K1 visa concern!!!!

[belinda63 3,038]

For various reasons Morocco is a difficult consulate to obtain approval for most people. A few bad apples make it hard for everyone. If you feel you have enough evidence then proceed with the petition when both of you are legally free to marry. Expect him to be questioned about the non-child issue. Expect him to be questioned about only meeting one time for a short period. Don't be surprised if you are denied.

[Cathi 5,748]

The thread from earlier today is mine. It's filled with those who understood my question and desire for advice as the situation is what it is already at this point. It's also filled with A LOT of judgement and ridicual towards me, the US Citizen.

1st - I'm confused why so many say the Casablanca Consulate in Morocco is one of the hardest. Although my fiancé was nervous and stressed about how his interview went - it was otherwise a smooth process. I mailed my I-129f to USCIS in Texas at the very end of August and my fiancé had his interview on 12/23/13 and then arrived in the us on 1/9/14.

2nd - Vacationing in Morocco for a week (I spent almost 9 days) is much different than living together full time. I thought I did everything possible to help him understand what life was like here. I thought I had done all my homework... I was so in love, ready, and excited to have my man here for the rest of our lives and then when that dream came true it felt like I woke up in a nightmare. My head was spinning, I started to have panic attacks, I felt miserable and couldn't explain why.... There were definetly some things I learned about my fiancé (things we had discussed prior to his arrival). My now ex fiancé (whom is still living with me until next week) is hurt but understands.

3rd - I of course had to prove I made over 125% over the federal poverty guidelines which I did by sending a years worth of pay stubs, a formal letter from my employer, a year worth of bank statements, and a formal letter from my bank. I have 3 sources of income but only sent proof of my income from my career. When my fiancé received my proof of income days before his interview he questioned why it was over $20,000.00 lower than what I told him. This should have been a red flag for me but it just wasn't at the time. I explained to him that it was not necessary for me to send in proof of my other 2 sources of income because my career income was enough. I should have asked him for proof of what he kept telling me was his savings but I trusted him. Come to find out - that savings didn't exist and he arrived with not even a penny - knowing it could be 5.5 to 6 months before he could legally work here in the states.

4th - everyone's situation is different. Do not be persuaded by anyone's personal opinions or personal experiences. I wasn't at all when friends, family, and coworkers expressed their concerns - just like I'm not being pursuaded by others comments (their personal opinions) about my decision to not marry my fiancé due to my personal feelings over the things I quickly came to realize (like the things my fiancé promised were not really true). Do what is right for you and know if things change after his arrival - you have to do what is right for you both.

5th - I want you to know and hope you can tell by my previous status updates that my relationship was very real. My heart is broken that our dream come true didn't last or go according to plan. I do love and care deeply for my ex-fiancé. I know we will remain friends and continue to support each other through whatever it's is we do in our futures.

I wish you the best of luck, much happiness, and success in your visa process and future lives together.

I applaud you for not going through with the marriage, most would have gone through with it despite all of the warning signs. It's difficult for a lot of people to swallow their pride and admit they made a mistake. People who are considering bringing a fiance over after only a little face to face time need to read your story and understand that the journey really begins after they arrive in the US and you begin living together. I wish you the best.

[Rosesarered 11]

Congratulations! Reading your thread reminded me of exactly what I felt in the beginning when my husband came to stay with me. He was far from the man I thought I was marrying. I felt like you that all the mos of discussing life here went right out his ears. When he got here he never gave any time to learning about what's going on in the town where we live. What there is to do together for fun here or ask me anything about me or my life. If was just him, him, him. I used to ask him when we could start establishing his credit so we could buy things together instead of me buying everything for us and his answer was " I don't like credit". He was going to get a career so eventually I would not have to work so much and could focus on being his wife. but instead he just started working with me at my store so actually I had longer hours. The sadest part to me is that I am still just trying to get over losing the man that was in my head! The man I thought I was marrying, when actually that man never exhisted other than a bunch of words in letters and skype calls. I applaud you! We need to marry a guy who comes here embracing our culture! shoot if I was moving to morocco for a husband, I'd be studying the culture! the area we would live! looking for job options and picking out paint colors before I even packed my bags.

