A Jamaican in Connecticut

[yellowlovesgray 4]

Cats and dogs are members of the family. Unless there is a severe allergy, etc. KEEP THE CAT, period! I agree completely with others - marriage is compromise, not a dictatorship. The worst thing you can do in my humble opinion is continue to put yourself second in hopes he doesn't return to Jamaica because you stand your ground on something. You both need equal ground in order to have a true partnership. ((and I am SO ROOTING FOR THE POOR CAT!!)) ;-) **Obvious animal lover here.** He absolutely has given up a lot to move to the states and be with you and I know without question I will be the same with wanting my fiance to feel comfortable and at home. But no way in hell would I be parting with my dog... nooooooo way. And he knows this and would never think of asking me to. Compromise. Respect. Love. Patience. Partnership. THAT should be the focus.

Best of luck and hopefully he'll aclimate a bit more and feel more comfortable in his surroundings. If he would leave you over a cat, wasn't love to begin with sadly.

This. I'd be leery of a man who demanded I get rid of my cat. When you adopt an animal and they become your companions, they're family. He knows cats don't live forever, right? He and your marriage is surely going to outlive the cat. Then you can agree to no more pets.

I feel so sad for the cat Animal lover here too, it breaks my heart. They have so much unconditional love to give and my cat's been with me comforting me through anything that happens.

Maybe I'm not understanding the culture, but he sounds incredibly demanding and controlling already.

Personally I'd get rid of the man and tell people the cat was allergic.

[yellowlovesgray 4]

OK I'm really worried about this poor cat Have you found a home for him yet? I'm seriously considering asking if it's a possibility to ship him to Texas so I can adopt him.