How much money your husband gives you per month?

[rawas 13]

Hi VJ family , i recently moved to the unites states ,im sitting at the house no Job yet, im trying to find a job in the futur soon, my husband doesn't share financial information with me, i get no money from him for now , i have a question , Im curious to know how much money your husband gives you per month as pocket money including anything you want to do like (hear care, clothes ......) saving .....?

a new marital life for me and I have no idea what the others wifes they do? are you responsable and in charge about the house budget? Food ...ect

Thanks

[Tayri n Tudert 11]

I work and my husband is the one who relocated to the U.S so I can't really give you much insight on the budget he gives me because I make my own money for now. Since he doesn't currently work, we just try to communicate as best as we can and he lets me know what he needs to have or what he forgot at home and we do our best to fit it into the budget. So I'd just kindly bring it up to your husband, when he married you he did realize that he would have to provide for you (atleast the basics) so I don't think he'll be surprised or angry.

but as a new wife I clean, cook, plan the grocery list/meals for the week, and try to remember everything I need to do and learn a lot along the way LOL.

My husband helps me a lot though, he assists me clean the house as well when it's a big cleaning and since I work nights and we share a home with my mother, so she cooks on the days that I work. On my days off we usually go grocery shopping together because we coupon (it's a good way of saving money on the grocery budget) or we plan a day out in the city, like going to the museum or the park.

As for a job, if you're religious, you should go to the nearby mosque and see if there are any volunteer opportunities or people in the community hiring. If you aren't interested in that libraries, museums, etc are always hiring volunteers so to get some experience you could always do that to keep you busy and not bored at home while you're searching for employment! Another idea would be to search for a job as a nanny/babysitter, a lot of people actually prefer having a nanny that speaks other languages so their children can benefit from it.

Edited February 19, 2014 by Tayri n Tudert

[Peace.... 281]

Yeah same here, when my husband got here from Morocco, it was perfectly normal to ask him if he needed anything on a daily basis. After a few weeks of receiving his social security card, I added him to all my bank accounts where he received his on ATM and debit card to use for whatever he needed. Now that he has been working a few years, he just goes to the stores and shops whenever he needs something now.

As far as the home stuff, we both enjoy cooking a lot. If I'm not home in the evening when he has a off day, I will come home to a wonderful moroccan dinner. I never have to make the bed lol, it's done as soon as his feet hits the floor. He does his own wash as he always did in Morocco. I don't work, so I basically do all the grocery shopping, etc. and keep up the little necessary things inside the home.

[Cam54 84]

I saved up some money from my home country to bring with me but when that run out I just had to tell my husband to make his account a joint account, went to the bank n it was incredibly easy, now there are no uncomfortable 'can I have some money' situations. I was very independent in the UK so asking for money was really hard for me but you have to drop your ego a little and just ask.

[Messybrownhair 251]

He never gave me an allowance, we had a joint account and everything is transparent and out in the open. We both know how much we make, and how we spend our money. May not work for all couples, but works for us

[Novembro 1,763]

Joint accounts are the way to go. What's mine is yours and all that jazz.

[Tahoma 2,292]

When Chinook and I got engaged, I started sharing all of my financial information with her. I opened a joint bank account and I sent her an ATM card before she ever entered the U.S. She never had to ask for money.

We both still are totally transparent about money. We still have that joint account which now both of us contribute to, as well as individual accounts.

[li_09 40]

I wasn't working either when I was living there but I never asked for money. Instead whatever I wanted I'd tell him and he'd buy it for me. However even though he was making all the money I budgeted it all for us, I allocated what went towards bills food savings etc. It worked well for him cause he didn't have to worry about that stuff anymore.

I agree with the others it's all about being transparent. Maybe you should talk to your husband about this

[Marilyn. 340]

my husband works and we have joint accounts. I make sure all the bills get paid etc.. He usually has no clue how much money we have or don't have.

[AmyWrites 593]

We just have a joint account.