Edited January 26, 2014 by Rosesarered

[sam444 0]

First the K-1 visa process can seem intimidating at first but its not if you are diligent and most important sent the information they ask for read the guide on filling proof of the relationship it is important and will save you time and frustration. The act that you have met him in the past two years is the qualifying thing and that at the time you apply you are both single.It is worth hiring someone to help you with the process.

get divorced !!!

10 years difference in age is not a problem I have almost a 15 year age difference and we are scheduled for our interview and have had no problems.

[justojai 53]

The thread from earlier today is mine. It's filled with those who understood my question and desire for advice as the situation is what it is already at this point. It's also filled with A LOT of judgement and ridicual towards me, the US Citizen.

1st - I'm confused why so many say the Casablanca Consulate in Morocco is one of the hardest. Although my fiancé was nervous and stressed about how his interview went - it was otherwise a smooth process. I mailed my I-129f to USCIS in Texas at the very end of August and my fiancé had his interview on 12/23/13 and then arrived in the us on 1/9/14.

2nd - Vacationing in Morocco for a week (I spent almost 9 days) is much different than living together full time. I thought I did everything possible to help him understand what life was like here. I thought I had done all my homework... I was so in love, ready, and excited to have my man here for the rest of our lives and then when that dream came true it felt like I woke up in a nightmare. My head was spinning, I started to have panic attacks, I felt miserable and couldn't explain why.... There were definetly some things I learned about my fiancé (things we had discussed prior to his arrival). My now ex fiancé (whom is still living with me until next week) is hurt but understands.

3rd - I of course had to prove I made over 125% over the federal poverty guidelines which I did by sending a years worth of pay stubs, a formal letter from my employer, a year worth of bank statements, and a formal letter from my bank. I have 3 sources of income but only sent proof of my income from my career. When my fiancé received my proof of income days before his interview he questioned why it was over $20,000.00 lower than what I told him. This should have been a red flag for me but it just wasn't at the time. I explained to him that it was not necessary for me to send in proof of my other 2 sources of income because my career income was enough. I should have asked him for proof of what he kept telling me was his savings but I trusted him. Come to find out - that savings didn't exist and he arrived with not even a penny - knowing it could be 5.5 to 6 months before he could legally work here in the states.

4th - everyone's situation is different. Do not be persuaded by anyone's personal opinions or personal experiences. I wasn't at all when friends, family, and coworkers expressed their concerns - just like I'm not being pursuaded by others comments (their personal opinions) about my decision to not marry my fiancé due to my personal feelings over the things I quickly came to realize (like the things my fiancé promised were not really true). Do what is right for you and know if things change after his arrival - you have to do what is right for you both.

5th - I want you to know and hope you can tell by my previous status updates that my relationship was very real. My heart is broken that our dream come true didn't last or go according to plan. I do love and care deeply for my ex-fiancé. I know we will remain friends and continue to support each other through whatever it's is we do in our futures.

I wish you the best of luck, much happiness, and success in your visa process and future lives together.

I think it's adviceable to breakup while dating than breaking up after marriage, though its really sad the poor guy dreams got shattered just like that as I can imagine what it's like when you bid goobbye to your family, friends and co-workers.

Lola you might want to consider getting him a ticket back home and maybe some $20k to take care of what you took from him, he just have to move on with our without you. I wish you luck as you search for your perfect gentleman.

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

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[justojai 53]

OP, I understand when a 60 yrs old man gets married to a 70 yrs old woman but I do not understand it when the man is in his 20ties and the woman woman is like 10 -30 years old. Make some research to know if parents of such young man will approve of their son getting married to a Morrocan woman of with such age difference.

Cutural difference matters alot as its not just about getting married but being able to live in the marriage through difficult times.

[Ryan H 3,812]

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[Hicham♥Sara 15]

Definitely before you file any petition , you must have all documents including divorce documents for all previous marriages. Maybe you live in a state where you can just fill out paperwork at the courthouse. Some states require a lawyer. Either way you gotta have it done first and foremost, you must be eligible to be married.

[TBoneTX 45,285]

To answer the inquiry, don´t file until you are free to marry. You still being married, 10 years older and getting engaged after one trip are all red flags. You are not the first nor the last to be in this situation and just as many visas have been issued as have been denied with these circumstances. It is up to you to prove a bonafide relationship to the CO. Good luck on your journey.

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