USC pregnant by another man...

[Yodrak 7]

Cassie,

Actually, from the consulate's perspective, it's the visa applicant husband who will have some explaining to do:

- does he know about the situation,

- does he want to continue with the immigration process given the situation, and

- if so what is the real underlying reason that he wants of continue the immigration process.

Yodrak

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two: my simple point is this, that was aptly summarized by Yodrak....if the consulate should get wind of this, and notice that some dates may or may not jive, then Lucy, you have some 'splaining to do!

[sjoefl01 1]

Do we really think that the consulate in whatever country this K3 is being filed in has access to American gossip? I really don't see how the USCIS would even have a clue about this whole soap opera unless she sat next to him pregant and told the truth at the interview.

I have the same doubts and moral issues as everybody else about this post. I just don't see where the problems this couple has will come from USCIS.

Surely we will all agree that the answer to the original question the OP asked would be "no problem".

Cassie,

Actually, from the consulate's perspective, it's the visa applicant husband who will have some explaining to do:

- does he know about the situation,

- does he want to continue with the immigration process given the situation, and

- if so what is the real underlying reason that he wants of continue the immigration process.

Yodrak

.....

two: my simple point is this, that was aptly summarized by Yodrak....if the consulate should get wind of this, and notice that some dates may or may not jive, then Lucy, you have some 'splaining to do!

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

I don't think that they should mention the parentage of the child unless it comes up. At that time, they should be truthful. I don't see how this specifically could be seen as the husband simply wanting a green card.

Edited December 30, 2006 by jane2005

[garya505 2]

I don't think that they should mention the parentage of the child unless it comes up. At that time, they should be truthful. I don't see how this specifically could be seen as the husband simply wanting a green card.

Well, if they ask and are told the truth, I think they might be just a little suspicious of the situation. I mean, most guys aren't really OK with their wife getting impregnated by another man, are they?

[mRx 16]

Hmmm, I think there could be more to this story than the OP gave us.

indeed there is! The OP is the the foreign husband! Not a concerned friend. gimme a break sheeez.

and

it was professor plum in the kitchen with the wrench

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

I don't think that they should mention the parentage of the child unless it comes up. At that time, they should be truthful. I don't see how this specifically could be seen as the husband simply wanting a green card.

Well, if they ask and are told the truth, I think they might be just a little suspicious of the situation. I mean, most guys aren't really OK with their wife getting impregnated by another man, are they?

I'm sure that most (if not all) guys in this situation aren't OK with it at ALL. Be tough to make the relationship work, unless he is capable of letting it go. But anyways, I'm sure there are lots of men in the same situation who would stay with their wife. I'm sure there are lots of women that find out their husband fathered another woman's child and stay with him too.

[MichelleandCraig 1]

I don't think that they should mention the parentage of the child unless it comes up. At that time, they should be truthful. I don't see how this specifically could be seen as the husband simply wanting a green card.

Well, if they ask and are told the truth, I think they might be just a little suspicious of the situation. I mean, most guys aren't really OK with their wife getting impregnated by another man, are they?

*Definitely* not saying or implying that this man just wants a Green Card, but that's just the reason it could be seen that way by USCIS if they did find out somehow...what Gary said. I don't think *most* people, especially men/women who are moving country and giving up their whole lives to move to the US for the sole purpose of a relationship would even consider doing that for a relationship that started this way. Again, I retiterate, most, and we clearly don't know all the extenuating circumstances. M.

[garya505 2]

Hmmm, I think there could be more to this story than the OP gave us.

indeed there is! The OP is the the foreign husband! Not a concerned friend. gimme a break sheeez.

and

it was professor plum in the kitchen with the wrench

That's my guess too.

[maya62 7]

And if they've applied for K3, and assuming the CO doesn't ask whether the USC has any children and their ages (very common question from what I've read), what about at a possible AOS interview?

And family photos... what are they going to do, leave the child out of them until they have the greencard in hand? Not submit any? Lie about the child's very existence, if asked?

Given the very limited information provided by the OP, I think it would be wise not to try to hide the situation, and to prepare the non-USC husband for the grilling he is likely to get at the consulate. And tons of evidence of the validity of the relationship. It may help to have the USC wife write something incredibly remorseful for the CO to read. And be prepared to submit as evidence anything indicating the distraught hand-wringing, lengthy explaining, and begging for forgiveness that must surely have accompanied this whole situation.

