How to withdraw support from husband already got a 10 years greencard?

[philippinebelle 0]

philippine love isn't suppose to hurt.Words don't mean anything, actions mean everything. If he was my husband I would have no doubt that this man does not love me at all, his actions speaks for itself my dear.Divorce him and move on. It's too late now to cancel form I-864.

Hello Sandranj, your words hit like a rock. I am pouring like a mad woman right now. Just the word divorce is so dreadful to hear. Thank you for your advice.

[philippinebelle 0]

First of all I want to say I am so sorry that you are going through this pain right now but I want to explain some things to you!

I grew up with a lot of people from turkey and have a lot of friends that are from turkey and I have to tell you that some of the things, situations and actions that you are explaining are just the way that they are living and what they are used to! They are not bad people at all it's just their culture! I also have to point out, that not everybody from turkey is like that, they are others depending on where they are from turkey that are more used to the modern world/ culture!

Did you ever ask him how he sees the cultural differences etc?

Big hug to you!

Hello Vicky, culture or not it is a common sense to do your responsibilities and obligation to your wife. I am his wife now and his own family now. I don't think its cultural not to want a baby. Most Turkish men like children. Yes I asked him that and he said it's different. I am not born and raise here in the states but I have to adapt. He complain so much about the country and the people, I told if you don't like it then you go back where you came from, we can live there than saying all these words that sounded like a terrorist to me.

[Jeremy12095 8]

Under the I-864 you and your co signers are financially responsible for his support. The only sure way to be released from that is he works 10 years or obtains us citizenship. So basically there's nothing you can do. Hope he gets his us citizenship and then divorce his ungrateful butt!

[philippinebelle 0]

You're about 2 years too late to withdraw the I-864.

You're on the hook for I believe it's 10 years or 40 Quarters of work if he goes on any government benefits. Whether or not that's ever been actually enforced is another topic.

It's okay I find a way, I will not make this easy for him. He got the nerve to pay with my heart then he got something coming. These type of people be punish for manipulating the immigration system.

[philippinebelle 0]

Under the I-864 you and your co signers are financially responsible for his support. The only sure way to be released from that is he works 10 years or obtains us citizenship. So basically there's nothing you can do. Hope he gets his us citizenship and then divorce his ungrateful butt!

You just made me smile with tears running on my face. Thank you.

[christeen 966]

Dont let bitterness consume you... Revenge will destroy you too... He may have scarred your heart, but seeking revenge and to punish him and make it difficult only puts salt on your scarred heart every time... It is so very hard, but if it is truly over, cut ties and begin the healing process, do not blacken your heart with revenge... The only person who will be punished is yourself...

[Sandra G. 5,048]

You know to consume yourself thinking what he is doing,if he meets a new person or revenge these things will destroy you,and his life will continue.The best revenge is to be happy without him.You survived without him all these years,it means you will continue your life without him as well. CRy a river,put some make up on after, and go get your life back We need to find happiness in ourselves,the partner should just bring more joy,but not to be the main reason of our happiness.There are out there great people ,and I am sure you will find love again.Just let him go,for good.

[novedsac 355]

Under the I-864 you and your co signers are financially responsible for his support. The only sure way to be released from that is he works 10 years or obtains us citizenship. So basically there's nothing you can do. Hope he gets his us citizenship and then divorce his ungrateful butt!

Not necessarily.

The financial responsibility ends when either:

1) Beneficiary becomes a US citizen

2) Beneficiary dies

3) Beneficiary leaves the USA permanently

4) Beneficiary accumulates 40 quarters of work

A quarter of work must meet minimum Social Security income requirements for that quarter in order to qualify. Since the maximum credit is four qualifying quarters per year, the minimum would be ten years of full time work, but it could be much longer.

Alternatively, if the beneficiary does not work yet remains married to the sponsor for at least ten years and the sponsor accumulates forty qualifying quarters during that the marriage, then the requirement can also be met.

Some jobs, public school teachers come to mind, do not pay into social security so they do not work 'qualifying quarters' for the purpose of social security benefits eligibility, but I am not sure if this work would be considered as qualifying quarters for meeting the requirements for relief of the I-864 obligation. Would be interesting to know.