USC pregnant by another man...

[jaybeezi 0]

(I don't want to give too many details)

So... a female friend of mine married a man from another country about 2 years ago, the paperwork is being held up and she had to re-do it. During this time she had an affair and has gotten pregnant (with the other man, not the husband)... She does not want to get an abortion..

She has told him about it and he's obviously upset but still wants to come here and make it work...

Would the pregnancy be a problem? Would it make it more difficult to get him over here? Would they even have to tell anyone? Is it something that the gov/ins/whatever would even find out about if no one said anything? Would they have to say that it's his child/leave the birth certificate blank/put the real fathers name on it? Would it cause any problems later on when he tries to get is SS card?

I don't know, she feels terrible and I'm just trying to get some info to help her, and him out.

thank you.

(p.s. I know what she did was horrible, she knows, I just need info here for them)

[garya505 2]

(I don't want to give too many details)

So... a female friend of mine married a man from another country about 2 years ago, the paperwork is being held up and she had to re-do it. During this time she had an affair and has gotten pregnant (with the other man, not the husband)... She does not want to get an abortion..

She has told him about it and he's obviously upset but still wants to come here and make it work...

Would the pregnancy be a problem? Would it make it more difficult to get him over here? Would they even have to tell anyone? Is it something that the gov/ins/whatever would even find out about if no one said anything? Would they have to say that it's his child/leave the birth certificate blank/put the real fathers name on it? Would it cause any problems later on when he tries to get is SS card?

I don't know, she feels terrible and I'm just trying to get some info to help her, and him out.

thank you.

(p.s. I know what she did was horrible, she knows, I just need info here for them)

Your friend's husband needs professional help because he's crazy if he stays with her.

[jaybeezi 0]

(I don't want to give too many details)

So... a female friend of mine married a man from another country about 2 years ago, the paperwork is being held up and she had to re-do it. During this time she had an affair and has gotten pregnant (with the other man, not the husband)... She does not want to get an abortion..

She has told him about it and he's obviously upset but still wants to come here and make it work...

Would the pregnancy be a problem? Would it make it more difficult to get him over here? Would they even have to tell anyone? Is it something that the gov/ins/whatever would even find out about if no one said anything? Would they have to say that it's his child/leave the birth certificate blank/put the real fathers name on it? Would it cause any problems later on when he tries to get is SS card?

I don't know, she feels terrible and I'm just trying to get some info to help her, and him out.

thank you.

(p.s. I know what she did was horrible, she knows, I just need info here for them)

Your friend's husband needs professional help because he's crazy if he stays with her.

thanks...

[sjoefl01 1]

I really don't think the INS is going to ask about baby origins. I have never heard of them running a DNA test. I don't see where the father of somebodies baby is any of their business.

I agree that there are a lot of trust issues in the future for this relationship but that is not the question that you asked.

I certainly hope the best for this couple. They have a very rocky beginning to a relationship that is intended to be lifelong.

[Moonie 0]

I can't believe you came on here and asked about this. This situation is straight scandalous. And it is one thing to know your spouse cheated but what they are wanting will not end well at all.

[Cassie 8]

I really don't think the INS is going to ask about baby origins. I have never heard of them running a DNA test. I don't see where the father of somebodies baby is any of their business.

I agree that there are a lot of trust issues in the future for this relationship but that is not the question that you asked.

I certainly hope the best for this couple. They have a very rocky beginning to a relationship that is intended to be lifelong.

Let's see, the baby was conceived during an affair, you don't think that USCIS won't have questions when they see that the baby's father's name on the birth certificate is not the same as the non-USC? Because they will think it's kinda weird if the baby isn't "used" (I use the term loosely here) as a means of "proving" a legitimate ongoing relationship.

[sjoefl01 1]

Perhaps you are confused. It is the American that got pregnant. There is no reason why the USCIS would need to see the BC of the child of an American citizen. There are no K2 issues.

I am the American in our marriage and I never had to present birth certificates for my children. As far as I am concerned the origin of my children is no business of the USCIS. Evidently they feel the same way or they would have asked for them.

I really don't think the INS is going to ask about baby origins. I have never heard of them running a DNA test. I don't see where the father of somebodies baby is any of their business.

I agree that there are a lot of trust issues in the future for this relationship but that is not the question that you asked.

