Rant of the Plnk Ranger

[SAT 9,609]

since you seem to know about this stuff...if i inherited property back in 2006 in the Czech Rep. that is just mine right ? I did not even know my husband then...I was just wondering.

Firstly....if it's over 1 gazillion dollars, I need you to divorce your hubs right now, and me and you will elope.....

Secondly....yes, it's yours.

[JTB11 1,079]

Firstly....if it's over 1 gazillion dollars, I need you to divorce your hubs right now, and me and you will elope.....

Secondly....yes, it's yours.

lol

thanks, I thought so...gonna have to break it to the hubs since he doesn't believe me.

[SAT 9,609]

lol

thanks, I thought so...gonna have to break it to the hubs since he doesn't believe me.

Wait....lemme just double check to see if Ohio is a state that follows "equitable distribution". Not that it matters if you inherited this prior to marriage.....

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

New York is not community property, my dad's inheritance was never seen or heard from by my mother during their divorce. However, in Connecticut inheritance is up for sharing in a divorce.

In Minnesota it might be different because I could go back and claim that because my dad died before we got married that it was reasonable to presume that the money is pre-marital. I don't know if that would fly in CT.

I'll look into other options, but it is the principal of the thing. I don't care about his parents' money because they are young (in their 40s) and I wouldn't feel right about taking someone else's money (I returned the 20k annuity my dad basically stole from my mother to her but that was legally mine). I never took a dime from my ex-husband when we divorced despite him being a rich brat and I've never asked his wealthy family for help (any checks they send to Gwen go straight into her college account).

[SAT 9,609]

Ohio is an equitable distribution state. Meaning.....not everything is split 50/50 in a divorce proceeding.

So, you're 100% safe. As long as you don't commingle that inheritance.

[SAT 9,609]

Trophie, I think you may not be right about CT. I'm sure your inheritance is not community property.....lemme see....

[NikLR 13,232]

Firstly....if it's over 1 gazillion dollars, I need you to divorce your hubs right now, and me and you will elope.....

Secondly....yes, it's yours.

You'd have to divorce too...and no offense but that sounds messy. I guess if you and jada had a gazillion dollars to go with afterwards it might be worth the hassle. LOL

I always wonder at people's messy divorces. Why can't people just leave and start a new life? I left my ex and didn't want a thing from him. We were together long enough that I could have half of everything, including his share in the family business, but I didn't want it. I didn't want his money. I didn't want anything else to do with him besides the raising of our child. It didn't matter to me that taking half of it would make it easier to financially raise our child, we'd go through courts and bitterness, there would be more arguing than there already was, and she would not be a happy child. She'd be scared and sad. Separating is hard enough on a child, why make it harder? That's also why I didn't fight custody. In the end, I just don't understand people. I just had a friend go through a nasty divorce and it's so hard on him and his kids. Fighting over money... it's just useless. It's a thing. Granted having more of it can mean your mind is at ease, but there are plenty of places in the world where people have little material possessions but yet can be the happiest people you'll ever meet.

Nola you don't have much choice in what his parents have done. He cannot control them. You cannot control them. It sounds rather like you're making an issue out of the fact his parents are jerks. The fact that you can't directly access the money doesn't mean that he can't withdraw it and give it to you either or spend it on your family. If they've written a clause in there saying he can't, I can't see him accepting it or using it either. I can actually see how he's upset here because it seems like you're assuming he wouldn't do this that he wouldn't use it to take care of you if he could. To me it looks like you're assuming he would want to use your inheritance when it seems like he's the type of man who is the man of the family, who enjoys putting food on the table, the roof over your head. I doubt he would take the money if you dropped it in his lap. But you know him better than any of us.

I know I would be upset if my husband suddenly made me sign a post nuptial, because he knows me and my personality. I didn't marry him for money, I married him for love. No matter what I would look after myself before I would take anything from him. But everyone is individual.

[NikLR 13,232]

If you're simply for wanting to protect your inheritance, I suggest putting it into a trust fund for your daughter as soon as you receive it and leave it as such in a will as well. I might be out to left field but that seems reasonable to me?

[SAT 9,609]

Ok. I skimmed on it. I think you might be a little confused by CT law. If the inheritance is left to you, prior to, or during a marriage. It's yours. Now, a judicial ruling may be requested to deem this inheritance divisible or not, by declaring it marital, or non marital. But any of this inheritance that is not commingled, will be deemed non-marital. Provided that the inheritance is left solely to you.

CT does in fact, follow the equitable distribution rule.

[SAT 9,609]

If you're simply for wanting to protect your inheritance, I suggest putting it into a trust fund for your daughter as soon as you receive it and leave it as such in a will as well. I might be out to left field but that seems reasonable to me?

That's one way to protect the inheritance.

And...I didn't say I was gonna marry J.....just elope. No divorce necessary

[SAT 9,609]

You guys owe me a combined 500 bucks...I dun care who pays. Just somebody pay me.....

[NikLR 13,232]

bigamist. LOL

[Darnell 8,479]

So my husband's parents have written a clause in their will that I should have no access to money if my husband inherits and now my husband is refusing to sign a post-nuptial that protects my inheritance from him. EXCUSE ME???@?@?? #######@?@@??

for folk that have money, this is a common thing.

lots of permutations, but it is common.

I say suck it up and move on.

have your inheritance monies wired to the isle of man or manx, stay outside most foolishness.

[SAT 9,609]

Cayman Islands is the most belligerent when it comes to cooperating with the US authorities

Lotsa offshore money sits there.....

How's that Fook flu?

bigamist. LOL

Didn't I ever tell you guys I'm Mormon?

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

I see your point NLR, but I kind of feel like that my family who has infinitely more money than his family would have never thought of such a thing that it is kind of insulting. Maybe his parents might give him a max of 200k when they die and that is chump change compared to how much I'd be getting from my mother. Even my ex-husband's parents, who earned a million dollars a year while we were married, didn't do that. I just don't get it.

However, to not be pissed at his parents I simply suggested that we even the playing field. I'm kind of pissed now because they changed the will just this week KNOWING that my husband is getting access to my inheritance as it stood. So if he doesn't have the access then I have nothing to be angry about.

And he already agreed multiple times before we got married and after to do a pre/post nuptial, so it isn't like I sprung it on him.

This the problem when you marry someone from a different financial/class background.

I mean, we are frugal people like most around here and live very modestly, so it isn't like I've got a 10 million dollar house on the water or something, but to be so petty over a max of 200k (more realistically probably like 100k) is just freaking ridiculous.

Ok. I skimmed on it. I think you might be a little confused by CT law. If the inheritance is left to you, prior to, or during a marriage. It's yours. Now, a judicial ruling may be requested to deem this inheritance divisible or not, by declaring it marital, or non marital. But any of this inheritance that is not commingled, will be deemed non-marital. Provided that the inheritance is left solely to you.

CT does in fact, follow the equitable distribution rule.

I guess I was under the understanding that CT was a community property state.