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[lonelywithouthim1 36]

OP, I'm sorry that you are going through this. Reading your post, it sounds like you already know what to do but have many people around you suggesting to continue and now you are looking for advise here. Sometimes strangers give the best advise because they have nothing to gain. I think you have been giving great advise here but the most important one is from your post.

You said:

1. My Ex Fiance

2. Grew out of love for him

3. Broke up in August 2013

4. Went back to DR to have fun by myself with family and friends.

According to you, the relationship has ended and you have moved on and that appears to be the normal stages of any relationship. So, if you take out the visa out from the mix, you made your decision back in August of 2013. Don't let anyone confuse, quilt you in making a decision based on the Visa, this was always based on the relationship. No relationship NO VISA. Good luck to you.

[Gosia & Tito 199]

So, I haven't been on here for A LONG TIME.. and in the time that I have been MIA things have happened.

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Can moderators please close this thread?

This is becoming facebook...

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

I hate to break it to a lot of you, but there are plenty of K1 entrants who come to the US without a rock-solid commitment to marry their petitioner.

And there are plenty who think they are going to marry, but have all the same misgivings of the OP. They just don't write about it.

"Everything will be fine when he/she gets here." How many times have you read that? Have you ever written it to someone?

The visa is non-immigrant. It gives someone 90 days to be in the US legally. Period.

Fraud or misrep would occur if the OP married the man for the sole purpose of him being able to gain permanent residency. In other words, a sham marriage where she puts her signature on the dotted line of an application to adjust status via marriage.

Marrying with doubts isn't fraud. Entering the US on a K1 with doubts isn't fraud.

It might be unwise, but it is not fraud.

Edited February 1, 2014 by Rebecca Jo

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Marrying with doubts is about stupid. For any decision this big if your head isn't in control it is all about stupid

[Avery Cates 1,141]

I hate to break it to a lot of you, but there are plenty of K1 entrants who come to the US without a rock-solid commitment to marry their petitioner.

And there are plenty who think they are going to marry, but have all the same misgivings of the OP. They just don't write about it.

"Everything will be fine when he/she gets here." How many times have you read that? Have you ever written it to someone?

The visa is non-immigrant. It gives someone 90 days to be in the US legally. Period.

Fraud or misrep would occur if the OP married the man for the sole purpose of him being able to gain permanent residency. In other words, a sham marriage where she puts her signature on the dotted line of an application to adjust status via marriage.

Marrying with doubts isn't fraud. Entering the US on a K1 with doubts isn't fraud.

It might be unwise, but it is not fraud.

This isn't about misgivings or cold feet or last minute doubts. This is about her continuing to bring him to the US knowing she has no intention to marry him, and knowing that he will stay illegally after he's out of status.

[Boiler 45,486]

This isn't about misgivings or cold feet or last minute doubts. This is about her continuing to bring him to the US knowing she has no intention to marry him, and knowing that he will stay illegally after he's out of status.

Exactly

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

This isn't about misgivings or cold feet or last minute doubts. This is about her continuing to bring him to the US knowing she has no intention to marry him, and knowing that he will stay illegally after he's out of status.

That is your interpretation of her writings.

[Boiler 45,486]

That is your interpretation of her writings.

No 'interpretation'needed.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

In the OP's response at Post #4, she acknowledges her understanding that if they do not marry, he must go home.

IMO her concerns seem more to do with legal responsibility for him during the duration of the K visa. Especially financial responsibility.

I actually interpret her writings to have more to do with wanting to give the relationship a last shot, even though she believes it won't work. After all, she was face to face with him in December and did not end the relationship.

[Boiler 45,486]

I thought to maybe do the favor of finishing up with this process and maybe if he would get to the US, fix us up. Nope, that couldn't be done b/c of his actions

Edited February 1, 2014 by Boiler

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

I thought to maybe do the favor of finishing up with this process and maybe if he would get to the US, fix us up. Nope, that couldn't be done b/c of his actions

Yes Boiler, I can read. The OP wrote that in her second paragraph as being her feelings as far back as August. Then she goes to see him in December and doesn't confront the issues in the relationship. She even calls the consulate checking case status while there.

If a K1 petitioner, knowingly with 100 percent certainty that they will not marry their applicant, files the petition anyway - then that is fraud. This was not the case when she filed (at least so she states).

I don't think this lady is much different than many, many petitioners for K visas. I don't think she is much different than many writers to this community. She has doubts. She just admits them. Most people don't.

[AmyWrites 593]

On the emotional front; they're manipulating you. He does not love you, likely never has, and this is all plan to get him to come to the US. Any tears he sheds are about him possibly losing The Visa, and not about losing you.

On the practical front; it'd be incredibly stupid of you to help someone commit fraud.

If you do decide to marry him, he will be a good husband until he has his green card in hand. Then he will treat you like hell, if not disappear.

Edited February 1, 2014 by AmyWrites

[Married4Life13 38]

I don't feel any sympathy for her in the least either. She knows what she should do.

[Tahoma 2,292]

I don't see love...I see manipulation.

Use your head...pay attention to his actions...not his words.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

I hate to break it to a lot of you, but there are plenty of K1 entrants who come to the US without a rock-solid commitment to marry their petitioner.

And there are plenty who think they are going to marry, but have all the same misgivings of the OP. They just don't write about it.

"Everything will be fine when he/she gets here." How many times have you read that? Have you ever written it to someone?

The visa is non-immigrant. It gives someone 90 days to be in the US legally. Period.

Fraud or misrep would occur if the OP married the man for the sole purpose of him being able to gain permanent residency. In other words, a sham marriage where she puts her signature on the dotted line of an application to adjust status via marriage.

Marrying with doubts isn't fraud. Entering the US on a K1 with doubts isn't fraud.

It might be unwise, but it is not fraud.

On the I-129F form, written in part 4 under

Your Certification

I certify that I am legally able to and intend to marry my alien fiance within 90 days of his

or her arrival in the United States. I certify, under penalty of perjury under the laws of the

United States of America, that the foregoing is true and correct.

Furthermore, I authorize the release of any information from my records that USCIS

needs to determine eligibility for the benefit that I am seeking.

She is not intending to marry. She said so. Therefore his eligibility is no longer valid. This is not a "coming here for 90 days visa" to

check out what's next because she said she has no intend to marry. That train left the station along with her intent.

No, marrying with doubt is not fraud but intending to not marry at all is and that is the problem and that fact has been

established by the OP. There are no wedding plans.

If the USCIS and border patrol would know she no longer intends to marry him, he would not be allowed to enter because it is not a

"lets see what happens kind of visa." If people do it then it's on them but just because many do it does not make it legal and right.

The fine line in the OP's writing is that some interpret it as her doubting that she may and may not want to marry but to me

it's pretty clear that she doesn't because she said it was over in August and marrying will not happen. It seems clear to me

that she thinks having gone this far, why not go all the way with the immigration and he can do whatever when he gets here and

there is no relationship nor will there be one.

OP has disappeared from the thread so we may not get clarification on her intent after giving her our perspectives.