K1 Visa - I won't marry him!

[Raznattybongo 12]

I'm surprised people are only talking in favor of the woman, forgetting the man involved too. Did the woman say the man has done something bad to her that she dislikes?

All because she filed for him, so she could just get up one morning and say i don't wanna be with you again so leave? She has the absolute right to do that, but VJers should analyze this issue well. At least you guys have to know what the guy has done because bringing out such harsh conclusions......

[Trisha89 36]

I feel so sorry for you that you had this experience and at the same time I am a little mad that couples like ya'll are getting approved so fast! I don't want to make it harder for you I can REALLY understand if You don't want to marry him and you think it doesn't work for both of you....

It is JUST sad that my fiancé and me are almost waiting for 6 months for just a NOA2 and we want nothing else as to finally get married with each other and spend our time together...... Although ya'll both wanted that from the beginning too, but aaahhhh idk! Makes me a little think...

Wish you only the best and hope you find your true love!

[belinda63 3,038]

Here's an idea. You have only given it a few weeks. Why not wait a bit longer see if things mesh. He has just given up his life and moved to a new country. The person you are seeing is not the person he is. He has a lot to adapt to right now. If he wants let him visit his brother for a few weeks then come back to you and see how things go. You are not married, you have 90 days to do so. Take your time and let the man get used to the change.

[Peace.... 281]

One trip to morocco, eight,days.... I'm sorry, you both really needed more face to face time before jumping into a marriage.

[discoverusa 268]

I'm surprised people are only talking in favor of the woman, forgetting the man involved too. Did the woman say the man has done something bad to her that she dislikes?

All because she filed for him, so she could just get up one morning and say i don't wanna be with you again so leave? She has the absolute right to do that, but VJers should analyze this issue well. At least you guys have to know what the guy has done because bringing out such harsh conclusions......

Agree. Relationships require work and time. You hardly given it any time to make things work. The guy just left his entire life for you. Give him some credit.

To all the people who just want to ship him back: Even if he decides to go back home he is still allowed to go visit his brother and then leave. I would assume flights to and from Morocco are expensive so why not visit a brother while he is already here and then go home. Call me naïve, but that's how I see it.

[livindadream 156]

You should have gotten to know him better before bringing him to the US, Im sorry to say, but it's true. Truthfully, you're not the victim here...he is. Unless, there is abuse or cheating or any other thing you're not telling us. But from what I can see, you brought him here....he gave up whatever he had going for himself in Morocco, left a familiar place full of family and friends...and now you're saying that you made a mistake and you don't want to marry him. You don't need to do anything, you've already done it...you gave him grounds for that VAWA stuff. A lot of men and women use it as a tool for staying in the country by making up lies that the spouse/fiancé kicked them out, wont adjust the status, etc. In this case...it would be totally valid if he went that route. I'm sorry your relationship was not all it seemed, but seeing someone face to face for 8 days and then deciding he's the person you will spend the rest of your life with is ridiculous in itself. Go to USCIS office, put in writing what your situation is so that they will document it, and move on with your life...do yourself a favor and dont' go meeting anyone else abroad and dragging them into this sort of indecisiveness. Thank God the person you brought to the States has somewhere else to go..imagine if he had nobody there when you came to your conclusion of not wanting him anymore.

Edited January 25, 2014 by AYOsGirl

[fantonledzepp 159]

What did he do? Other than just get on your nerves.

[Darnell 8,478]

Ok so my fiancé entered the US on January 9, 14. Before he arrived I never felt so sure of something in all my life! I was so happy, overjoyed, excited! I was so in love! My trip to see him was amazing! (Of course I did pay for everything, and it was vacation not reality). I have my wedding dress, I have my girls' dresses! Finding out on Christmas Eve that the love of my life would be here at home with me very soon was the best gift ever! So he's here... I was very happy to see him but it didn't take long before I realized something's not clicking. I started to have anxiety all the time, I don't feel comfortable around him at all. It's bugging me out! So fast forward 1 week and 6 days and I finally spelled it out to him that I could not and will not marry him because we are not even in the same book of life! I couldn't take it anymore. I can not live with him! So fast forward to last night and he puts his brother on the phone whom lives in CA and his brother tells me if that's my final decision then he is booking my fiancé a flight to CA to depart a week from now and he will call his attorney and have him draw up all the paperwork to relieve me of any financial responsibility! Has anyone ever had a similar experience or heard of one? Should I call USCIS? Of course I will never sign anything without my attorney looking it over and discussing it with USCIS, I may have been conned by lust but I'm not stupid! I'm curious if anyone knows of a possible outcome? Thanks!

this lawyer thing is a pile of turkey poo,

as

the I-134 you signed is not a legally enforceable document

and

expires when the I-94 expires.

