I'm losing my mind..help

[BB&D 0]

Hey guys...

This is not a usual topic here, and i know there are other websites, but i just wanted to post it here, where all of us are in the same boat, we all are couples that live apart, and we all know how hard and frustrating it can be.

And i'm just wondering, beside i know it's normal to have fights, but still, do you sometimes feel like the time and distance are kiling you, do any of you sometimes had that feeling like your partner doesn't love you anymore, even if she/he is calling you every day?

We have 'good days' too, but sometimes i have that feeling like we are losing each other.

I don't know what to think anymore, what's happening when you can't forget the hard words, or you feel like you are the only one who is doing everything, after every fight you are always the one who is saying sorry no matter if it was your fault or not, and the same person is always the first one who is calling,while the other one is always but always blaming you for everything? Why would your partner blame everything on you, and the answer to everything is do whatever you want and think whatever you want?

Does it mean only the one of us is in love? Is that a sign of something or what? How i should understand this change?

I become frustrated, and i don't know what should i do anymore. Our case is at NVC, but i'm not sure how this will end up..

Please if some of you have been through similar situation, please share some opinion

And again, sorry for posting this here, i believe there are nice and honest people on this forum,and we always help each other.

Thanks!

[LPR_filer 2]

Every journey has these phases where you feel, am I on the right bus... are we heading in the right direction..... is this journey worthwhile....

hang in there.... every person has his/her bouts of stupidity... afterall we are all human...

living separately, in different places, in different timezones exponentially increases the misunderstandings or misgivings or what are considered small hiccups in a normal relationship...

today it could be your turn to be just kind and give selfless love.... and then there will be a day when you just want to be loved and taken care of no matter what... today or this month is not the latter case....

[scubagirl 1]

Hang in there. every couple whether long distance or not, have fights but it does makes it harder when you're apart.

We are all going through rough roads, LOTS of ups and downs, we need to stay strong and keep doing what we're doing, calling/ texting/ talking about the wonderful future ahead etc. One of the things I really enjoy with my BF is we would start watching the same TV show at the same time while on the phone. It kinda feels he's there with you:)

I am from Japan, lived in the US for 5 years but there are many times when I feel frustrated about not being able to fully express myself language wide and cultural wise. But we try to work it out. My bf tries very hard to understand me even though I know it is hard.

He always tell me communication is the most important thing in a relationship. I think so too.

There are times where we can't come to an agreement point on certain things. But I think it is OK unless the 2 of us tries to process each others opinions and tries to understand their best.

Maybe it might be good to let your fiancé know what you are feeling in your heart and just talk….

Don't tell your partner sorry if you don't mean it. It just stresses you out and I don't think sorry is the answer your partner wants.

The stress or anger your fiancé has may be coming from somewhere else or multiple things.

Communication is the key.

Best of luck and always remember the VJ here are going through tough times too. You are not alone!