I am so afraid - Nepali fiance's family creating big problems!

[deathbydalbhat 0]

I just got off the phone with my fiance who was in tears... His mother has, to put it delicately, mental problems, very unstable, and at the beginning opposed my marrying K because I am not Nepali... A couple of months ago it seemed that she had changed her mind and everything was going smoothly, now for some unknown reason she has gone nuts again against our marriage and went so far as to steal K's passport and citizenship papers, which he of course will need to marry me and come to the US. I asked him if he could apply for a replacement passport claiming it was lost and he said he needs his father's signature even though he is an adult - has anybody ever heard of this??? All he has is photocopies of some documents which he will be Fed Exing to me for safekeeping. We were originally planning on getting married in Nepal this summer and then he would come to the US on a K3, now maybe thinking he should come to the US on a K1 and we marry here even though he would have to stay there longer and who knows what his family will do while he waits for his visa... the big problem is his missing passport and need for father's signature, is there ANY way around this? He said he has a photocopy but that probably is worthless... I am on the verge of tears and don't know what to do now....

[kitkat1 5]

I don't know the rules in Nepal for lost passport renewal, but it is extremely unlikely that an adult would need a father's signature.

Why don't you start by locating the official information regarding how to replace a stolen passport in Nepal - it likely only requires a copy if possible of the old passport and some additional forms and money.

[deathbydalbhat 0]

I don't know the rules in Nepal for lost passport renewal, but it is extremely unlikely that an adult would need a father's signature.

Why don't you start by locating the official information regarding how to replace a stolen passport in Nepal - it likely only requires a copy if possible of the old passport and some additional forms and money.

Thanks, I am hoping this is the case - it seems very strange that an adult would need a signature or documentation from a parent, but then I know so little about Nepali bureaucracy, only heard nightmare stories so such a requirement wouldn't surprise me at all... I wish I could talk to a Nepali lawyer...

[tom&tata 2]

I am not familiar with Nepali passport application procedure either, but what if the person's father already died. You can't expect everybody who applied for passport still have their father around.

Logical application of passport would need copy of old/lost passport, birth certificate, application form, some police report if the incident was reported & application fee.

But what do I know

Good luck

[deathbydalbhat 0]

I am not familiar with Nepali passport application procedure either, but what if the person's father already died. You can't expect everybody who applied for passport still have their father around.

Logical application of passport would need copy of old/lost passport, birth certificate, application form, some police report if the incident was reported & application fee.

But what do I know

Good luck

I think they also took his birth certificate or what he calls his 'citizenship paper' - he is saying he kept everything in a lockbox and his mom found the key and took all his documents. All he has are photocopies.

Thanks for your good wishes...

[kitkat1 5]

I think they also took his birth certificate or what he calls his 'citizenship paper' - he is saying he kept everything in a lockbox and his mom found the key and took all his documents. All he has are photocopies.

Photocopies are often sufficient. Now it's just a matter of finding the official site to get the correct information.

[tom&tata 2]

I think they also took his birth certificate or what he calls his 'citizenship paper' - he is saying he kept everything in a lockbox and his mom found the key and took all his documents. All he has are photocopies.

Photocopies are often sufficient. Now it's just a matter of finding the official site to get the correct information.

Somehow I think the copy of citizenship paper is enough (true copy ?). It is for the Nepali passport holder residing abroad but I would think this will be the same requirement, right ?

http://www.nepal-embassy.org/passport.html

Hope this helps !

[deathbydalbhat 0]

I think they also took his birth certificate or what he calls his 'citizenship paper' - he is saying he kept everything in a lockbox and his mom found the key and took all his documents. All he has are photocopies.

Photocopies are often sufficient. Now it's just a matter of finding the official site to get the correct information.

Somehow I think the copy of citizenship paper is enough (true copy ?). It is for the Nepali passport holder residing abroad but I would think this will be the same requirement, right ?

http://www.nepal-embassy.org/passport.html

Hope this helps !

You are so kind!! Thank you so much - I googled 'Replacement Nepal Passport' earlier but couldn't find anything - this is helpful. I will forward the link to K. I wonder what they mean by 'true copy' -notorized maybe?

This makes me feel a little better - I have been so nervous I haven't been able to eat all day...

[tom&tata 2]

Link from ministry of foreign affair

http://www.mofa.gov.np/passport.php

I don't know if this will help. At least it is a start.

Good luck !

[deathbydalbhat 0]

Link from ministry of foreign affair

http://www.mofa.gov.np/passport.php

I don't know if this will help. At least it is a start.

Good luck !

Thank you - I forwarded both links to K and hope this will help...

Please keep your fingers crossed and say a prayer(if you are so inclined) for us.

Happy new year!!

[tom&tata 2]

Link from ministry of foreign affair

http://www.mofa.gov.np/passport.php

I don't know if this will help. At least it is a start.

Good luck !

Thank you - I forwarded both links to K and hope this will help...

Please keep your fingers crossed and say a prayer(if you are so inclined) for us.

Happy new year!!

Will do. As long as you don't tell my boss (can't you tell I am at work ? )

Glad to help. The visa process is not easy - even without additional hassle of "lost" passport.

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He needs to do what it takes to get that key.

[deathbydalbhat 0]

He needs to do what it takes to get that key.

He said something about her putting everything in a locked room and wearing the key around her neck - sounds like something from a movie... Also I think his dad is around pretty much all of the time, he's a retired cop(remember the boys in blue cammies you saw beating demonstrators up with bamboo poles in April during the people's protests in KTM?)... Our only hope is if she cycles back to liking me again - I told him, if that happens get your documents and get them out of the house, put them in a safelty deposit box, if Nepali banks have them... If she doesn't turn around he'll have to get a replacement or I don't know what we'll do...

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Sounds like his mom is playing the typical desi dominating mommy and your fiance is being the typical desi subservient beta who can only look on helplessly as events pass him by.

This is a family problem and the solution lies in changing those family dynamics. Your fiance is going to have to 'change' and change soon.

[deathbydalbhat 0]

Sounds like his mom is playing the typical desi dominating mommy and your fiance is being the typical desi subservient beta who can only look on helplessly as events pass him by.

This is a family problem and the solution lies in changing those family dynamics. Your fiance is going to have to 'change' and change soon.

I don't know how much he can do apart from what he is already doing - he is moving out of the house and is refusing to give in to her - as far as the passport situation is concerned, he found out he has what copies he needs to get a replacement, so that immediate problem can be solved... yes it is in part the typical desi mama drama but it is also complicated by the fact that she is mentally ill, physically abusive, bipolar and extremely unstable - 2 months ago she was talking about helping to pick out my wedding sari and now this? So she is not acting logically by any means and at a certain point if it were me I wouldn't stand up to her or try to get her to change(head, meet wall) but find a way to escape and preserve my own sanity and that is what he is doing...