My stepdad hit me.

[Avery Cates 1,141]

I do. I do give him $500 dollars a month. That is on top of my credit card bills. I pay for my phone and everything.

Almost like a real adult of 23 years old!

[NikLR 13,232]

Maggots are not routinely part of a garden fyi. LOL

I cannot stand maggots but as they are a by product of flies on rotting food, routinely "flesh" I think a garden is fairly safe.

Also I have a step-parent I do not like, however, as an adult I put on a smile, and do everything possible to be nice because that person makes my parent happy. Your mother will not be happy thinking her children hate her husband. Could be time to pretend enough so she believes it.

[Cathi 5,784]

When I read your post I thought you were a teenager, not a 23 year old man. You changed your story about when and why he hit you, and now you are too afraid of bugs to start a garden. He is a 78 year old man, he thought you were going to wreck his truck, he reacted. You are the one with the issues, not him. You sound like a spoiled teenager. I'm wondering why you would even post this here. Grow up.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Sorry about the 'grumpy old man'. He sounds like he is a real trip and it's ridiculous that people excuse his behavior because of his age.

He is definitely OLD ENOUGH to know better and not too old to not be able to change.

It takes time for you to integrate and get on your feet and live by yourself and doesn't happen in a year.
Pursue your dreams of what you want to do with film / fashion but remember they may not always pan out and so have a back up education and profession that pays the bills. You have been here since 2012 and it is perfectly ok to be living as a new immigrant of 23 years of age still with your Mom and step dad under those circumstances. If he bit off more than he can chew then it is his problem.

You are already working towards the goal of being on your own and contribute $500 so I see absolutely no problem with that.

Of course it hurts emotionally more than physically when you get punched and cussed out by your step dad.
Do not argue back and never ever hit him back but calmly tell him that this is not acceptable and for him not to step over the boundary again.

Inform him that you are planning to move out as soon as you can, calmly, not with an attitude.
I have no idea why people post nonsense here about this whole thing and finding fault with you or your story. Grump head is wrong. Period.

The old fart needs to chill out before he loses your mother and dies a lonely old man.

I think it is great that you offered your help with the trees etc. and if he doesn't appreciate it then too bad. Minor accidents happen and he

totally overreacted.
Work hard, save your money and move out. Meanwhile stay out of his way and remain respectful. I totally get your frustration.

[Scott & Kaye 32]

... you are 23 with a learner's permit and you live with your mother ... and a 78 year old guy hit on the arm when you did not know how to drive and messed up his truck ... and then you are here writing about it ? ... dude , I think you are the one with the issues ... not your "step-dad"

Get real! She is not winning or calling the police because abuse. She is acting like an adult by posting the event and asking others advice. She never said his truck was Messed Up but said she hit some blocks. She was chain sawing wood from a fallen tree and asked to drive the truck. Good job girl by taking initiative. Forget the jealous trolls.

Start a garden? LOL.

Btw how old is your Mother? Someone said the 78yr old guy was forced to care for you. Im guessing your Mom is like 40 something?

[Scott & Kaye 32]

Wait is this a 23yr old girl or boy who posted this??

[raven52 233]

A 23 year old ""has no business" living, under the same rof as his parents, (even-step dad).,., that is a complete no-no!

WHY are you there, this would not have happen, he is an old man, as I am becoming, things are not the same to older to senior people, why are you not working, and making your own life? Then this would not have happened.

No, there is no excuse for hitting you, but, ""just how hard can a 78 year oldman hit you IN THE ARM".,.,.,.

This comes down to one thing, you have not offered anything else to say why the whole family is thinking of moving out,,.,..,.BUT you and any OTHER juviniles.,.,.,,.have NO BUSINESS there, at your ages!

Get off your a--, and go to work! Stop living as a parasite on the household!

It is the stress of the young adults, living at home that should be on their own, that has caused all this trouble i the first place.,.,.,young adults still "sponging off their parents".,.,..,,..CAUSE THESE KIND OF PROBLEMS!

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

A 23 year old ""has no business" living, under the same rof as his parents, (even-step dad).,., that is a complete no-no!

WHY are you there, this would not have happen, he is an old man, as I am becoming, things are not the same to older to senior people, why are you not working, and making your own life? Then this would not have happened.

No, there is no excuse for hitting you, but, ""just how hard can a 78 year oldman hit you IN THE ARM".,.,.,.

This comes down to one thing, you have not offered anything else to say why the whole family is thinking of moving out,,.,..,.BUT you and any OTHER juviniles.,.,.,,.have NO BUSINESS there, at your ages!

Get off your a--, and go to work! Stop living as a parasite on the household!

It is the stress of the young adults, living at home that should be on their own, that has caused all this trouble i the first place.,.,.,young adults still "sponging off their parents".,.,..,,..CAUSE THESE KIND OF PROBLEMS!

A 23 year old immigrant who has been here for only one year is not fully integrated and it takes time to get on your feet.

