Husband asked me to leave

[jamster0105 7]

Hello everyone,

My wife and I have a friend who was brought to the US on a K-1 Fiance Visa. After she arrived, the two got married, applied for adjustment of status and she is currently waiting biometrics. After a short amount of time, the American husband started to change. He began to become verbally abusive to the point where our Filipina friend started to stand her ground and not cave in to his demands. He started to threaten that he would make her leave and cancel the process. Unfortunately, our friend lives on the other side of the country and she doesn't know anyone else in the U.S. besides us. Just recently, he FORCED her to leave the house because she refused to be a "slave" to him. Since she was scared, she decided to come stay with us and she is very confused on her next move. Her husband won't let her come back, he refuses to file for divorce and he refuses to take care of her. She is still awaiting biometrics and wants to stay in the country. Should she change her address to ours so she could take her biometrics here in our state? Should she consult with an attorney? Hopefully someone out there can help steer her in the right direction. Thanks.

[KayDeeCee 4,893]

~ Moved from AOS from Family Based to Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits ~

[SingleDad2usc 71]

From what you related, USCIS will not accept this as bona fide marriage, no matter what either spouse will say. He is also confused, mind you; but she is the one who'll be out of status soon, with no recourse

[Hypnos 6,576]

She should make preparations to return to the Philippines; she has no path to permanent residency.

[asianculture 14]

This is a clear abuse against women, no matter what status she in right now, she have the right to file a complaint against her husband, check out the VAWA it's Violence against women act, and you can help her to file a complain and they can help her with that matter.....don't worry about her immigration status, always remember there is always a way to fix her situation, I hope this message will help her, God Bless!!!

This is a clear abuse against women, no matter what status she in right now, she have the right to file a complaint against her husband, check out the VAWA it's Violence against women act, and you can help her to file a complain and they can help her with that matter.....don't worry about her immigration status, always remember there is always a way to fix her situation, I hope this message will help her, God Bless!!!

oops sorry , I mean file a complain against her BF.

[Hypnos 6,576]

To file a successful VAWA case you must be able to demonstrate a bona fide marriage, and it doesn't sound as though the OP's friend can do that.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

long story short: the only use from her VAWA filing is that she won't immediately be out of status, but get a Prima Facie determination that may last her 6 months. At best; but she may also get an RFE for bona fide marriage before she ever gets Prima Facie. Clear "abuse" or not, they had to be living TOGETHER in the US and she had to have suffered DAMAGE to her psyche due to EXTREME cruelty on husband's part. Such may be proven after the fact via a licensed psychologist. What can't be proven after the fact is bona fide marriage: they had to be sharing a lot in a regular marital life, and had collected plenty of paper trail proving that - before the "abuse". Which ties back to discussions we had in other "Family changes" threads: how did this marriage come about? What did the spouses know about each other before they registered marriage? Were they building a family for long happy life together, or the only thing that occurred was spousal immigration sponsorship?

Going by so many other threads: the quickly-estranged US husband may now claim marriage fraud on her part. She came to the US to live with him, she is NOT; but the way OP put it, she "wants to stay in the country". Are there extenuating circumstances forcing her?

[fantonledzepp 159]

Her relationship has gone down the toilet. She should return home.

[EndlessStory 53]

She should return home before she is out of status as that may lead to deportation or ban if she fails to adjust status with her current marriage.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

From reading all this horror stories on a weekly basis on VJ I wonder why any one still pursues a K1 visa. A CR1 easily side steps all these USC change of hearts and psychotic attempt to control these immigrants.

Good luck to your friend. My vote is that she fights hard to stay in the US, she shouldn't have to go back.

[Cathi 5,748]

If she came to the US to be with him, and she doesn't know anyone else, why would she want to stay?

[SingleDad2usc 71]

How?

From reading all this horror stories on a weekly basis on VJ I wonder why any one still pursues a K1 visa. A CR1 easily side steps all these USC change of hearts and psychotic attempt to control these immigrants.

Good luck to your friend. My vote is that she fights hard to stay in the US, she shouldn't have to go back.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

If she came to the US to be with him, and she doesn't know anyone else, why would she want to stay?

I understand where you are coming from. She didn't come here fraudulently, left everything behind, etc Immigration law actually allows her to self adjust since she married.

How?

You're on here just like me, do your own research and come to your own opinion like I did. It's not my job to educate you or convince you to change your opinion.

[verysadguy 170]

Clearly, there are two sides to the story and one side is obviously missing. The Philippina just wants to stay in America we have no clue what she really did to prompt his supposedly "change" in the husband. What a crock of BS.

Yes single dad the definition of extreme cruelty is basically telling you "I don't like u" when in America. It's a joke. And as for gowon come on his every single person from a impoverished foreign country and a dirt floor home is not abused by Americans give me a break.

This is a one-sided story from a person who is playing the role of the victim just to stay in America. Like everyone else said she just needs to go home. If she was really abused, poor thing, then she needs to show some major real evidence. Even then it's my opinion most of these K-1 scams need to just go to their own country rather than wasting US taxpayer dollars.

This looks like a VAWA case for sure. Chalk up another one for the scammers.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Clearly, there are two sides to the story and one side is obviously missing. The Philippina just wants to stay in America we have no clue what she really did to prompt his supposedly "change" in the husband. What a crock of BS.

Yes single dad the definition of extreme cruelty is basically telling you "I don't like u" when in America. It's a joke. And as for gowon come on his every single person from a impoverished foreign country and a dirt floor home is not abused by Americans give me a break.

This is a one-sided story from a person who is playing the role of the victim just to stay in America. Like everyone else said she just needs to go home. If she was really abused, poor thing, then she needs to show some major real evidence. Even then it's my opinion most of these K-1 scams need to just go to their own country rather than wasting US taxpayer dollars.

This looks like a VAWA case for sure. Chalk up another one for the scammers.

I would have thought you wouldn't be able to bring yourself to type my username after the hissy fit you threw previously.

Not every foreigner is a leech like the person you petitioned for. There's a reason why VAWA is created.