Things went wrong....How do I get her out of my house

[sweet cakes 326]

Things have been if'y from the start....I tried and tried and now that she received her 2 year green card on Jan 11th She is unbeariable.....I am sad, crushed and broken hearted but she has to be sent back or removed from my house..... she took my cell phone and is ruining my life and business.....

No one seems to know what to do or advise me.....

Sorry that this happened to you. But as they say, each story has 2 sides. Get a lawyer and see how you can handle this legally, because as far as USCIS is concerned, you helped & supported her to get a GC and her presence in America is now legal. So, it's not gonna be as simple as scaring her off to bring her home now. If things were iffy from the start, who convinced you to continue this process? IMO, If you wish to pursue this to the courts, you need to have more legal grounds though than cellphone theft.

Edited February 4, 2014 by sweet cakes

[Classicrider 3]

Almost 12 hours ago azar posted for help. So many have been kind enough to reply but where is azar?

[aussie_jason 195]

This is a conditional green card and comes before you adjust status (AOS).

Once you have your GC then you have already AOS, the next stage is ROC (Removal Of Conditions).

All the OP can do is follow standard divorce procedures and leave it between his soon to be ex spouse and USCIS to determine if she should be granted a 10 year GC.

[Steve&Ema 25]

Almost 12 hours ago azar posted for help. So many have been kind enough to reply but where is azar?

Yeah I love these people that post these outrageous stories and then disappear. Maybe he's just sitting back, reading the comments and laughing his azz off.

[Lara826 2]

Like others have said, she is now a permanent resident in the US and can remain there at least until the expiration date on her green card, at which point she will have to apply for a 10 year and that will be on her. You have no right to make her leave the country, as USCIS has granted her permission to be here. You should treat it no differently than if you were married to a US citizen. You are her husband not her immigration officer. So what do you do when any marriage is not working out? You talk to the person. You get a divorce. You could not make that person leave your house, the state, country, or do anything else. Talk to her about the situation, and if she is not willing to leave than you would have to leave. Talk to a lawyer about it, see what you can do to remain in your house, if you want a divorce, get a divorce. That won't take away her right to be here. It will be up to her if she stays, if she applies in two years for removal of conditions, and up to immigration if they grant it.

[Jawaree 718]

Dude nothing to do but file for divorce, chalk it up as experience

some R convinced that one side of the world has better wives just

waiting for them to ride in on a white horse, ppl should read some

info on the history of these marriages from some regions & be informed

[MeatLips 1]

Dude, I can sympathize with you. I feel your pain. My wife was someone I met four year ago while she was living here, then she had to go back to China because she got sick and her student visa expired. We stayed in contact and carried on a long distance relationship. I even visited her over there numerous times.over the years. We went through all the heavy paperwork and stuff to get her a fiance K-1 visa, and after a year of waiting, it came through and she finally came over last May. We got married almost immediately. We were happy as hell.

For me, it started last June. My mother's personality just rubbed my wife the wrong way, and while I was in Amsterdam on business, my wife had a complete meltdown. She posted terrible things about my mother and my sister on Facebook, she texted me and called me names. It was brutal. When I got back, she cut herself completely off from my family and went to a therapist. I should mention that she is on several mood stabilizing medications. She's not diagnosed bi-polar, but her rages were scary.

I should point out that I always had a cordial relationship with my family. I love my parents, but I don't see them often. My wife didn't like that my mother would call me on occasion. Since she hated my sister, she forbade me from buying gifts for my niece and nephew. I basicallly cut off all contact from my sister to appease my wife, but it sure as hell wasn't making me happy. I'm convinced that she needs to talk to her therapist more, but she had another meltdown a couple of weeks ago and tortured me all week with phone calls at all hours calling me names, and nasty text messages. She had me so crazy I was screaming at her on the phone at 2am in a hotel in Houston.

There's more to this, but suffice to say, she doesn't drive yet, has no real mobility other than a bicycle. Things came to a head these past couple of days, and now, after reading that she can get her conditions potentially removed from her green card, she informed me that I could either completely cut myself off from my family, or we could divorce. I told her we could work this out in couples therapy, but I was tired and fed up with cutting myself off from my family. So she told me she wanted a divorce.

Having been married before, and that ended in divorce, this is a double whammy to my self-esteem. I'm a bit out of sorts and upset and doing everything I can not to completely lose it at her. I think she is mentally ill, and she did a fantastic job hiding the extent of it for the last four years.

So like I said, I can sympathize with your pain. I'm currently in terrible pain myself.
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Edited February 5, 2014 by MeatLips

[Me_Theo 25]

Things have been if'y from the start....I tried and tried and now that she received her 2 year green card on Jan 11th She is unbeariable.....I am sad, crushed and broken hearted but she has to be sent back or removed from my house..... she took my cell phone and is ruining my life and business.....

No one seems to know what to do or advise me.....

1- Report to police about the stolen your phone or else , 2-Give divorce.3- let USCIS knows she is out of your life.

