anyways getting back to the I-130. When back in June 2013 I of course was catching up with friends and loved ones of my husbands that were also an important part of my life....One friend in particular become very important and was always there for me, I wasn't driving and was dependent on others pretty much to make appointments, shop etc.

In this time I was back in the USA... A very good friend of my husbands for over 30 years, who had become a friend to me also since 2010 spent a lot of time together, we did always get along...well we ended up finding our own Love story. so before I was set to go back to Australia, I finally acted on the letter from the NVC and my husbands approval for the I-130.

Eddy became my registered agent and we set about finalizing what My husband had started...as it turns out My husband died October 2012, the approval came in Feb 2013...the approval happened after the death of my husband and what Eddy and I discovered was that as the APPROVAL HAPPENED AFTER MY HUSBANDS DEATH...it would be revoked by the NVC. The NVC had reverted my application to a Widows but the law was very clear from what we had seen...I hadn't returned or finished the process and been in the USA when he died.

Eddy and I discussed this and although we knew it would set us back with our on plans...he submitted a withdrawal of my late husbands I-130 as my agent and we set about our own I-129 application with the NOA1 arriving Jan 7th 2014.

So basically all this post is meant to be about is to warn other loving couples that are going through this process, with any visa...PLEASE think of the Worst case scenario...it happens!

My heart goes out to other members who have had or going through a similar scenario, regardless of visa type.

[Ryan H 3,812]

Moved from K1 Process & Procedures to General Immigration-Related Discussion; duplicate thread removed.

[NickD 203]

Happened to a friend of mine, doesn't have to be natural causes, like a car accident. How do you plan for death? For one person I know, happened between their citizenship interview and oath ceremony with a marriage application. Sorry, you are no longer eligible for citizenship have to wait another two years. No refunds on your $680.00 fee.

Wife works in a hospital and can see death practically everyday, most disturbing to her is a young child killed by some drunk driver. Don't know how she puts up with it.

[Adslip 6]

Thank you Super Elite...My case for an I-130 didn't make it past approval...I never made it back before it was approved, was part of my point. Wasn't anything my husband would have ever dreamed of happening let alone ,myself...he knew what I was giving up to be with him. I had left it from the approval and my first letter notifying me of the next stage and me not acting on it.

It was approved and in writing that the I-130 was approved to my petition husband...nothing past that...I didn't act on anything I recieved for many months after...just didn't mean anything to me for many many months after.

After reading a post here just yesterday about a woman who had moved over on a K1 and her fiance that died two weeks before the wedding with two kids...it was like wow and her visa was a K1....even less of a chance than I was faced with...she carnt stay without breaking laws from what I have learnt yet she gave up her life for that man as she knew it.

A real loving couple with hopes and dreams like so many of us never think of these things whilst we are going through a process...hell we have the rest of our lives to face things together...real bad does happen and it has consequences which is the reason I posted

I guess the post just got to me given my own feelings and experience that I wanted to share...life happens and we are not in control of those kind of events...I just wanted others to reflect.

My husband wanted nothing but my happiness and it was me that created his and his for me in return...turns a person upside down and more so having to go thru this process.

[Novembro 1,763]

Deeply sorry to hear this has happened to you. This journey is the worst in the best of times; I can't imagine what you must be feeling. I hope your renewed application will see its end.

[Adslip 6]

Deeply sorry to hear this has happened to you. This journey is the worst in the best of times; I can't imagine what you must be feeling. I hope your renewed application will see its end.

Thank you

[Boiler 45,525]

By preparation do you mean having Wills and Life Assurance?

[Adslip 6]

By preparation do you mean having Wills and Life Assurance?

Yes is exactly what I mean and should be done as soon as possible after marriage. I didn't see the need straight away as far as my thinking was we had plenty of time to do those things when I returned to the USA after our I-130 was approved.

The need for people to do a will at the very least, is very important so that your spouse is protected and your wishes followed in the event of Death.