Sign nothing.

so, what happens when you sign nothing in the turkey poo pile, and not marry, and not file AOS?

--the K-1 visa holder only has 90 days in the USA

--the K-1 visa holder SHOULD return to his home country, as after the I-94 expires, will not have any legal presence in the USA

--the petitioner has no further responsibilities. No further paperwork to file either.

IMO, your K-1 visa holder will scamper off to his brother's house, get his SSN (which he is entitled to) and start to live and work illegally in the USA.

Still, even he does that, you are not responsible for him, the I-94 expires soon.

[apologies, I not read any of the prior posts here, so if I'm echoing someone else - hey ! ]

[Boiler 45,516]

IMO, your K-1 visa holder will scamper off to his brother's house, get his SSN (which he is entitled to) and start to live and work illegally in the USA.

That would be the obvious conclusion. The SSN will say not valid for work but I doubt if ever had any intentions of going home no matter what happened.

Does beg the question how this got past the Consulate. Seems to have the flags of whatever colour.

Edited January 25, 2014 by Boiler

[Hollyday 122]

It's funny to me that everyone else in this thread is saying things like "don't let him come back to your house" when the OP is clearly at fault here (if her description of the situation is accurate). She brings this guy over and decides in a week and a half that they are not alike? And you are more worried about her?

Let's be realistic. I don't see the OP trying to attack this guy somehow if he's around. But he, who has stuff to lose now, can you vouch he wouldn't do anything unreasonable? Who knows how it can turn out. If she's decided not to proceed, it's her right. But why she shouldn't be cautious i don't see, really.

[InHisTime 110]

I may have been conned by lust but I'm not stupid!

Wow! Absolutely......LUST doesn't last !

I hope you are very sure of your decison. He just arrived Jan 9, that was only few days. It is only 25 Jan now, why it was so easy to have a change of heart / mind ? Last Christmas you said that you were so excited of his coming. I am wondering why it is so quick for you to make a huge decision. Would you mind sharing the reasons behind? Have you discovered something to make you change ?

Anyway, if you really have decided, then do what other VJs have said to protect you, just in case he will file for any immigration benefits.

I think you can't stop him from going to his brother. He has 90 days to stay in the US. And, at least he could maybe request his brother to help him buy a ticket.

Just a reminder to everyone, if ever, please make sure you know what you want before filing a petition. Please get to know better....more time face to face. Relationship requires work and time. A Fiance / Fiancee is supposed to be someone who is engaged to marry. It is not easy giving up everything in home country just to be with love one in a strange country; It takes courage and positive outlook....and more, it is not easy to feel rejected and mend a broken heart.

I hope the OP will find peace and true love in the future. God bless.

[Hollyday 122]

and now you're saying that you made a mistake and you don't want to marry him. You don't need to do anything, you've already done it...you gave him grounds for that VAWA stuff. A lot of men and women use it as a tool for staying in the country by making up lies that the spouse/fiancé kicked them out, wont adjust the status, etc. In this case...it would be totally valid if he went that route.

What exactly did the OP do that would constitute as abuse? Telling someone you're not ready to marry them is not one of those things. Here USCIS describes who's eligible to file under VAWA and i don't see how it would apply. Though this is exactly why she is advised to stay away from him now so he cannot make this stuff up.

Edited January 25, 2014 by Hollyday

[Boiler 45,516]

They have not married.

[D N Medellin COL 75]

Where there is smoke there is fire - if it smells like a scam well.....................

You see many opinions and suggestions from people how you should proceed from here on out, you have some difficult decisions to make, may God give you the wisdom to make the right one for you, your family and your life!

[Cathi 5,748]

Dont let him come back to your house, he can come back to your house and then acuse you of domestic violence and then apply for wAva.

In that way he can get GC

Why why WHY do you continue to think every single new immigrant is part of some scam? Seriously you need to stop! It was her decision to stop the marriage, not him. He gave up everything he knows to come here, and the OP never said a word about any type of abuse on either side.

To the OP: you met him once for 8 days, even you said it was like a vacation. Did you think real life was going to be a vacation? The poor guy gave up everything he knows and loves to come here, I'm sure a lot of it is culture shock, being in different surroundings. You have no financial responsibility for him, and he has no legal basis to stay. You say you aren't stupid, but tell me what's smart about bringing someone you met for 8 days to live with you and your small daughters? There needs to be better guidelines for issuing k1 visas, there should be a minimum amount of face to face time required before K1 visas are issued. Casablanca consulate has no rhyme or reason, they deny married couples who have been together years, yet they seem to give out k1 visas like tic tacs.