BIG CHANGE IN MY LIFE!!! NOTHING I EXPECTED!

[dwheels76 5,468]

After everything, I don't trust his words. Maybe he is desperate enough to cry to me and try to convince me to let him come to be with me. However, I think it's best if I contact embassy just in case.

Now, about the I-134, at the time of interview, they never collected that form from me. They never even asked for it.

For the life of me I do not understand when people put more emphasis on the Visa process than the relationship

You said you stopped everything now you have mixed feeling (trust me I soooooooooooooo know how you feel). But please than put the Visa journey on the back burner and focus on your relationship, communication and see if there's still something there. Where there is love there's hope.

But DO NOT be manipulated into bringing someone here when you aren't even sure if he is the one. You need to do some serious soul searching and back up and see with some clear eyes.

[Lakehouse 293]

In addition to what others have mentioned, I would worry that if he indeed came to the US, and he got into some sort of trouble, you would be responsible for him regardless of the I-134 not being collected from you... someone will have to be financially responsible for him in those 90 days, and it seems logical that it would be you.

[T&T&T 31]

Not a difficult decision if you consider the pros and cons...

Bring him to the United States and don't marry him.

Pro. 1.

Con. 1.you could be legally responsible for him. (not sure)

2. it is illegal (agains the law)

3. you use the time of uscis that could be used for aother couple.

4. emotional problem now at your back door.

5. possible red flag in any future dealing with uscis.

6. possibly being manipulated

[Jawaree 717]

If its over let it go now, its fraud and cruel to backdoor this guy into

the country and the thrill is gone...think I remember your post some

time ago, his family just wants him to get to the US everything is about

the visa, if you are done with him Y unleash another illegal in the country

almost like ppl smuggling,.wasted all the time legit couples could use.

[christeen 966]

You are letting your guilt get the better of you... Not everything you invest time in is worth making an obvious mistake for... If you do not intend to marry, do not bring him over. Period.

[N and J 88]

I'm sorry, I don't know you and please don't take this the wrong way but, if you bring him here knowing that you will not marry him and he will become illegal than no offense it is reasons like this that makes the process so hard for others. It's fraud and not fair. Also, as a citizen he may not be your responsibility but he becomes the tax payers because believe it or not there are programs out there for illegal aliens who go for medical insurance and stuff. Sorry just saying it's not the right thing to do.

[Laspoxaroumeni 68]

I really dont want to offend u and im sorry... But i believe that all this time u applied for k1 visa another really happy and super in love couple lost time... Cause u had sent ur papers too....

U.. And not only u, go through this long process and at the end they just break up! Just because!!!

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

I'm sorry this has happened to you but don't let this man and his family emotionally blackmail you! If you feel bad and want to work out his true feelings then tell him that you want to cancel the Visa and work on your relationship and see how quickly he changes. I suspect he'll lose interest without the prospect of a Visa sadly.

[Avery Cates 1,141]

So, I haven't been on here for A LONG TIME.. and in the time that I have been MIA things have happened.

First of all, after being on AP for quite sometime, I unfortunately found things out about my now EX fiance. It has been a hard situation for me to recover. Secondly, I grew out of love for him and no longer wish to be with him. October was the last time I ever contacted the embassy along with the senators help but nothing was solved and no answer was given as to why we were on AP(FYI, I broke the relationship off in August 2013). I thought to maybe do the favor of finishing up with this process and maybe if he would get to the US, fix us up. Nope, that couldn't be done b/c of his actions, so I never thought to follow through with CEAC website or call the embassy/NVC or even log on to VJ.

I went back to DR in December, to have a nice time by myself and with my dear family and friends. I saw my "ex-fiance", after all the nonsense that he spoke about me, I went to collect a few documents that he had of mine, and took advantage of the fact that I was there in his house to confront him about everything he said and done. I concluded that I would be making the biggest mistake if I bring him over to the US. I decided that I didn't want to go through this process any longer, but before I told him the desicion I had made, I sent an email to the embassy asking what was the status of our case being that it was exactly 8 months on AP. The next day early in the morning, I received an email from the embassy stating that they were pleased to inform me that the AP has been concluded and that they would need for him to resubmit his medicals in order to issue his visa. Confused, with mixed emotions, I told my ex-fiance this information, still thinking that it might have been the right decision. That same week he went and did his medicals. Well, that was mid January, he received a call from the embassy today and was told to take his passport back to the embassy so they can issue his visa.