I certainly hope the best for this couple. They have a very rocky beginning to a relationship that is intended to be lifelong.

Let's see, the baby was conceived during an affair, you don't think that USCIS won't have questions when they see that the baby's father's name on the birth certificate is not the same as the non-USC? Because they will think it's kinda weird if the baby isn't "used" (I use the term loosely here) as a means of "proving" a legitimate ongoing relationship.

[William33 110]

jaybeezi,

Um, well he11 ya it is a problem. What self respecting person would want to continue a relationship with someone like that?

Who cares about the other #######. The beneficiary needs to get a grip and move on.

Would the pregnancy be a problem?

[MichelleandCraig 1]

I agree with all the moral issues raised so far, but the OP didn't ask that question either. Also agree that if it's the USC that's pregnant, USCIS will likely never know if it's the immigrant's child (on a visit, etc.) or someone else's. I didn't need to offer up my son's birth cert to anyone during the process either. (that I can recall now! it's been a while...wouldn't have mattered anyway, since he's 13.) Anyway, long sentence shorter, I don't think it will make a blind bit of difference as far as this process goes. The biggest roadblock I can see at all, is if they *do* for some reason ask if you are expecting/ have had a baby together. The only reason I could see them doing this is that they would *assume* the child *is* theirs together, and it might serve then, in their eyes, to further legitimize the relationship for approval. If they answered no, this child is not ours (together) it might cause some serious doubts...I don't know what all they ask and how they think at USCIS. All of this is just speculation on my part. Good luck to them...it is a VERY rocky start, and not something I think I could follow through with (if I were the immigrant) but I acknowledge that I should probably follow my own line of thought above and not comment further on that aspect. Whatever works for them, works for them. M.

Edited December 29, 2006 by MichelleandCraig

[diadromous mermaid 36]

(I don't want to give too many details)

So... a female friend of mine married a man from another country about 2 years ago, the paperwork is being held up and she had to re-do it. During this time she had an affair and has gotten pregnant (with the other man, not the husband)... She does not want to get an abortion..

She has told him about it and he's obviously upset but still wants to come here and make it work...

Would the pregnancy be a problem? Would it make it more difficult to get him over here? Would they even have to tell anyone? Is it something that the gov/ins/whatever would even find out about if no one said anything? Would they have to say that it's his child/leave the birth certificate blank/put the real fathers name on it? Would it cause any problems later on when he tries to get is SS card?

I don't know, she feels terrible and I'm just trying to get some info to help her, and him out.

thank you.

(p.s. I know what she did was horrible, she knows, I just need info here for them)

The pregnancy is of little significance in terms of their immigration issue. The immigration issue that I'd be focused on is what 'hold up" required that the USC petitioner have to re-do the petition.

[Yodrak 7]

Cassie,

You seem to be making an assumption as to who the woman will identify as the father.

I would be interesting to see what will happen at the consulate if they become aware of the child and it should appear that the visa applicant cannot be the father.

Yodrak

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Let's see, the baby was conceived during an affair, you don't think that USCIS won't have questions when they see that the baby's father's name on the birth certificate is not the same as the non-USC? ......

[Yodrak 7]

William,

A person whose primary objective is immigrating to the USA?

Yodrak

jaybeezi,

Um, well he11 ya it is a problem. What self respecting person would want to continue a relationship with someone like that?

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[garya505 2]

William,

A person whose primary objective is immigrating to the USA?

Yodrak

jaybeezi,

Um, well he11 ya it is a problem. What self respecting person would want to continue a relationship with someone like that?

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Ya, he's either crazy or just wants a green card so he doesn't care who is wife has been playing "hide the salami" with.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

William,

A person whose primary objective is immigrating to the USA?

Yodrak

jaybeezi,

Um, well he11 ya it is a problem. What self respecting person would want to continue a relationship with someone like that?

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Hmmm. Yodrak, being Frank, eh

Well they are married, and in addition to all of the lingo that goes along with the commitment, perhaps the husband believes that forgiveness is part of it.

[Boiler 45,972]

William,

A person whose primary objective is immigrating to the USA?

Yodrak

jaybeezi,

Um, well he11 ya it is a problem. What self respecting person would want to continue a relationship with someone like that?

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I saw this yesterday and was going to aske the country of the Husband, seems the most logical answer.