What to do when immigrant spouse leaves

[Boiler 45,837]

He has Family to help him go home.

[Jawaree 718]

It does seem particularly common with this Consulate, hardly a week goes by.

Ditto and you'd think others here griping and fussing about the slow process of uscis

would wake up....the man is gone ...why R you crying and begging, this makes ppl

trample on you more...divorce him and move, on 4get the revenge...This was no

surprise he showed you how he is/was

Edited February 2, 2014 by Jawaree

[Tahlisha 28]

Ditto and you'd think others here griping and fussing about the slow process of uscis

would wake up....the man is gone ...why R you crying and begging, this makes ppl

trample on you more...divorce him and move, on 4get the revenge...This was no

surprise he showed you how he is/was

I am not crying and begging.... Nor am I trying to get revenge.... In this process there should be steps that one can take in such situations.... It is a shame that there is not.... If there were I believe it cut down on a lot of this happing in the first place.....I don't beleive my husband married me just to come here... But I do believe it is what his family wanted..... I feel he wants to go... Am sure his brother and sister will do what they can to get him to stay...... The first time He left I was deeply hurt.... But as I said before when he returned our relationship was not the same.... The trust was gone and that put additional strain on our marriage....... Our immigration process was no walk in the park.... But in his mind he feels I owe him some how.... I was told on many occasions that he left his life, country and family for me so I should not be unhappy, or stressed.... I felt as though the sacrifices I made for us to be together meant nothing to him...

[Boiler 45,837]

Is his Sister a USC?

[Gosia & Tito 199]

Hi...Maryland doesn't have a separation agreement in their divorce...the couple has to not lived together for a year and it doesn't have to be documented either....IOW, if a couple just wanted a divorce in Md, they could just say they were not together for a year and then go through the divorce process, (not saying how often it comes up when BOTH want a divorce)....

The reason is to separate financial obligations primarily, while still married but separated. This is to protect both parties in additional debt one of the spouses might incur (as the other spouse can be on the hook, even if not named on it specifically)

[Tahlisha 28]

Is his Sister a USC?

No his brother is

[Tahlisha 28]

I am so very sorry Tahlisha!

Thank you...

[Tahlisha 28]

Why does it show married for 2 years and 8 months on your profile when you claim one year? Was that just a religious/unofficial ceremony? (Just curious, as it may impact some of the advice people have been giving you)

The ticker shows when we were legally married... May of 2011... We were married in a religious ceramony un 2009. We tried for the K-1 but did not get it. So I went back and we legally married to go for the CR-1

[Tahlisha 28]

The ticker shows when we were legally married... May of 2011... We were married in a religious ceramony un 2009. We tried for the K-1 but did not get it. So I went back and we legally married to go for the CR-1

I never said we were married for 1 year. I said he Wil have been here in the states for 1 year come feb 21....

Edited February 2, 2014 by Tahlisha

[Tosh Love 77]

I would not wish this on my worst enemy. So sorry for your situation. My only advice is to try and move on and not dwell on "if only...." We live and learn. Best of luck!

[Jamie & Izzy 98]

I agree... My husband and I married in a religious ceramony in 2009. We married legally in 2011... I visited Morocco 3 times ( 1st - 3 weeks, 2nd - 5 weeks, 3rd - 3months ) before his coming here and visited his siblings in Arkansas and Missouri 4 times prior to his coming here. I thought I know them all pretty well. But what I have learned in the last few weeks is that THEIR family is most important........ Everyone was fine with me and loved me, considered me their sister/daughter as long as I was doig what THEY wanted....

That sounds pretty common for Moroccans :S to be honest all my relationships with Moroccan man did work at all ...i`m not saying they are bad ! its just different culture like you said,i`m sorry this happened to you

Izzy

[BraveAmnay 56]

Hi evryone in the last week i have read three people posting about thier problem on here but what i dont understand onyl who had probleme in their marriage who post here ,what i am trying to say ,you make Moroccan looks like the worst people excist in this world like all of them are scammer actualy i know many who are very happy in their marriage .For me its simple ,its like any other marriage it did not work that is all so move on and find your happiness with someone else.Unfortunately i feel like before to marry them you have that idea he wnat you only be there that is all,try show them you love them ,you care about them try know them much more and explain them how life is over there and why not try talk about the future what opportunites for them once they are there .Please stopping making Morocco look like they are evil No one is Perfect .

[Chicagoguy 2 27]

I know that the 90 day period we all have after arrival is not supposed to be a trial period but maybe there is some way to make it one or even longer. Before my wife came here it was very,very difficult for her to get a tourist visa so all we had was the 90 day time frame. Luckily we had no big cultural differences but I can imagine many places in this world where there would be.

It is not like the movies !

[Boiler 45,837]

I know that the 90 day period we all have after arrival is not supposed to be a trial period but maybe there is some way to make it one or even longer. Before my wife came here it was very,very difficult for her to get a tourist visa so all we had was the 90 day time frame. Luckily we had no big cultural differences but I can imagine many places in this world where there would be.

It is not like the movies !

They were married before they started the process.

Was there some reason that you could not visit Russia?

[Me_Theo 25]

May be he leave to find a job, may be he feels, he should leave to find a job and should not depend on your salary , may be he is a good man he is seeing how much you are hard working to keep good care to your kids and he feels he is just a problem in your live , not a helper. That is difficult to most men to see his wife works and he has not good income. Also he is depend to his sister family and he wants to be in depend from his sister. in islam men should take care family by his salary and may be he has bad feeling when he is seeing you are doing everything and he cannot because not good job....

May be he did not write notes for you, because he is not sure about future ( he will find a good job)to go back to you or no.

May be he thought if he leave a note to you , you will be wait for him also you will waste your time for him.

i think he doesn't answer to your call phone and ....because still he didn't find a job and he doesn't want give you primes to go back. he wants back home with full hand and he isn't sure it will happen soon or no.

Then he leave and he wants you choose about your future.

Edited February 2, 2014 by Me_Theo