Rant of the Plnk Ranger

[SAT 9,609]

From what Jada has told us, I think he isn't interested in going to NYC at all...

I say jada move back to Poland and bunk with Asia for a while....

Half of the things named by Steve were totally false

what? what? Look at what Jada said........I hit the nails right on the head!

[JTB11 1,079]

I have a daughter just like that. She did get her GED though. Now she makes excuses not to work, excuses not to get her driver's license, etc...

I tried communicating to her mother that she was being spoiled as a child, and this would be the result, but was totally ignored and told keeping her self esteem high is more important. In my view, self esteem comes from doing things yourself on not being lazy and expecting others to do everything for you. I have no idea what my daugher will ever do with her life. I feel bad for her and love her, but she has to either get her butt in gear or fail on her own.

How did she manage to get her GED or should I say..who made her ? I hope she will get herself together, what is she doing now ? Where is she living ? How old is she ? Sorry I dont want to pry...you totally dont have to provide all this info. Just curious.

I think that is not self-esteem that is entitlement...like my brother. Expects things to be done for him and takes no responsibility for his own life....ends up blaming others when things don't go his way. First thing that comes out of his mouth every time I speak to him is "I dont have enough money (like I should be providing for him)" and when I tell him to do some training or learn a language he says "oh but i am too lazy, always have been...I could have gone to the University you know that but I like sleep more"....god.

[Caryh 5,206]

all these interviews keep running thru my head. Hubs is doing his marketing pitch to stay in the little town near Columbus, asked what I would do if they offered me a job, then his mom tells me she is kicking him out if I dont take him with me to NYC right away if i take the job there....ugh...I dont have one offer yet and they are all deciding on what will happen.

I wish my middle finger did not hurt else I would use it to tell them how i feel.

She ain't kicking him out. She's the one who made him too lazy to get off his butt by doing everything for him in the first place. She won't stop doing that now. This is just an attempt to make you feel guilty if you don't drag his butt kicking and screaming to NYC. In reality, she doesn't want him to ever leave.

[JTB11 1,079]

I say jada move back to Poland and bunk with Asia for a while....

what? what? Look at what Jada said........I hit the nails right on the head!

[Asia 2,498]

That's exactly what I said!

It what language?

[SAT 9,609]

I have a daughter just like that. She did get her GED though. Now she makes excuses not to work, excuses not to get her driver's license, etc...

I tried communicating to her mother that she was being spoiled as a child, and this would be the result, but was totally ignored and told keeping her self esteem high is more important. In my view, self esteem comes from doing things yourself on not being lazy and expecting others to do everything for you. I have no idea what my daugher will ever do with her life. I feel bad for her and love her, but she has to either get her butt in gear or fail on her own.

My friend Rick.....

the older son is like this daughter. Until I kicked him in the butt and got him into Citicorp. Now he's trying to get his degree thru Empire state college SUNY online. ESC.EDU for any of you interested.

The younger son....excels.

[JTB11 1,079]

http://www.epicurious.com/recipes/food/views/Soda-Bread-with-Dark-Chocolate-and-Candied-Orange-Peel-231866

I am making this next...looks yummy

[SAT 9,609]

It what language?

[Darnell 8,479]

Your wife got white all over her underbritches?

One of the first things I taught my wife was laundry and not mixing colors with whites. And that new colored items should be washed separately the first two times, in particular with new red items.

None of that matters. . Anyone that studies and graduates from Uncle Darnell's School of Zen Clothes Washing can wash my clothes. Otherwise? It's all me, on me, done by me.

Her Stuff? I not care so much, as I wash em per my methods. She screwed up, washed it by her methods. I really needed a 'This ain't China, so it won't work' example for her - and this was one of four.

[SAT 9,609]

How did she manage to get her GED or should I say..who made her ? I hope she will get herself together,

United States Negro College Fund....

"A mind is a terrible thang....."

(and you no longer have to be black to get money from the USNC)

[kitthekat 1,317]

that whole bit about mr jada joining jada in ny to go back to school...if he wasn't interested in studying in high school, he probably isn't interested in it now. sounds he just wants an excuse to not have a job and slack off while she goes out to work hard and bring home the bacon. makes me for jada just thinking about it.

...i don't separate colours and whites. but in my defense, i've never had a problem with staining!

[SAT 9,609]

Ya know...a man's gotta have some stuff to put on the table in a marriage...

...i don't separate colours and whites. but in my defense, i've never had a problem with staining!

that's cause everything you own is black!

[Merrytooth 5,748]

I haven't slept right for 2 days now....annoying.

all these interviews keep running thru my head. Hubs is doing his marketing pitch to stay in the little town near Columbus, asked what I would do if they offered me a job, then his mom tells me she is kicking him out if I dont take him with me to NYC right away if i take the job there....ugh...I dont have one offer yet and they are all deciding on what will happen.

I wish my middle finger did not hurt else I would use it to tell them how i feel.

Somehow I feel that TB's advice is good for you too...

Is this something that you can live with and accept, without compromising your principles?

Do you consider this to be a "flaw" that can be corrected?

Would you want to live as a "martyr" (your term) for the rest of your married life? (Why?)

Would you want your children to grow up in an atmosphere like this? (Why?) Thank God, you don't have kid yet.

If you have your 10-year green card, you're free to seek a relationship that you consider to be healthier -- both for you personally and in terms of marital interaction. Ok, wait till you get your 10-year green card

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Edit: Have you read this thread in a nearby forum?

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/481487-how-much-money-your-husband-gives-you-per-month/

[Asia 2,498]

Ya know...a man's gotta have some stuff to put on the table in a marriage...

Yeah, and it's sad that all stuff he's putting on the table is his laziness

[Caryh 5,206]

How did she manage to get her GED or should I say..who made her ? I hope she will get herself together, what is she doing now ? Where is she living ? How old is she ? Sorry I dont want to pry...you totally dont have to provide all this info. Just curious.

I think that is not self-esteem that is entitlement...like my brother. Expects things to be done for him and takes no responsibility for his own life....ends up blaming others when things don't go his way. First thing that comes out of his mouth every time I speak to him is "I dont have enough money (like I should be providing for him)" and when I tell him to do some training or learn a language he says "oh but i am too lazy, always have been...I could have gone to the University you know that but I like sleep more"....god.

She moved out of the regular high school into an alternative program. She was supposed to be working a job part of the day, then go to independent study at their location the rest of the day. When she was nearing age 20, and still not working or showing up for her independent studies, they said she had to start showing up or she'd be kicked out of the program. They pushed her to finally take and pass her GED.

She is 25, lives in the basement of her mother's house with her bf. She isn't working, except for a few months a year at a halloween costume store. Her and her bf want to move out now, but he wants her to get a job first, and she keeps saying she can't because its too far to get anywhere to work, but she'll get one after they move closer to where jobs are. Its the typical circular argument. She can't work, because she doesn't have a car or license, but she can't get a license because she doesn't have a car, and she can't get a car because she doesn't have a job, so they can't move because she doesn't job, so she can't get a job because they haven't moved to where she can easily work. Its like the thread that go closed down I refrain from making any comments about the situation. That would just make me the mean dad again that I was when I argued with her mother that she was spoiling her.