The Plnk Ranther Strikes Again

[Caryh 5,206]

he doesn't believe in Valentine's day or presents in general. He feels like he can never pick anything out for anyone and has to think months ahead about it. And he told me I cannot pick anything out and tell him what I want because he is not that kind of person...he thinks that is not ok.

He told me the day before my bday that he did not get me anything just to make sure I did not expect anything and when I told him it was not cool he said it was my fault because he knew I would not want anything (and when he wanted to buy me a fedora at some point in time i said i did not want one) so he did not even think about it (and by "he knew" he means "he assumed").

It is too complicated. I am not getting anything and by now it doesn't even matter to me lol It is my fault in part because I was being "cool" about it in the beginning instead I should have said it is nice to do something nice for another person and I would like to feel special sometimes too. I always bought him things when I had a job so I figured he might do the same when the roles were reversed but he really just doesn't do presents for other people except mom.

Omg this is an essay !!

[Merrytooth 5,748]

omg i should prep for risotto. trying it with red wine today and have one lonely mushroom left to put in it lol

Remember to bill him for your cooking services + at least 15% tips expected

[Caryh 5,206]

Remember to bill him for your cooking services + at least 15% tips expected

The standard is now 18%.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

he doesn't believe in Valentine's day or presents in general. He feels like he can never pick anything out for anyone and has to think months ahead about it. And he told me I cannot pick anything out and tell him what I want because he is not that kind of person...he thinks that is not ok.

He told me the day before my bday that he did not get me anything just to make sure I did not expect anything and when I told him it was not cool he said it was my fault because he knew I would not want anything (and when he wanted to buy me a fedora at some point in time i said i did not want one) so he did not even think about it (and by "he knew" he means "he assumed").

It is too complicated. I am not getting anything and by now it doesn't even matter to me lol It is my fault in part because I was being "cool" about it in the beginning instead I should have said it is nice to do something nice for another person and I would like to feel special sometimes too. I always bought him things when I had a job so I figured he might do the same when the roles were reversed but he really just doesn't do presents for other people except mom.

Omg this is an essay !!

Hey, Post your address, we could mail you something to make you feel better

[Caryh 5,206]

Hey, Post your address, we could mail you something to make you feel better

We'll send you a book to read

[Asia 2,498]

The standard is now 18%.

I think it's still not enough for Jada services...

[JTB11 1,079]

We'll send you a book to read

omg I laughed out loud and scared the dog

I think it's still not enough for Jada services...

[Caryh 5,206]

I think it's still not enough for Jada services...

[JTB11 1,079]

Hey, Post your address, we could mail you something to make you feel better

[Caryh 5,206]

omg I laughed out loud and scared the dog

Never piss off the cook. You'd think they'd be bright enough to know that.

[Ontarkie 14,296]

he doesn't believe in Valentine's day or presents in general. He feels like he can never pick anything out for anyone and has to think months ahead about it. And he told me I cannot pick anything out and tell him what I want because he is not that kind of person...he thinks that is not ok.

He told me the day before my bday that he did not get me anything just to make sure I did not expect anything and when I told him it was not cool he said it was my fault because he knew I would not want anything (and when he wanted to buy me a fedora at some point in time i said i did not want one) so he did not even think about it (and by "he knew" he means "he assumed").

It is too complicated. I am not getting anything and by now it doesn't even matter to me lol It is my fault in part because I was being "cool" about it in the beginning instead I should have said it is nice to do something nice for another person and I would like to feel special sometimes too. I always bought him things when I had a job so I figured he might do the same when the roles were reversed but he really just doesn't do presents for other people except mom.

Omg this is an essay !!

OMG Did you find an american version of my EX, give us the address to send him a wake up call.

big hugs, I've been in a similar situation hopefully he wakes up and realizes what he has before it's too late.

[JTB11 1,079]

OMG Did you find an american version of my EX, give us the address to send him a wake up call.

big hugs, I've been in a similar situation hopefully he wakes up and realizes what he has before it's too late.

he has very little time left at this point. Sadly, he retreats to pc world rather than dealing and my ability to rehash stuff over and over (not blaming, not criticizing but trying to understand him and try and figure it out) is diminishing as we speak.

either way...risotto prep done. Might make pork sausage/green been salad with lemon/champagne vinegar dressing.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

[Caryh 5,206]

he has very little time left at this point. Sadly, he retreats to pc world rather than dealing and my ability to rehash stuff over and over (not blaming, not criticizing but trying to understand him and try and figure it out) is diminishing as we speak.

either way...risotto prep done. Might make pork sausage/green been salad with lemon/champagne vinegar dressing.

I don't think anyone here would blame you. Sometimes its difficult to figure out what's going on in someone's head when they complete refuse to accept reality.

[NikLR 13,228]

Do you all have one poster that you'll read comments from and just sigh and roll your eyes? Ugh.

YES!!! I ignore a few because of that.

I was the "sober" driver and I can't drive his fandangled stick shift go kart.

Learn to drive a manual.... SO MUCH FUN! But car shopping sucks when it's in your list of "must have." Because everyone is lazy and wants an automatic. At the dealership and all "no I don't want to test drive your automatic." "because i care how the gearbox responds dipsh!t.... /doh

It's a chevy cobalt lol.

See above... LOL

Guys, idk, the dude just likes pink/salmon/crimson/etc.

Also, he has these horrid orange pants that I hate. He doesn't look bad in them (granted, I think he looks gorgeous all the time) but I really do hate the color orange.

I hate orange too. It strangely looks really good on my husband though.

hahahaha yes

And holy sh*t I'm jealous! Ali is like DESIGNER MOTHERFUCKA when it comes to clothes. He won't shop anywhere else other than Ralph Lauren, Levis, etc. I am so not allowed to pick out his clothes.

My husband is "walmart designer." Getting him to spend money on clothes is like pulling teeth. When I finally convince him to buy some new jeans, he tries on 1 pair and tries to buy 5 of the same thing. FFS NO!!! /grrrr I would dress him nicely if he a) let me pick all out but still would try it on and b) stopped caring if a pair of jeans cost more then $20.

Jada... I feel for you. I am right in there in the big hugs section!!!