Marriage after many visits

[Chevonna 0]

Not sure if this is the correct place to ask this. So, My finace has been here three times to visit me. The fist time was for 3 weeks, and then we went over to him and to meet his family for 3 week, which is when he proposed, then when we left his place, he came with us for 3 months. We then spend 6 months apart, until he came to celebrate Christmas and my birthday. The day before he was supposed to leave, we extended his trip as far out as we were able via the visa waiver program. Suddenly the talk came up of a sudden wedding, because neighther of us want to be apart from the other. Part of me is all, woohoo, to never have to keep up these 6 months off, 3 months on things anymore, it's horrible and going on 2 years now, but on the other side, someone told me that if your finace has been a frequent traveler to the states, and not someone who you met here spur of the moment, that the idea that you suddenly chose to get married looks suspect. So, we are arguing over this, because neither of us wants him to go home for another 6 months, and neight of us wants to see us get in trouble and him get deported. His parents are even willing to pay the fees for all the paperwork, they think he should stay and marry me, they are tired of how miserable without me he is, and yet how much better he is with me.

Any help, suggestion?

P.S One of th big issues we are having, once we get married, how easy is it to put him on my insurance? He is panicked about getting sick and not getting indurance.

[Germanlady 0]

Chevonna,

I can relate to you story. As far as I found some information on this topic, the Department of Homeland Security (DHS) is not against spontanus Weddings, but it has to be a non intended one. How you will prove that to the DHS? Well, you need proove of it that it is a genuine marriage or a bonafide marriage. That are: joint accounts, joint credit statements, joint club memberships, joint federal and state tax returns, that both of you names are on the telephone bill or rent bill, car insurance and so on. Copies of actual credit cars, health insurance cards, that you have together, photos during your marriage, wedding photos and so on. You need hard prove to the officials that your fiancee' intended to return home. Evidence like: lease agreements, letters from employers, and above all a return ticket. The more evident that you can show that proves the intention to return home, the better chances will be of getting through. (by About.com Immigration Issues.)

I wish you all the best

Elke

[KayDeeCee 4,896]

If you want to marry and file for AOS, then follow this guide > http://www.visajourney.com/content/i130guide2

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[jdh 103]

Hey Chevonna,

If you and your fiancé decide to get married now that he is here - first of all congratulations!

Second, don't worry about it too much.

In my experience they are more interested in the relationship than they are on his intent to stay vs. go home.

I came here on a visit with my wife and decided to stay. We had no return ticket when we came over, no letters from my employment, nothing to indicate that I had intent to return to Canada.

In my interview there were zero questions about my intent to return. I had solid evidence that our relationship was legitimate. That is the most important thing to an interviewer, as the positive influence of marrying a US citizen outweighs most negatives.

It shouldn't be difficult to add him to your insurance once he is married to you and residing in the US - but I would just give your insurance company a call and double check with them.

Edited January 29, 2014 by jdh

[ValerieA 350]

Chevonna, as already stated, follow the guide and have proof of a bonafide marriage - that is all they are really concerned about, not intent. There are lots of threads here of people who have done what you are thinking of doing. I visited my (now-) husband several times before we got married, and even then I lived in Canada. It was on an extended trip to visit him after that, that circumstances changed and I ended up adjusting status. I was never asked about intent, either, at any stage of the process. They just wanted proof that we had a legitimate marriage.