I think it is better to prepare to go through this than try to go around. I think a CO who "discovers" this situation through questioning will be much more suspicious than one who has to evaluate a forthright, heartfelt explanation by the husband, preferably in decent english.

I think this couple should be prepared to answer questions about this, both at the consular level (DOS) and the AOS interview, if they have one (USCIS).

Best wishes,

Maya

[everandel 0]

It is obvious that the beneficiary just wants to immigrate, that's why he plays the upset but still wants to make it work.

If this issue came out between a couple with no immigration situation, the husband under no circumstances would accept or try to make things work. It also true that when someone ask a question about a friend, they are talking about themselves hidding behind the "friend" problem.

[sjoefl01 1]

Are you really suggesting that a United States citizen should write a letter of apology to the government (USCIS) for having an affair? I have never seen this in the guidelines or read a single post where this was given as advice.

Have you seen a case like this where somebody didn't get a visa because they didn't serve up a confession to the government?

And if they've applied for K3, and assuming the CO doesn't ask whether the USC has any children and their ages (very common question from what I've read), what about at a possible AOS interview?

And family photos... what are they going to do, leave the child out of them until they have the greencard in hand? Not submit any? Lie about the child's very existence, if asked?

Given the very limited information provided by the OP, I think it would be wise not to try to hide the situation, and to prepare the non-USC husband for the grilling he is likely to get at the consulate. And tons of evidence of the validity of the relationship. It may help to have the USC wife write something incredibly remorseful for the CO to read. And be prepared to submit as evidence anything indicating the distraught hand-wringing, lengthy explaining, and begging for forgiveness that must surely have accompanied this whole situation.

I think it is better to prepare to go through this than try to go around. I think a CO who "discovers" this situation through questioning will be much more suspicious than one who has to evaluate a forthright, heartfelt explanation by the husband, preferably in decent english.

I think this couple should be prepared to answer questions about this, both at the consular level (DOS) and the AOS interview, if they have one (USCIS).

Best wishes,

Maya

[K & J 17]

The husband would come to the US with a K-3 visa. The Embassy will find out there is a baby. This is why:

- USC has to send tax returns (as a sponsor) and the baby will appear there.

- USC and hubby have to file biographic information forms (dont remember the number), where you list all your children and their date of birth.

- Hubby has to show his passport and list his entries to the US (if he has). If he has never come to the US, they will ask when (how many time) the USC has visited his country (easy to do the math).

- They will ask the hubby is he or the USC have any children (plan to lie?).

If he actually come to US, the couple will have an AOS interview. The NOA asks you to bring the birth certificates of all children. Again you will have to bring tax returns.

Can the USC put a different name on the birth certificate? The real father may cause problems about this (now or in the future) and he can even sue.

If the USC or the hubby lie, and INS finds out (very likely), it will be considered FRAUD and he will be deported with no possibility of coming back to the US.

[sjoefl01 1]

The girl is pregnant. That would mean the baby would not show up on tax returns until 2006, or probably even 2007. That means there will be no problem with the UCIS until around 2007 or 2008. They will use 2005 tax returns for quite some time. I don't think dependent names or ages show up on tax transcripts. Somebody can check that if they like.

The G325A biographical information worksheet has no space for unborn children. The American only has to file this one time with the application unless something has changed.

We had our AOS interview in July. At that time there was no requirement to bring the birth certificates of my American children. This must be a new rule.

[knowledge 0]

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I am the American in our marriage and I never had to present birth certificates for my children. As far as I am concerned the origin of my children is no business of the USCIS. Evidently they feel the same way or they would have asked for them.

your kids have been conceived in another relationship, not in an immigration situation; they might ask who's baby is in the relationship departement of questions, and/or if they know it's not his, they might ask the context....But, in the end, if the couple is strong enough to defend their point that it has been their, or his decision to accept the child, can help. That is nobodies decision but only the couple's agreement. The argument can be that the distance can bring people to make irrational actions...it's human to make errors, and adult to repair them, so that to speak that the relationship has to be refreshed...and of course, understand why did it happen...

Note: when I used "might"...it's only my opinion and not any experience with the uscis...Good luck and especially thinking to the welbeing of the child from now on...!!!

[knowledge 0]

It is obvious that the beneficiary just wants to immigrate, that's why he plays the upset but still wants to make it work.

If this issue came out between a couple with no immigration situation, the husband under no circumstances would accept or try to make things work. It also true that when someone ask a question about a friend, they are talking about themselves hidding behind the "friend" problem.

How come you know everything??