USCIS has turned my marriage into a joke...

[Paz_Tranquilidade 61]

...get the cats micro-chipped and vaccinated and go to him.

I forgot to mention.. one of my cats is a 13 year old Himalayan. Recently, she was gravely ill and is under a lot of antibiotics. The vet suspects cancer and will do the biopsy next week after the antibiotics treat the infection she has in her bones. This cat was so close to my husband and he forged a special bond with her. It's heartbreaking that I may have to put her down and he can't see her or be there to hold her. Pets become our families too.

Edited February 24, 2014 by Paz_Tranquilidade

[bdrew612 1,071]

In December, I almost quit school and stayed in Brazil because I could not stomach coming back to the US alone and suffering again.

We almost pulled our I-130 petition and thought about going to Canada instead because we thought the process would be quicker and have many friends who moved there.

I know how you feel.... I get really angry, too. We ARE being punished for following the laws... and meanwhile, I hear about all these status adjusters (people who come on tourist visas because their friends promised them American husbands and cars and homes) and they get their GCs in 3 months. It sucks but I believe in karma.... if we get through this, there will be nothing but tons of blessings!!!

"If I knew then what I know now....." we would have just filed a K-1 and he'd be here now. Or he could have just stayed and adjusted status, but that wasn't realistic as he had a job to return to and most of his possessions!

I too hear ALL the time "I don't know how you do it" to which I think they've never been in love and that's sad. The one question I loathe is "how is married life". My response would get the ##### on this thread so I won't type it!

Sometimes this site burns me out, but you're all here and you all understand better than anyone!

[Paz_Tranquilidade 61]

We are October filers and new to this waiting game, everyday I think about packing my bags and heading off to live with my husband. The only thing that keeps me going on my bad days is listening to him sing to me. Thank God for whatsapp recordings "tell me this tell me that, why should I give all my love to you"? I love him so so much!!! I ask God everyday for a Quick journey for us all.

I would suggest staying with him if you had the opportunity. This will take a long time. If you filed in October, you won't hear from USCIS until at least April or May...

That's so romantic that he sings to you. Awwww.. that made me a little emotional awwwww

[bdrew612 1,071]

I forgot to mention.. one of my cats is a 13 year old Himalayan. Recently, she was gravely ill and is under a lot of antibiotics. The vet suspects cancer and will do the biopsy next week after the antibiotics treat the infection she has in her bones. This cat was so close to my husband and he forged a special bond with her. It's heartbreaking that I may have to put her down and he can't see her or be there to hold her. Pets become our families too.

They are our families! I'm so sorry to hear about kitty!! :'( Absolutely heart breaking

My female feline took to my husband right away! The night my husband left after we married she slept in his spot on the couch and didn't move. I was bawling like a baby!

[Lifehastomoveon 37]

My life in a nutshell... Arranged marriage in May 2013, Filed first week on June, didn't hear a squeak till mid December that my case is getting transferred to NSC. Was asked too wait 60 days because inquiring... today is the 70th day. Now the sites been down. I have been with my wife exactly 22 days in a year of us knowing each other. I will never forget the pain you have caused me USCIS.

It sucks really. Mine was arranged marriage in june 2013. We started skyping, chatting in feb 2013. Now its been 1 year ever since i met him, 8 months from marriage. We were together n spent time only for 10 days during wedding. Every day and night is horrible for me without him. Still i m trying to be strong. The best part is my husband s a strong person. He s hiding his pain and missing me so much. I could see n feel when we were on vchat. But He wont express it out coz he thinks it would make me worried. Really USCIS is the cause. Honest people were screwed up. GOD SAVE EVERYONE HERE....

Edited February 24, 2014 by CresentMoon

[Afrohanfi 15]

My husband and I have known and done the LDR for 5 years. We started this process about two years ago. We have been push and pulled by USCIS for the k-1. Last summer we got married and decided to do the cr-1. But this year has been the hardest on both of us. It feels like I cry myself to sleep more than not.

I am a student so its summer time. Meaning when I can go visit him, but the money is not there how we need it to be. I contemplate moving every day! I just dont know what I would do about my school loans and if I would be able to pick up where I left off when I come back. And I would be coming back with no job. But I am very close to just moving, at least until he has a visa. \

It is the worst feeling its like our lives are on hold. Everyone tells me keep busy, but how is that possible when everything you do is just a reminder that the one you love is not with you. This has been a difficult month!

(We filled cr-1 in September)

[Cheryl-Hossein 25]

Combined with the nagging threat of AP against my wife, because she has a common Muslim name, I lost it.

