Broke up after arriving...

[Novembro 1,763]

Sorry man! Do what everyone here has said and stay out of contact with her. She might try her damndest to get in contact with you and win you over, but you know better. Good luck.

[Messybrownhair 251]

stay strong and don't fall for her tricks when she comes crawling back to you! so sorry

[Darnell 8,479]

Notify USCIS in writing

No need, a waste of time,

given the OP's exact situation.

Sure, there are other situations when this is required,

but for the OP's exact situation?

Won't do a thing. It's a nice sentiment that you are trying to share, however, so I applaud you with the attempt.

[Ketsuban 1,034]

OP doesn't need to do anything whatsoever. His ex is a fool who didn't realise she dug her own immigration grave when she left him without filing AOS papers first. She can't adjust through anybody but OP.

[Avery Cates 1,141]

Dear friends,

After a long year of waiting, my Fiance arrived and broke up with me.

She is now in the wind and not answering my texts. She's staying with her friend whom i do not know.

How do I put myself in the clear? Whom do i contact to notify that she is not getting married to me?

I am heartbroken, in a trillion pieces and every horrible adjective to describe my crushed heart.

Thanks for all of your help throughout 2013.

Sorry to hear that.

Fortunately for you, she cannot adjust status in any way up to an including marrying someone else, it can only be adjusted by marrying the original petitioner. Once the I-94 expires she'll be out of status with no recourse. She will contact you again, but whatever you do do not take her back and get married. Inform USCIS of what's occurred in writing, and if you find out where she is, you can let them know that as well.

If you want to really teach her and have money to burn, since she obviously doesn't know how to pull off this visa fraud thing well, when she does contact you again, tell her you want to go to some country nowhere near her home one to get married. Give her a little of the ol' razzle dazzle at the airport and leave her there, and hop on the next returning flight to the US yourself. Even if she manages to get a flight back to the US herself, she'll be turned away at the border.

Or maybe I'm just a particularly evil person. I've made peace with that though.

[christeen 966]

Once she gets proper coaching, she will undoubtedly call you to reconcile (as she will have discovered this is her ONLY path or legal residence) ... Tell her that you have already reported her as a scammer and to flip off... You need do nothing more. Sorry for your pain, it hurts to be used like that... You got off lucky though that she was not more scam prepped... Move forward, don't look back, better to have found out now..

[Livelyjo 15]

Sorry to hear that.

Fortunately for you, she cannot adjust status in any way up to an including marrying someone else, it can only be adjusted by marrying the original petitioner. Once the I-94 expires she'll be out of status with no recourse. She will contact you again, but whatever you do do not take her back and get married. Inform USCIS of what's occurred in writing, and if you find out where she is, you can let them know that as well.

If you want to really teach her and have money to burn, since she obviously doesn't know how to pull off this visa fraud thing well, when she does contact you again, tell her you want to go to some country nowhere near her home one to get married. Give her a little of the ol' razzle dazzle at the airport and leave her there, and hop on the next returning flight to the US yourself. Even if she manages to get a flight back to the US herself, she'll be turned away at the border.

Or maybe I'm just a particularly evil person. I've made peace with that though.

hahahaha Your so evil!!!! I would do that but my conscience will haunt me!

[JohnR! 5,495]

Dear friends,

After a long year of waiting, my Fiance arrived and broke up with me.

She is now in the wind and not answering my texts. She's staying with her friend whom i do not know.

How do I put myself in the clear? Whom do i contact to notify that she is not getting married to me?

I am heartbroken, in a trillion pieces and every horrible adjective to describe my crushed heart.

Thanks for all of your help throughout 2013.

You don't need to do anything. Her k-1 visa is only valid if she marries you, so after 90 days she'll be out of status, illegally in the country. There is no need to contact anyone at this point.

Sorry for your predicament!

[Livelyjo 15]

So sorry about what happened to you. I pray God may give you strength!!

[Natanloupan 11]

Maybe I am just different , but I will not judge this person so quickly . What courage and strength it must take to leave and come to a new country . To leave in most cases an entire family and life behind . Coming to a new country and so often it is not what you expected .

Only advice I can give is to be careful of her return . If you have some time left of the 90 then take it and make sure . What she has done has caused doubt and a loss of trust . If she never returns then do what is needed to protect yourself .

I have had a similar situation as yours . It is hard , but you will get over it and move on .

