The Curse of the Plnk Ranter

[Caryh 5,206]

I guess I paid a dowry to uscis lawl

I was lucky to get the youngest in the family. Getting the oldest costs much more. Funny thing is, I'm not joking actually either.

[Novembro 1,763]

I was lucky to get the youngest in the family. Getting the oldest costs much more. Funny thing is, I'm not joking actually either.

da fuq?

We had to deal with this one the longest, so pay us more for her.

[Caryh 5,206]

da fuq?

We had to deal with this one the longest, so pay us more for her.

The oldest daughter is the second mother. They serve a very integral and important part in the family. They are often responsible for insuring the younger siblings get through school and the costs associated with that. The eldest son is like the second father, again an important role. He is also the one primarily responsible for supporting the parents in old age. Now this is not so much looked at as dowries, as it is accepting that you're taking on part of that responsibility in the future. There was no SS system in her country, the children are the social security of the parents.

As to the food and planting the tree. That is sort of traditional courtship and engagement rituals. The food is for the celebration of the impending marriage. The work, purchasing and planting a pine tree shows the family you'll work hard to support their daughter and the family. It could have been any type of work though. None of this truly needs to be done, but my wife is a bit traditional and even though her family accepted her marrying outside their culture would mean things would be different, I did choose to honor their traditions in this regard. BTW the pigs were lechon (roast pig) which I love and would have bought any way.

Also by doing all of these things in somewhat their traditional ways, I'm accepted as a Filipino too and not just a foreign guy. The value of that is huge in relationships with my in laws.

Edited February 19, 2014 by Caryh

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

The oldest daughter is the second mother. They serve a very integral and important part in the family. They are often responsible for insuring the younger siblings get through school and the costs associated with that. The eldest son is like the second father, again an important role. He is also the one primarily responsible for supporting the parents in old age. Now this is so much looked at as dowries as accepting that you're taking on part of that responsibility in the future. There was no SS system in her country, the children are the social security of the parents.

As to the food and planting the tree. That is sort of traditional courtship and engagement rituals. The food is for the celebration of the impending marriage. The work, purchasing and planting a pine tree shows the family you'll work hard to support their daughter and the family. It could have been any type of work though. None of this truly needs to be done, but my wife is a bit traditional and even though her family accepted her marrying outside their culture would mean things would be different, I did choose to honor their traditions in this regard. BTW the pigs were lechon (roast pig) which I love and would have bought any way.

Also by doing all of these things in somewhat their traditional ways, I'm accepted as a Filipino too and not just a foreign guy. The value of that is huge in relationships with my in laws.

It is sweet that you went through all of that.

[Novembro 1,763]

seriously!

[SAT 9,609]

The oldest daughter is the second mother. They serve a very integral and important part in the family. They are often responsible for insuring the younger siblings get through school and the costs associated with that. The eldest son is like the second father, again an important role. He is also the one primarily responsible for supporting the parents in old age. Now this is not so much looked at as dowries, as it is accepting that you're taking on part of that responsibility in the future. There was no SS system in her country, the children are the social security of the parents.

As to the food and planting the tree. That is sort of traditional courtship and engagement rituals. The food is for the celebration of the impending marriage. The work, purchasing and planting a pine tree shows the family you'll work hard to support their daughter and the family. It could have been any type of work though. None of this truly needs to be done, but my wife is a bit traditional and even though her family accepted her marrying outside their culture would mean things would be different, I did choose to honor their traditions in this regard. BTW the pigs were lechon (roast pig) which I love and would have bought any way.

Also by doing all of these things in somewhat their traditional ways, I'm accepted as a Filipino too and not just a foreign guy. The value of that is huge in relationships with my in laws.

Yo did I show you guys theig that was sent to my in laws house last year?

Btw, this is why Gump's folks no care about Gump's son. Gump is the younger son. Little Gump doesn't count.

[Caryh 5,206]

It is sweet that you went through all of that.

I had second thoughts when I was digging a hole to plant a 16 foot pine tree. The soil was nothing but clay, sticky as can be, yet so slippery I almost fell a few dozen times. Hole needed to be about six foot deep and around. I asked my wife if they had a digging shovel, she said of course, well the shovel they had was not designed to dig at all. Temperature was in the 90's, humidity was 90% as usual and I was covered in wet clay mud and sweat. But I couldn't stop, as it was a surprise for when they returned home. Took about 4 hours to dig and get the tree planted. I think I near a state of heat stroke when I finished to. My wife was so cute, running to get me glasses of water, and wiping the sweat off my brow. Mind you I'm totally caked in slippery sticky wet clay while she's making sure my forehead isn't too sweaty But the look on their faces as they arrived home and saw this beautiful pine tree in the yard was a real treat to see. By then I'd managed to clean off all the mud off myself, and my wife went to work on hand washing my clothes, while I drank a well earned beer.

[SAT 9,609]

1 wedding pig.....

[Caryh 5,206]

Yo did I show you guys theig that was sent to my in laws house last year?

Btw, this is why Gump's folks no care about Gump's son. Gump is the younger son. Little Gump doesn't count.

You sent a pig to the FIL? We need pics!

I had guessed as much about gump. Too bad they didn't give little gump the correction he needed. Its truly going to hurt the kid's future.

That just made me very hungry!

1 wedding pig.....

[SAT 9,609]

But what's the tree for?

[SAT 9,609]

I can actually go back to Malaysia and somewhat enjoy myself without everyone waiting on the Gump child hand and foot. I miss that village more than KL.

But Gumps wife might ask us to bring him along, thinking everyone is dying to see him....

On second thought. Why, I don't think my daughter is too fond of anyone there except tiffs uncles and cousins.

You sent a pig to the FIL? We need pics!

I had guessed as much about gump. Too bad they didn't give little gump the correction he needed. Its truly going to hurt the kid's future.

That just made me very hungry!

I didn't send the pig. This was the little sisters wedding pig.

My inlaws were here for my wedding in the USA.

[Ontarkie 14,560]

Wedding pig looks good

My husband keeps wanting to smoke a whole hog. I don't think with even my boys we can eat that much food.

[Caryh 5,206]

But what's the tree for?

Its not that is was a tree, its the doing of the work that shows you'll work hard to take care of the daughter and family. Gumps do no work and don't provide well, good guys do. I picked the tree because they needed one for the yard at the new house.

This is the tree, although its gotten much larger now.

[Novembro 1,763]

creepy pig, nice tree

[SAT 9,609]

Nice picture. I love those third world country pics. Lol.

I got a chill again.....

creepy pig, nice tree

That's how Dexter would look like roasted, ok?