My fiance has a very Muslim name (even though he is secular himself) -- two prophet names, plus an honorific meaning that he is directly descended from the prophets. We're K-1, but he was approved without AP, and received his visa a week later. I think the embassy interviewers are smart enough to see beyond common Muslim names.

[Ryan H 3,812]

dude i feel you this waiting game totally sucks here we are tax paying citizens getting screwed by our own government (racist content removed -VJ Moderation) it just so unfair that im hateing my own government more everyday cuz me and my wife do nothing but fight over nothing cuz she is bored to death sitting home hoping to get approved i wish i could talk to the president one on one i would straighten him out on our situation so try to stay strong cuz were in the same boat good luck

[nightingalejules 678]

This thread was a good "suck it up and count your blessings" wake up call for me. I'm frustrated because we thought we were being SO proactive, filing in October when we planned to move in June. Obviously, that's not going to happen, and it feels like our lives are on hold.

But because my husband is a dual citizen, he has been able to be with me in Canada this whole time, and will stay here with me until we both move to the US, no matter when that is.

Hubby has been in the US this weekend to see his mom, and being without him even for a few days was no fun. I can't imagine how rotten it would be for months or years!

Anyway, I wish you strength and speedy approvals, and a wonderful reunion with your spouses. And thanks for reminding me of how lucky I am.

[Zuyas ozzie wife 6]

Like all that have posted here on this topic, I too am so frustated with The USCIS. We do the right thing and then are made feel like we are being punished. My Husband and I have been married 12 months on the 23rd of March 2013 and what has kept me going and sane is spending our first wedding aniverary together but seeing we haven't even been approved yet there is no chance of that happening now. I feel more and more depressed every day. We talk every day on Skype or phone but its not the same at all. I have even got to the point where I have said to Him " I have had enough I am not going, You can come here " He is wonderful, calming me down and assuring me that it has to happen soon. I understand that the government is focused on making the illegal immigrants legal, but at what cost to us, that have went through the right channels and paid our way unlike the illeagals? I just want to be with my Husband so we can move on with the rest of our lives and not live in this limbo world that is frustrating, depressing and wrong!

Edited February 24, 2014 by Zuyas ozzie wife

[Boggy1974 124]

Vent nicely...Hopefully it takes the frustration off your chest!

[suhailsaish 24]

I want to thank you all for sharing your stories, for once i didn't feel all alone or isolated in this process. Reading your responses and the private messages i have received, i am feeling more hopeful again. And i really appreciate the support and advice you all have given me. Please stay strong and i pray for all of us to be together with our significant others soon so we can start making up for the time we spent apart.

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

I'm hugely frustrated too, our NOA2 took about 7 months which is long but less than a lot of others so I can't complain too much about that. Since our case was received at the NVC we have already waited a calender month with no action, and they seem to be in no rush to give us a case number so far. We've been married nine months next week and since the wedding day we've spent 23 days together I think which includes our honeymoon. It really isn't right. As the beneficiary I feel like my life is in limbo because I'm waiting to be able to move and I have no idea when that will be. Currently I alternate between feeling miserable and optimism but each week that passes I feel a little bit lower. My wife is a wonderful woman and trying her best to raise my spirits but she is suffering too.

I think if anyone is reading this thread and is suffering like a lot of the other posters here then share it because it only helps to get it out and everyone here understands what you are going through. I really do hope that all of us get some good news soon.

Edited February 24, 2014 by Hotter Otter

[fyzah 4]

Me and my husband have been living overseas for the past 7 years with our 3 children. We have never been separated during those years except for a 3 month period where he had to file a similar petition for residency in a third country. We only started this I-130 process for me in November, so I know we have a long way to go. My husband will have to move back to the US soon due to his residency here expiring upon graduation and so will mine, which means I will have to go back home and wait out this immigrant visa thing. Although it has not happened yet I have severe bouts of anxiety and at times depression at the thought of being away from my husband for an unknown period of time, and raising our three young kids on my own. I do not have much of a support structure in my home country and am dreading the thought of going. I don't know how I will cope when it actually happens! I pray things speed up soon for all of you.

[altito 63]

After one year of a long hard distance relationship, I got married last May´13 in Seattle (WA). My husband and I decided to live in Spain together and start the whole process from here. He got his Spanish residency for five years(valid for all the European Union) in just ONE MONTH, for a 10.70 euros cost (8 dollars). It is outrageous to read all these posts here and see how difficult and messy is everything in the US. I am a January filer and my visa journey has just begun, but at least we are waiting for it together. I know it is difficult to leave your home country (house, kids -if applicable- and job) and start a temporary life abroad with your foreign husband to come back relatively soon. However, to those who are able to do that, I strongly recommend you to go ahead. We do not deserve being away each other: We live just once!