God Bless

[Avery Cates 1,141]

hahahaha Your so evil!!!! I would do that but my conscience will haunt me!

It's the first thing I'd do.

"Come on honey, let's have a nice romantic marriage and honeymoon in Madagascar!"

Extra points if it's an island.

Edited February 20, 2014 by Avery Cates

[Girl from Celebes 588]

Maybe I am just different , but I will not judge this person so quickly . What courage and strength it must take to leave and come to a new country . To leave in most cases an entire family and life behind . Coming to a new country and so often it is not what you expected .

Only advice I can give is to be careful of her return . If you have some time left of the 90 then take it and make sure . What she has done has caused doubt and a loss of trust . If she never returns then do what is needed to protect yourself .

I have had a similar situation as yours . It is hard , but you will get over it and move on .

God Bless

I agree with you this part. I had to leave my wonderful job, friends, family to be with the man I love and dealt with new lifestyle, environment, and other things. But for scammers, these things no affect to them because they are chasing "an American dream" to live in the land of their dreams. Too many horror stories here and this post probably is not the last one. I am sorry it did happen to you.

Edited February 20, 2014 by Girl from Celebes

[Natanloupan 11]

I agree with you this part. I had to leave my wonderful job, friends, family to be with the man I love and dealt with new lifestyle, environment, and other things. But for scammers, these things no affect to them because they are chasing "an American dream" to live in the land of their dreams. Too many horror stories here and this post probably is not the last ones.

Thanks I just wanted to point out the view of the beneficiary . Everyone is so quick to talk about scammers and such . Who knows exactly what happened in the OP case . He is just looking for answers on the situation . I am not going to judge his fiancee who I am sure he still has feelings for . I am also sure that's not what he asked for either when he created the account .

Like I said before I had a similar situation , but I was able to stop it before the interview . I felt his pain sitting for a year and going through this long journey and to end up with nothing . Looking back you can see all the warning red flags , but you chose to ignore them . I have met someone else and using my past experience you can see the difference in the relationships . Prayers go out to the OP to find some comfort and be able to move on .

[asianculture 14]

wow! you don't deserve her...and they are right she will leave you again when she get what she wants, so be happy that you didn't marry her.

God bless!

[Scott & Kaye 32]

A story for people who think they can lie their way in to the US.

I recently had a neighbor who was renting a room to a Filipina girl next door to where I live. I never paid much attention but I would often see her outside with her Filipino boyfriend. He did not live there but was with her often and it was noticeable they were a couple.

The neighbor lost his house to the bank and they all moved out one day. Weeks later I had a knock at my front door and it was two men in suits who showed their badges and identified themselves as imigration officers.

They wanted to ask me some questions about my neighbor who used to live next door. They opened a binder and showed me a photo of the Filipina girl. I said yes she used to live next door but recently moved out. Then they showed me a photo of the Filipino boyfriend. I said I have seen that guy with her daily but he did not live there. I told them that I suspected it was her boyfriend or something because I would see them hugging and kissing outside. Then they showed me a third photo of a middle aged white guy who I have never seen before. I told them I have never seen him. I asked them what they were investigating and they said the Filipino guy in the photo was her husband in the Philippines and they were supposed to be divorced. He was here illegally and they were looking for him also.

A week later I received another knock on my door and it was the Filipina girl with some white guy I have never seen before. #######? I have never met her or spoke to her before but only saw her outside many times. I was surprised that she knew I was the one the police talked to.

She was overly nice and introduced herself and then introduced the white guy as her husband. She was going on and on about her visa situation and bla bla bla. I nicely but firmly stopped her from talking. I told her that two federal imigration officers came to my house and showed me her photo and asked if I knew her. I said yes she lived next door. Then I told her how they showed me a photo of her Filipino boyfriend. I said you know the little guy your always with?? Her eyes got big. Then I told her they showed me a photo of a middle aged white guy who Ive never seen before. I looked at the guy standing behind her and I said I guess that was you ha??

She asked me to write a letter stating that I was wrong in what I said to the officers. #######? No I don't know you and I hope the best for you but im not going to lie to a federal officer. She tried to get the white guy to talk to me and I again said im not interested in their personal situation.

I asked them to leave and not bother me again. The old neighbor who rented a room to the girl even came knocking on my door a few days later begging me to tell the immigration officers I made a mistake. I told him I was going to call the police if any of them ever bothered me again.

Im not sure whatever happened to them but I sure wasn't going to lie to federal officers.