Let's hear it from spouses of Morocco whose marriages are working!

[Cathi 5,742]

My husband more or less doesn't care if he knows any Moroccans here. There are a few guys he's met that he'll talk to occasionally, but they're not a major component of his social life. This may change as the kids get older, and he has more time for socializing outside of family, but maybe not. But other Moroccans weren't really a factor at all in his settling in here.

My husband doesn't care about other Jordanians here either. When he first arrived I was bound and determined to find him friends from Jordan, which I managed to do one day at the mall. We were in a store and I overheard several men speaking Arabic and I immediately went over and introduced myself and hubby. It just so happened they were from Jordan, about 8 or 9 of them. He hung out with them several times over the next 6 months or so, but they really didn't have much in common( they are all unmarried grad students). My husband has made many American friends through work who have embraced him far more than his Jordanian counterparts. He goes out one night a week with the guys from work, he really enjoys it. I think it helps that they have the commonality of working in the same field.

[BraveAmnay 56]

Edited February 8, 2014 by BraveAmnay

[Cathi 5,742]

Sorry if I hijacked your Moroccan thread. Not many Jordanian couples in this forum. My husband and I are very happy despite all of the so called warnings about how we would fail in the first year because of our red flags. We have been together 4 years, married almost 3. He is a great stepfather, husband and he is my best friend. We take care of each other and our marriage just works. These last few months I have very ill, I have several autoimmune diseases( diagnosed 5 years ago) and 2 days ago I was given another diagnosis that isn't the best. I start chemo week after next,not looking forward to it. My husband has been nothing but kind and understanding. When i start feeling sorry for myself he always manages to make me laugh.

[BraveAmnay 56]

Sorry if I hijacked your Moroccan thread. Not many Jordanian couples in this forum. My husband and I are very happy despite all of the so called warnings about how we would fail in the first year because of our red flags. We have been together 4 years, married almost 3. He is a great stepfather, husband and he is my best friend. We take care of each other and our marriage just works. These last few months I have very ill, I have several autoimmune diseases( diagnosed 5 years ago) and 2 days ago I was given another diagnosis that isn't the best. I start chemo week after next,not looking forward to it. My husband has been nothing but kind and understanding. When i start feeling sorry for myself he always manages to make me laugh.

Dont need be sorry .My lil brother's friend is from Jordan .both live In wa state They are good friends.I wish & hope you will get well soon

Edited February 8, 2014 by BraveAmnay

[destiny64 222]

I'll keep you in my thoughts Mimo, your husband will be your rock when you need that support. I hope my husband can find his comfort in the workplace with americans the same as yours is! He is just adapting to being at work and there is still a little bit of language to overcome, mostly because of slang but he's getting there!

[sandinista! 1,816]

I'm sorry to hear about your medical issues too. Best wishes for good outcomes for you.

[Mithra 1,185]

I'm sorry to hear of your medical issues, mimo. I hope everything goes well with the chemo and that you feel better soon.

[MIBEN 83]

First let me say, Mimo I pray that all goes well with chemo and you have the strength to face the therapy.

To add to the thread, my husband Tarik and I have been together over four years and plan to celebrate our fourth anniversary in Morocco this summer. Much like everyone it has taken work, understanding, patience (he helped me), consideration for each other to get here. Honestly, he has been great, seeing him grow in his English skills, learning slang, he has become a comedian and is quite good at comebacks. He helps me at home, learned how to cook a bit any little thing he does to make me feel special counts and vice versa. I am working on my Masters so when I study I hear him in the kitchen with my teen son talking about everything under the sun, what a great feeling knowing he has found his place in the family. I knew how he would feel when he left home as I experienced the same at age 18 when I joined the Army and left the US for the first four years. I was very accommodating to his needs so the first few months we travelled a bit so he could meet my family (13 siblings) to integrate him. He quickly started ESL classes, started driving and he went to temporary agencies to get work until he found a permanent job.

He is not much of a social person with other Moroccans, he prefers to volunteer at church and with the Parks and Recreation Department and has made great friends with the neighbors. Interesting enough older people gravitate to him at every gathering we ever attend. The funniest thing to happen to him, he was asked where he was from and of course his response was "Morocco." Then he was asked, "is that in Mexico?" I about fell out laughing so hard. We live near San Antonio and he is always asked if he is Mexican or they speak to him in Spanish. I always have to explain he does not speak Spanish.

It is a blast being married to him, there is never a dull moment and yes I love his accent and how he regularly says things back wards. Next in line is his citizenship and then the sky is the limit as I love to travel and he is too willing to please me and experience life....

Yes there is good and bad everywhere if I had picked a bad apple, I would never blame all Moroccans I would say "shame on me" learn from the experience, have no regrets and move forward life is too short to have it any other way.

I bought the cutest shirt from Amazon last night that says, "My Husband was Imported from Morocco." I bought it to use during Zumba lol he thinks I am silly but I liked it.

Much Love from Texas...

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

Sorry if I hijacked your Moroccan thread. Not many Jordanian couples in this forum. My husband and I are very happy despite all of the so called warnings about how we would fail in the first year because of our red flags. We have been together 4 years, married almost 3. He is a great stepfather, husband and he is my best friend. We take care of each other and our marriage just works. These last few months I have very ill, I have several autoimmune diseases( diagnosed 5 years ago) and 2 days ago I was given another diagnosis that isn't the best. I start chemo week after next,not looking forward to it. My husband has been nothing but kind and understanding. When i start feeling sorry for myself he always manages to make me laugh.

I am very sorry to read this and we are sending good thoughts to you and you family. STAY Strong.

[peenkhartz 1]

I married my husband in 2010, he has his citizenship, and since his arrival I stopped working and he is providing for us 100%, He was working and going to school at the same time just to take care of us and we are currently trying to conceive and alhamdulilah we are very close to purchasing our first home together. I know men in morocco have a bad rep but not all of them are the same, my husband is a hard worker and I just couldn't ask for more. Wish everyone the best of luck.

[shahara2013 16]

We hope you feel better soon

[berber_wife 90]

Oh mimo, I missed this early. I'm sorry about your medical problems. It bites but I'm glad your husband is so supportive. I've had a similar experience with Younes.

[Afrohanfi 15]

I am sorry if this does not go along with the original question, but I dont really know where to post it. When you did the CR-1 visa (some of you) when you came back to the states did you register that you were married abroad? I ask because I just herd someone got an RFE, because she didnt have the documentation showing that she registered the marriage (I didnt ask them because they are a little judgy). I went to the hall of records in my city when I went to get my birth certificate, and asked the woman helping me if I needed to register that i was married abroad and she told me no, but then I just saw someone get an RFE.

So did you ladies register the marriage when you came back to the states? and did you go to the hall of records in your city to do it?

Thank you

Edited March 17, 2014 by Afroukhs

[ShirahBet 42]

That RFE has to have something else behind it. Registering the marriage isn't required here if married abroad. I haven't registered my marriage.

[Afrohanfi 15]

That RFE has to have something else behind it. Registering the marriage isn't required here if married abroad. I haven't registered my marriage.

Thank you!

And sorry again for being off topic.