Guys, I don't want to go through this, but he called me crying today, his family and friends are telling me that he loves me that he has changed so much that even if I don't want to bring him to the US, not to leave him etc.... This is a very hard situation for me. I took the time to write what happened during the time I didn't log on VJ to kind of update you guys who are my friends on what has been going on. (I apologize for the long story)

My question is; If he comes to the US, and I do not marry him, he will obviously be here illegally. Is that going to affect me in any way? Thank guys. Fast response would be greatly appreciated.

Bring him here to live illegally and I'll be half tempted to report you myself, there's more than enough information here to get started, and, well, internet.

The relationship is over. There is zero reason for him to enter the US. You need to contact USCIS and the embassy immediately with no delay, since they're ready to put the visa in his passport, and withdraw the intent to marry and cancel the petition. You're not only apparently perfectly willing to commit visa fraud, you're also wasting the time of legitimate couples who are waiting for their adjudication with this nonsense. It will not lead to happy super fun times for you.

[Cathi 5,748]

Why is everyone afraid to offend the OP? What she is opposing is fraud. I'm not afraid to say that it's illegal and she will be a party to fraud and if caught( which most likely will happen because she posted in a public forum),she can be arrested and fined. We have far too many illegals in this country already and I don't feel sympathetic to her situation in the least. The lack of common sense in some people is beyond me.

[verysadguy 170]

This poster obviously has deep emotional issues to deal with professionally. How sad that she cannot think straight.

[janet&adonis 57]

Im sorry that you went through this....but any doubts you had have been brought to light with what happened. Manipulators tend to apologize, and beg to take you back, but later will keep doing the same things. I know its hard but best to cancel everything and move on....

[Avery Cates 1,141]

Why is everyone afraid to offend the OP? What she is opposing is fraud. I'm not afraid to say that it's illegal and she will be a party to fraud and if caught( which most likely will happen because she posted in a public forum),she can be arrested and fined. We have far too many illegals in this country already and I don't feel sympathetic to her situation in the least. The lack of common sense in some people is beyond me.

Agreed.

[twopeepsaz 3]

So, I haven't been on here for A LONG TIME.. and in the time that I have been MIA things have happened.

First of all, after being on AP for quite sometime, I unfortunately found things out about my now EX fiance. It has been a hard situation for me to recover. Secondly, I grew out of love for him and no longer wish to be with him. October was the last time I ever contacted the embassy along with the senators help but nothing was solved and no answer was given as to why we were on AP(FYI, I broke the relationship off in August 2013). I thought to maybe do the favor of finishing up with this process and maybe if he would get to the US, fix us up. Nope, that couldn't be done b/c of his actions, so I never thought to follow through with CEAC website or call the embassy/NVC or even log on to VJ.

I went back to DR in December, to have a nice time by myself and with my dear family and friends. I saw my "ex-fiance", after all the nonsense that he spoke about me, I went to collect a few documents that he had of mine, and took advantage of the fact that I was there in his house to confront him about everything he said and done. I concluded that I would be making the biggest mistake if I bring him over to the US. I decided that I didn't want to go through this process any longer, but before I told him the desicion I had made, I sent an email to the embassy asking what was the status of our case being that it was exactly 8 months on AP. The next day early in the morning, I received an email from the embassy stating that they were pleased to inform me that the AP has been concluded and that they would need for him to resubmit his medicals in order to issue his visa. Confused, with mixed emotions, I told my ex-fiance this information, still thinking that it might have been the right decision. That same week he went and did his medicals. Well, that was mid January, he received a call from the embassy today and was told to take his passport back to the embassy so they can issue his visa.

Guys, I don't want to go through this, but he called me crying today, his family and friends are telling me that he loves me that he has changed so much that even if I don't want to bring him to the US, not to leave him etc.... This is a very hard situation for me. I took the time to write what happened during the time I didn't log on VJ to kind of update you guys who are my friends on what has been going on. (I apologize for the long story)

My question is; If he comes to the US, and I do not marry him, he will obviously be here illegally. Is that going to affect me in any way? Thank guys. Fast response would be greatly appreciated.

DON'T DO IT! Love is patient. If you have to wait, then wait. I cannot think of many worse reasons to get married.

[belinda63 3,038]

You have answered your own question. If you don't love him don't marry him. If you don't want to marry him you have no reason to bring him to the US. You can continue to work on your relationship long-distance and with visits if you feel there is hope to re-establish it. Otherwise move on, you have no obligation to him or his family.