4- Move on,forget her , don't let she plays with your life more than now

[novedsac 355]

Talk to her about the situation, and if she is not willing to leave than you would have to leave.

Why does he 'have' to leave? He has as much right to stay in the marital home as she has.

[novedsac 355]

1- Report to police about the stolen your phone or else ,

Seriously?

Sure, you could file a report, but it would be frivolous and the police would do absolutely nothing about it.

As far as the police will be concerned, the phone is communal property and she has every right to the cell phone as he does. She can take his wallet … sell the car … empty the contents of the home … get rid of the clothes he wears … etc. There is no theft between spouses as far as the law is concerned (assuming there are no Orders of the Court in place protecting one's self or assets).

Interestingly, if the phone was acquired prior to marriage and used solely by one spouse, then that spouse may be able to claim it as pre-marital property during the division of assets in a divorce, but the police aren't going to be concerned with that #######.

Edited February 5, 2014 by novedsac

[JnRMo 16]

Not sure why everyone is attacking the guy for saying her taking his phone is ruining his life/business. If he runs his own business it'd be easy to up all his business contacts, calling or harassing them, even just deleting them. If he's employed with a company she could do the same, or screw with his coworkers and bosses.

[verysadguy 170]

Agree, this is just a bad marriage unless he can prove fraud, but nothing here supports that. Time for a divorce that will likely be ugly and costly. Get an attorney. If you own the home, ask her to leave. If she owns the home, then you leave. If you are renting break the lease, take your things, and find your own place.

She already has a green card. Lick your wounds and move on. Your lucky, she could call you abusive, have you investigated for human trafficking, and file VAWA etc, however, she already has the GC. Now it is just going to cost you an a$$ load of money.

[verysadguy 170]

Dude, I can sympathize with you. I feel your pain. My wife was someone I met four year ago while she was living here, then she had to go back to China because she got sick and her student visa expired. We stayed in contact and carried on a long distance relationship. I even visited her over there numerous times.over the years. We went through all the heavy paperwork and stuff to get her a fiance K-1 visa, and after a year of waiting, it came through and she finally came over last May. We got married almost immediately. We were happy as hell.

For me, it started last June. My mother's personality just rubbed my wife the wrong way, and while I was in Amsterdam on business, my wife had a complete meltdown. She posted terrible things about my mother and my sister on Facebook, she texted me and called me names. It was brutal. When I got back, she cut herself completely off from my family and went to a therapist. I should mention that she is on several mood stabilizing medications. She's not diagnosed bi-polar, but her rages were scary.

I should point out that I always had a cordial relationship with my family. I love my parents, but I don't see them often. My wife didn't like that my mother would call me on occasion. Since she hated my sister, she forbade me from buying gifts for my niece and nephew. I basicallly cut off all contact from my sister to appease my wife, but it sure as hell wasn't making me happy. I'm convinced that she needs to talk to her therapist more, but she had another meltdown a couple of weeks ago and tortured me all week with phone calls at all hours calling me names, and nasty text messages. She had me so crazy I was screaming at her on the phone at 2am in a hotel in Houston.

There's more to this, but suffice to say, she doesn't drive yet, has no real mobility other than a bicycle. Things came to a head these past couple of days, and now, after reading that she can get her conditions potentially removed from her green card, she informed me that I could either completely cut myself off from my family, or we could divorce. I told her we could work this out in couples therapy, but I was tired and fed up with cutting myself off from my family. So she told me she wanted a divorce.

Having been married before, and that ended in divorce, this is a double whammy to my self-esteem. I'm a bit out of sorts and upset and doing everything I can not to completely lose it at her. I think she is mentally ill, and she did a fantastic job hiding the extent of it for the last four years.

So like I said, I can sympathize with your pain. I'm currently in terrible pain myself.

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Meatlips, Your wife is either bipolar, borderline, or histrionic. They can all be extremely charming and then just flip out on you. Self esteem? No man or woman should ever let another person damage trusted relationships with friends and loved ones. Get yourself together man. You need solo therapy, not couples counseling. Divorce and find someone less f'ed up.

[MeatLips 1]

Meatlips, Your wife is either bipolar, borderline, or histrionic. They can all be extremely charming and then just flip out on you. Self esteem? No man or woman should ever let another person damage trusted relationships with friends and loved ones. Get yourself together man. You need solo therapy, not couples counseling. Divorce and find someone less f'ed up.

Yeah, I am a beaten man. She just told me in tears that she really doesn't want a divorce, that she's going crazy being stuck in my condo so much (that much is understandable). She called her therapist in front of me to see if she can get an earlier appointment. I told her in no uncertain terms that I was not cutting off my family. She agreed and told me she wants me to see a therapist too. That much I also agree with, and we're also going to see a couple's counselor.

So for now, it looks like we're going to try to work this out. Either it will pan out, or I'm the stupidest man alive, but I can't help my emotions for her. It is good to know, however, that she can deal with her own legal status without my help if we do split up.

[Alona_Dan 0]

Where or where did Azar go...or where oh where can he be???? You guys all fell for it.... He dropped a seed and is laughing watching it grow...like this.....