The Plnk Ranther Strikes Again

[SAT 9,609]

shes definitely going on the defensive.

[SAT 9,609]

I'm going to pick up daughter from school. Then I'm taking her to ToysRus........

She can pick out anything she wants, and I'm going to bring it back and drop it right in the middle of the kitchen.

May be then Tiff will get the point from the following scenarios........

1- she's pissed I spent money again, then she'll realize that she just did the same, on her sisters unborn child.

2- She'll realize that money should be spent on our child first

3- She'll realize that money shouldn't be wasted like this. And she should save.

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

I'm going to pick up daughter from school. Then I'm taking her to ToysRus........

She can pick out anything she wants, and I'm going to bring it back and drop it right in the middle of the kitchen.

May be then Tiff will get the point from the following scenarios........

1- she's pissed I spent money again, then she'll realize that she just did the same, on her sisters unborn child.

2- She'll realize that money should be spent on our child first

3- She'll realize that money shouldn't be wasted like this. And she should save.

I have a feeling that won't work.

[SAT 9,609]

I have a feeling that won't work.

worth a shot no?

because she'll get an urge to say something. Then will realize that she'll be doing the same thing that I was trying to tell her.

[Ontarkie 14,498]

It might be worth it. The least maybe you will be able to unwind a bit while enjoying your daughters excitement.

[SAT 9,609]

I'm gonna do it

[NikLR 13,232]

Whatever makes you happy Steve.

[Darnell 8,479]

worth a shot no?

because she'll get an urge to say something. Then will realize that she'll be doing the same thing that I was trying to tell her.

no. she's in an established pattern that's not going to be broken by you.

but hey - let's all have some fun, aye? Whilst yer out shopping, in addition, buy three 3 things for your man-basement that you've been putting off purchasing till Gumps left.

Edited January 24, 2014 by Darnell

[NikLR 13,232]

Finally going back to Canada so I can update my NEXUS! YAY

Get to see my kiddo! YAY!

WEEKEND!!!! #### YA!!!

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

Finally going back to Canada so I can update my NEXUS! YAY

Get to see my kiddo! YAY!

WEEKEND!!!! #### YA!!!

Fantastic!

[Darnell 8,479]

All Hail NEXUS ! All Hail !

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

worth a shot no?

because she'll get an urge to say something. Then will realize that she'll be doing the same thing that I was trying to tell her.

Yeah, that no works. Better passive aggressive strategy is ceasing to buy Tiff food or spend any money at all on her. Then send her stuff off to distant relatives. Works better, right?

[Darnell 8,479]

I'm gonna do it

I'm so stupid, as I've yet to suggest

an intervention on her, done by YOUR family members.

I did try to warn you - the dichotomy of a Malay-Chinese, or straights-born Chinese, is NOT the same as other Chinese. However, you've a powerful Chinese family of yer own, even if you fail to recognize it, so it makes more sense to me, to have a 'Steve-Family-Smackdown' style of intervention, bringing financial statements along with future projections (both on your stuff and Tiff's family stuff) into the intervention.

Mostly, you just be in the room, not talk with Tiff directly, but act as interlocuter with your other family members, asking them the questions in the form of, "What would you do, given this exact situation?" and going over the 12 to 14 situations that you need sorted, one at a time, waiting for a family member's response. Then have the family member go over it again, that person asking Tiff directly what her action plan is, or telling her directly that she has to stop on that one situation. Keep it focused, per each situation, do not overlap until each situation is dealt with. It's easier to preface with 'and another thing' but do not do that at all. Let your family members and Tiff slug it out. Seriously - not talk directly to her.

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Edited January 24, 2014 by Darnell

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

So the kitchen counters aren't bleached to high hell today, obviously the two coffee rings make it impossible to cook and the kitchen is incredibly grimy.