If he would not live there the old grumpy guy would not have had help with the trees and everything else.

Here we go again with the mentality of how hard can an old man hit ! Ridiculous.

Other cultures have an extended family living together helping each other out. Stop being so dang closed minded saying he has no

business living with his mother and step dad, the old guy brought him over only a year ago so let him give enough time to get on his feet for Pete's sake and yes, he did explain why his Mom and siblings consider moving out. Read the posts again.

If the USC can't handle the stress of bringing the kids here he should not have petitioned them. Period.

He is off his a__ and is working and giving the old fart $500 monthly and you didn't read that either did you !

You are calling him a parasite.....for what ?! He is contributing by working at a job, giving $500 monthly and helping around the house.

No, he did not cause this problem, his step dad's terrible temper did.

Man, I can't believe these comments here.

[G_One 10]

I know sir. Actually on Monday, my mom and I will go to her lawyer for consultation since she also wants to move out along with us.

I don't believe you want to wreck your Mothers house just because of your subjective hate towards your step dad..

Dont wreck your Moms married life. Separation will be traumatic for her, don't gift her that.

Your step dad has in clear terms told that he had taken more than he could chew, so don't be shameless and still carry on being a burden for him.

I would suggest you alone should move out on good terms with your step dad and live like hundreds of youngsters living independently in the city, it wont be a big deal.

Later you can see how things pan out and may be your brother(s) can join you if they too have tough time handling your step dad.

Leave your Mom and sisters in that house, let them live like a family till the time it is manageable. Dont pollute their minds, let your mom give this relationship enough time.

Edited February 23, 2014 by G_One

[Abdo.Gauchô 16]

Dude , honestly ur complaining like a girl . he punched me Omg i don't know what to feel :'(

UR 23 YEARS OLD ; HE'S 78 YEARS OLD ; what u expect from an old man he didn't punsh u in the face to be all drama about it , ur 23 move out dude seriously O.o

[Glyn and Kathy 288]

I have a few things to point out. 1) He is elderly. Elderly people are often on medications that can cause them to act irrationally. I know this because my dad, who was 71 when he passed two weeks ago, was normally a calm and gentle man. Because of his medications...in the last few years, he would lose his cool easily. It was something we understood and dealt with. 2) He is elderly...78 years old and cutting down trees and moving wood. He was probably exhausted and stressed. Cut him a break. 3) He's elderly....78 years old and you're 23?? Seriously guy, how much did it actually hurt?

Honestly, if he was constantly yelling and screaming and abusing the people in the house, then I would say there is a problem. But you all seem to be adults, so its time to sit down and TALK....like adults.

Good luck.

[MO-MO1974 7]

sorry did not read the OP but I have to say that before I even opened it,I was certain it was Philippines......when too many weird stories start coming up with regards to women from there and men from here,it starts to look fishy with almost every story that has to do with a Filipino and I will say that I am not assuming you to be in that category but wow!!!! why so many weird stories

[ShirahBet 42]

Since when did punching anyone for any reason become acceptable? Since when is age an excuse? I'm sorry, but as a social worker who routinely travels from nursing home to nursing home, when ANY resident hits ANY other resident (regardless of age), we have to report it as abuse.

Do any of you know the circumstances about why this guy lives with his mom and the 78 year old? It's actually pretty common place in this economy for people in their twenties to live at home. And to belittle someone because their dreams of going to fashion school are essentially too girlie for you? It's just shameful.

This thread is seriously just sad. The poster, the responses, just sad.

[Glyn and Kathy 288]

Since when did punching anyone for any reason become acceptable? Since when is age an excuse? I'm sorry, but as a social worker who routinely travels from nursing home to nursing home, when ANY resident hits ANY other resident (regardless of age), we have to report it as abuse.

Do any of you know the circumstances about why this guy lives with his mom and the 78 year old? It's actually pretty common place in this economy for people in their twenties to live at home. And to belittle someone because their dreams of going to fashion school are essentially too girlie for you? It's just shameful.

This thread is seriously just sad. The poster, the responses, just sad.

I don't think its acceptable....I just think there could be a REASON for him to act like he is. Which is why I suggest they sit and talk like adults. I'm sure its quite a stressful situation for the whole family. Talking about things, whether alone, or with a counselor would be a great way to get to the bottom of the situation and maybe work towards a solution.

[ShirahBet 42]

I don't think its acceptable....I just think there could be a REASON for him to act like he is. Which is why I suggest they sit and talk like adults. I'm sure its quite a stressful situation for the whole family. Talking about things, whether alone, or with a counselor would be a great way to get to the bottom of the situation and maybe work towards a solution.

I wasn't suggesting your post in particular. I read the whole thread and everyone is telling the OP to "man up" and that this is "normal for older people." It's not normal for anyone of any age regardless. And why shame the guy? None of us knows the actual situation. We know what the OP has told us, but there's always more to the story.