'Forced' to marry

[Fandango 1,439]

Right. The "type of person" who would live with a partner outside of marriage is probably more likely to be willing to leave a bad marriage. Or, conversely, one could say that the "type of person" who would not live with a partner outside of marriage might be more likely to stay in a bad marriage.

How about the type of person who is adverse to marriage is more likely to create a bad marriage, then leave?

I'll tell you what....I couldn't disagree more with your last line. I've done the virginal marriage thing and that didn't work. I've now been with D for 7 years. And we've cohabited for YEARS. I was adverse to marriage again for a while...not because of D, mind you, just because I wasn't ready. But don't you sit here and tell me I'm more likely to create a bad marriage.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I don't mind. Who are you to me anyway? No one, and to drag my spouse into a discussion you didn't have the intelligence to comment on prior to your insult, I'm fine with your insults. That's apparently what you do best.

I didn't drag your spouse into anything. I merely commented on your ability to get along with people and maintain relationships via your definition of commitment/marriage.

You said he is desparate. You actually have no clue about my ability to get along with people and maintain relationships via your definition of commitment/marriage, so that's merely a lie.

News flash: No one is responsible for how some of you feel when you read what they say. You choose how you feel, and your response is internal. I have no control over you, only you do.

What about when people use the words gross and abnormal to describe their feelings about a relationship then? I think you need to practice what you preach.

I understood my response, jenn. It was about prejudice, not a merely bone-headed comment put of the blue, like rj's. Don't equate the two.

[Fandango 1,439]

Right. The "type of person" who would live with a partner outside of marriage is probably more likely to be willing to leave a bad marriage. Or, conversely, one could say that the "type of person" who would not live with a partner outside of marriage might be more likely to stay in a bad marriage.

How about the type of person who is adverse to marriage is more likely to create a bad marriage, then leave?

I would imagine that a person who is averse to marriage would be LESS likely to go into a marriage unless they were DOUBLY certain that it is the right thing for them to do.

couldn't agree more!

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Right. The "type of person" who would live with a partner outside of marriage is probably more likely to be willing to leave a bad marriage. Or, conversely, one could say that the "type of person" who would not live with a partner outside of marriage might be more likely to stay in a bad marriage.

How about the type of person who is adverse to marriage is more likely to create a bad marriage, then leave?

I'll tell you what....I couldn't disagree more with your last line. I've done the virginal marriage thing and that didn't work. I've now been with D for 7 years. And we've cohabited for YEARS. I was adverse to marriage again for a while...not because of D, mind you, just because I wasn't ready. But don't you sit here and tell me I'm more likely to create a bad marriage.

That's what the studies show, hon, not me. I haven't had time to study cohabitors. You got a ###### with it, take it to them.

[Fandango 1,439]

News flash: No one is responsible for how some of you feel when you read what someone says. You choose how you feel, and your response is internal. I have no control over you, only you do.

So stop concerning yourself with others' marriages and keep telling yourself the bit I put in red....and you'll feel better in the am

[Jenn! 918]

News flash: No one is responsible for how some of you feel when you read what they say. You choose how you feel, and your response is internal. I have no control over you, only you do.

What about when people use the words gross and abnormal to describe their feelings about a relationship then? I think you need to practice what you preach.

I understood my response, jenn. It was about prejudice, not a merely bone-headed comment put of the blue, like rj's. Don't equate the two.

My comment, like yours, was not specific to rebeccajo's posts.

[Fandango 1,439]

Right. The "type of person" who would live with a partner outside of marriage is probably more likely to be willing to leave a bad marriage. Or, conversely, one could say that the "type of person" who would not live with a partner outside of marriage might be more likely to stay in a bad marriage.

How about the type of person who is adverse to marriage is more likely to create a bad marriage, then leave?

I'll tell you what....I couldn't disagree more with your last line. I've done the virginal marriage thing and that didn't work. I've now been with D for 7 years. And we've cohabited for YEARS. I was adverse to marriage again for a while...not because of D, mind you, just because I wasn't ready. But don't you sit here and tell me I'm more likely to create a bad marriage.

That's what the studies show, hon, not me. I haven't had time to study cohabitors. You got a ###### with it, take it to them.

I'm not your hon, sz.

And you know what you can do with your 'research'....it's bollocks.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

News flash: No one is responsible for how some of you feel when you read what someone says. You choose how you feel, and your response is internal. I have no control over you, only you do.

So stop concerning yourself with others' marriages and keep telling yourself the bit I put in red....and you'll feel better in the am

This is a public board and I haev every right to comment. I will continue to do so when the topic arises. Try to make me stop.

[rebeccajo 14]

I didn't drag your spouse into anything. I merely commented on your ability to get along with people and maintain relationships via your definition of commitment/marriage.

You said he is desparate. You actually have no clue about my ability to get along with people and maintain relationships via your definition of commitment/marriage, so that's merely a lie.

True. I did say he was desperate. Perhaps that was unfair.

It does appear though that if you are THIS cranky often, SOMEONE would have to be EXTREMELY committed OR desperate to put up with you.

Just what I'm picking up on from your comments.....

*fiddlesticks I messed up the quote thingy....*

Edited January 1, 2007 by rebeccajo

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I'm not your hon, sz.

And you know what you can do with your 'research'....it's bollocks.

Don't read my posts if you don't like them, jenn. You know what you can do with your opinions . . . kepp them to yourself if you don't want them commented on.

[Jenn! 918]

I'm not your hon, sz.

And you know what you can do with your 'research'....it's bollocks.

Don't read my posts if you don't like them, jenn. You know what you can do with your opinions . . . kepp them to yourself if you don't want them commented on.

I didn't write that.

[Fandango 1,439]

News flash: No one is responsible for how some of you feel when you read what someone says. You choose how you feel, and your response is internal. I have no control over you, only you do.

So stop concerning yourself with others' marriages and keep telling yourself the bit I put in red....and you'll feel better in the am

This is a public board and I haev every right to comment. I will continue to do so when the topic arises. Try to make me stop.

internet smacktalk, how funny!

You get on your high horse when someone mentions your spouse, yet you freely dictate your own beliefs on others. It's perfectly fine to have and state your own opinion, but when you get so hung up on telling people how they're living their lives is wrong, well then it just seems a little bit unhinged.

I don't really want you to stop, tho...cos this is entertaining & I'm full of cold, so I've got nowt better to do, lol

I'm not your hon, sz.

And you know what you can do with your 'research'....it's bollocks.

Don't read my posts if you don't like them, jenn. You know what you can do with your opinions . . . kepp them to yourself if you don't want them commented on.

I didn't write that.

if she actually used the 'quote' button more often, she'd not get so confused

[Sofiyya 1,687]

It does appear though that if you are THIS cranky often, SOMEONE would have to be EXTREMELY committed OR desperate to put up with you.

Were you being cranky when you were so dogged on the MENA board and said you'd never return, or were you just expressing your views?

It's all in the perspective. No everyone thinks you're all sweetness and lite either.

[Jenn! 918]

I'm full of cold

I'm not sure whether I should give you a blanket or some sudafed.

[Alex+R 0]

Let's keep the cat fighting to a minimum here, this isn't ME/NA after all!

(PS That's just the rumor, I honestly don't go there enough to know if it's true)