How much money your husband gives you per month?

[rawas 13]

Rawas, are you saying your husband is not buying you the basics (deodorant, sanitary items etc) or just that you want a little allowance to buy some new clothes? Either way, you need to talk to him and see if you can come to some kind of agreement while you're looking for work. I think it would be a little mean of him to not buy you basic toiletries though, if that's what you're saying.

he is buying the basics (sanitary, ,,, though,,,,, )

i was just asking for some more clothes ,

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

he is buying the basics (sanitary, ,,, though,,,,, )

i was just asking for some more clothes ,

Usually, in American marriages, both parties have access to the money (unless one has a serious spending problem). Ask him about the monthly budget and ask if there is room for a little more for clothes.

For us, my husband works and I stay home...but I handle all of the finances and decide what I spend on clothes or makeup, etc.

[Erica & L 52]

I don't know how comfortable I'd feel if my wife didn't share financial information with me. Right now, she's the only one who can work, and when she was in Canada, I was the only one who could work. We've yet to be together and have two incomes coming in at the same time but we share a bank account, make budgets together. What's hers is mine and what's mine is hers. We have never given each other "allowances" or something, you should be equal partners, not acting like parent and child, imo.

[Boiler 45,932]

I paid my own way.

I paid my own way.

[JnRMo 16]

If he doesn't feel comfortable giving you joint access at this time, I might suggest prepaid cards. They're far from ideal - but he could probably set it up so a certain amount of money is put on the card every month for discretionary spending, or something like that. With good spending habits maybe he will feel more comfortable integrating you into his finances.

If he's unwilling to do this, you could set up an amazon wish list of things you'd like for clothing and what not, and if he's tight with the purse strings maybe he could buy you things from that from time to time (for amazon they often do free returns for clothing in case it doesn't fit, keep an eye out for it though, not everything is eligible).

Personally, my wife and I plan to fully integrate our finances once she arrives - so far we only have one joint credit card which doesn't really make much use of. I had been supporting her while she was looking for work elsewhere in Europe, but since she found a job back home she's been supporting herself. I will probably manage our money for the most part though, just because I'm more familiar with a lot of things.

Just talk about it with him, I'm sure you can work out some arrangement that both of you can live with.

Also - others have mentioned volunteer opportunities. You might also want to look into a temp agency. Depending where you live, your language and job skills, etc, there may be some opportunities even if it's just stuffing envelopes or the like.

[NikLR 13,232]

I disagree with giving someone an "allowance" unless they've proven to spend money willy nilly on unnecessary items. I agree with what's mine is yours and all that goes with it. I also agree that there is a need to budget so that you do not overspend.

I think you need to talk to your husband.

[rawas 13]

Usually, in American marriages, both parties have access to the money (unless one has a serious spending problem). Ask him about the monthly budget and ask if there is room for a little more for clothes.

For us, my husband works and I stay home...but I handle all of the finances and decide what I spend on clothes or makeup, etc.

hi, thank you for your reply , i want to ask him about monthly budget , but i dont know how much i can ask for i recently came and i just started knowing the prices for some things i surely need

how much budget do you think i can ask for ?

THANKS

[rawas 13]

I don't know how comfortable I'd feel if my wife didn't share financial information with me. Right now, she's the only one who can work, and when she was in Canada, I was the only one who could work. We've yet to be together and have two incomes coming in at the same time but we share a bank account, make budgets together. What's hers is mine and what's mine is hers. We have never given each other "allowances" or something, you should be equal partners, not acting like parent and child, imo.

Yes , right ' what's here is mine and what's mine is hers' most time when both partners they work with 2 incomes , but if there is just 1 income you can find 1 partner out of financial situation and just ask for some budget

[Jamie & Izzy 98]

My husband and i share everything ,sometimes his the one who has money sometimes i do but its mostly him, like when he comes visits me i pay for everything ,but when we are traveling or i visit him he pays for what we need, since i don`t work i`m broke at the moment and my husband gets me everything i need,i do not do my hair and buy lots of cloth in fact i go to GoodWill and Severs ,we have far more important things to spend money on than cloth and hair .

Why don`t the two of you talk about these things ? :S

Izzy

[christeen 966]

Ok.. First off... Guys have NO idea what type of stuff we need... You need to make a list of the stuff you need... And another list of stuff you want or would like to have (then go on amazon or even wal mart or target to check prices)... Sit down and go over both lists and ask him what the monthly budget is. Ask to go shopping with him and tell him you need to get familiar with prices and what is actually available here... He probably does not even think this is something he needs to do (most me just assume we know how to spend money and shop) ...

[rawas 13]

Ok.. First off... Guys have NO idea what type of stuff we need... You need to make a list of the stuff you need... And another list of stuff you want or would like to have (then go on amazon or even wal mart or target to check prices)... Sit down and go over both lists and ask him what the monthly budget is. Ask to go shopping with him and tell him you need to get familiar with prices and what is actually available here... He probably does not even think this is something he needs to do (most me just assume we know how to spend money and shop) ...

Thank you for the idea

[SennaBrigante 92]

Money is always tight with us but when he has something extra, he'll share. He doesn't always send me money now except when I ask him to but it's never for personal consumption, I use it for doctor's appointments, to send stuff via courier, etc.

I don't know how my financial situation will be when I get to the US. He'll want me to focus on our baby so getting a job is out of the question. I might need to do an online, stay-at-home type of job because I don't feel comfortable asking for money for clothes or a pedicure. I'm still getting used to this being married thing lol. I was never the "what's mine is yours" kind of person and neither is he so we're feeling our way through it for now.

[Cathi 5,783]

Well if you don't ask, how is he to know you want or need something? You really should have a joint account, or at least an account for yourself with money for you to access. When my husband arrived he didn't find employment for 5 months,but he did bring some money with him. The moment he arrived I added him to my accounts and he got an ATM card so he had access to money anytime he needed or wanted anything. Men aren't very perceptive(sorry guys) when it comes to knowing when women need clothes or make up. Speak up, let him know.

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

hi, thank you for your reply , i want to ask him about monthly budget , but i dont know how much i can ask for i recently came and i just started knowing the prices for some things i surely need

how much budget do you think i can ask for ?

THANKS

Well, that is the issue because it really depends on income and expenses. How much I spend on clothes, shoes, etc. per month is probably not the same as any one else's budgetary allotment.

I'd say to get a new dress or outfit that isn't Walmart level, you'd probably need about $80 (not including shoes). If you are really thrifty or buy at a super discount then maybe $40, but it really depends on what you are buying and where.

[African Bride 6]

My husband doesn't give me any limit about how much money that he will give me per month. Since in the beginning of our relationship, we are always be transparent about everything include how much money we make per month and how much money we spent. He gave me an access to his bank account and he sent me one of his ATM Card so that i can take some money out every time i need it, even though i am still in overseas. My husband gives me 'thrust' and that how marriage couple suppose to be.