[rawas 13]

I work and my husband is the one who relocated to the U.S so I can't really give you much insight on the budget he gives me because I make my own money for now. Since he doesn't currently work, we just try to communicate as best as we can and he lets me know what he needs to have or what he forgot at home and we do our best to fit it into the budget. So I'd just kindly bring it up to your husband, when he married you he did realize that he would have to provide for you (atleast the basics) so I don't think he'll be surprised or angry.

but as a new wife I clean, cook, plan the grocery list/meals for the week, and try to remember everything I need to do and learn a lot along the way LOL.

My husband helps me a lot though, he assists me clean the house as well when it's a big cleaning and since I work nights and we share a home with my mother, so she cooks on the days that I work. On my days off we usually go grocery shopping together because we coupon (it's a good way of saving money on the grocery budget) or we plan a day out in the city, like going to the museum or the park.

As for a job, if you're religious, you should go to the nearby mosque and see if there are any volunteer opportunities or people in the community hiring. If you aren't interested in that libraries, museums, etc are always hiring volunteers so to get some experience you could always do that to keep you busy and not bored at home while you're searching for employment! Another idea would be to search for a job as a nanny/babysitter, a lot of people actually prefer having a nanny that speaks other languages so their children can benefit from it.

Tayri and tudert thank you , im happy your husband got his visa , and both are living together,

[rawas 13]

Yeah same here, when my husband got here from Morocco, it was perfectly normal to ask him if he needed anything on a daily basis. After a few weeks of receiving his social security card, I added him to all my bank accounts where he received his on ATM and debit card to use for whatever he needed. Now that he has been working a few years, he just goes to the stores and shops whenever he needs something now.

As far as the home stuff, we both enjoy cooking a lot. If I'm not home in the evening when he has a off day, I will come home to a wonderful moroccan dinner. I never have to make the bed lol, it's done as soon as his feet hits the floor. He does his own wash as he always did in Morocco. I don't work, so I basically do all the grocery shopping, etc. and keep up the little necessary things inside the home.

hi, you have been asking your husband if he needs something ,my husband dont ask me , i ask my husband to buy me something i need , he rarely ask for something like that, the only thing he do is to make sure we have food in the kitchen and he memorize what we need and he just buy what we need no more , before i came here from time to time he was sending me some money to do what i may need to , now i get nothing

Tahoma, on 19 Feb 2014 - 1:23 PM, said:

When Chinook and I got engaged, I started sharing all of my financial information with her. I opened a joint bank account and I sent her an ATM card before she ever entered the U.S. She never had to ask for money.

We both still are totally transparent about money. We still have that joint account which now both of us contribute to, as well as individual

Hi tahoma , happy for you and for your wife

when i have read some post in VJ i asked him to open a joint account /added me to his account ,

he accepted to added me to his Checking account

Edited February 20, 2014 by rawas

[rawas 13]

Hi ismail and blair

yes communication is the key

Edited February 20, 2014 by rawas

[Ismael&Blair 66]

We have a joint account too now. But when my husband first arrived, we went to go shopping to get the supplies & clothes he needed to feel more at home. He didn't have his social security yet so I also made sure he had "pocket money" to go shave his head weekly and get his cigarettes.

I think communication is the key to let your spouse know what you need. Good luck and best wishes!

Edited February 20, 2014 by Ismael&Blair

[Ketsuban 1,034]

hi, you have been asking your husband if he needs something ,my husband dont ask me , i ask my husband to buy me something i need , he rarely ask for something like that, the only thing he do is to make sure we have food in the kitchen and he memorize what we need and he just buy what we need no more , before i came here from time to time he was sending me some money to do what i may need to , now i get nothing

Rawas, are you saying your husband is not buying you the basics (deodorant, sanitary items etc) or just that you want a little allowance to buy some new clothes? Either way, you need to talk to him and see if you can come to some kind of agreement while you're looking for work. I think it would be a little mean of him to not buy you basic toiletries though, if that's what you're saying.