How to file for VAWA?

[blackcloud 0]

Long story short, I came to the USA 2 years ago on a K1 visa, (K2 for my daughter).
Got married, had a baby while going through hell and still no AOS.
My husband has been verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with me.
I'm pretty sure he is a narcissist, passive aggressive and seems to have other psychological issues.

He treats me like a slave, he doesn't care about the baby's well being, he would throw a tantrum and humiliate me anywhere and for no reason, he insults me and my family everyday and demands sexual favors just for taking me to the groceries store as if it was a favor to me.
I don't even want to go on...I need to know step by step how to file for VAWA. Can I do it by myself? I have no money or resources, I don't even know how to drive and he is always around since he works night shifts.
Please help me with guidance.

[Penguin_ie 5,996]

**** Moving from AOS to Effects of Major Changes forum, where our VAWA experts are *****

[Sandra G. 5,057]

join the thread vawa part 4,we have there hundreds of.victims.of domestic.violence and mental abuse.

[John J 10]

Long story short, I came to the USA 2 years ago on a K1 visa, (K2 for my daughter).

Got married, had a baby while going through hell and still no AOS.

My husband has been verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with me.

I'm pretty sure he is a narcissist, passive aggressive and seems to have other psychological issues.

He treats me like a slave, he doesn't care about the baby's well being, he would throw a tantrum and humiliate me anywhere and for no reason, he insults me and my family everyday and demands sexual favors just for taking me to the groceries store as if it was a favor to me.

I don't even want to go on...I need to know step by step how to file for VAWA. Can I do it by myself? I have no money or resources, I don't even know how to drive and he is always around since he works night shifts.

Please help me with guidance.

Your husband is the same as my wife, I've been here 6 years and I can tell you nothing changes. I'm glad you are seeking help now rather than waiting. You don't have to tell me about him because they all follow the same script/pattern. You can bet your bottom dollar (no you can't because your abusive spouse doesn't give you any money, just like mine) that he also has borderline.

Forget him doing AOS he claims more as "head as household", he'll never do it for you.

Good luck and congratulations for doing VAWA.

Edited January 14, 2014 by John F

[John J 10]

Read all of this don't think oh damn I can't do it.

Note: this is an outline of what to do, many VAWA cases are slightly different. I am not a lawyer and write this on what I've learned to give you a jump start on what to expect. You should join vawa part 4 thread for better information. Don't solely use the information below for your VAWA case and get problems then come back to bite my butt, I may have left very important things out.

I was not given correct information 4 years ago so I abandoned VAWA then. I'm starting again with the correct information. I hope you dont wait 4 years because it doesn't get any better.

Even if you are trying to keep your family together through all the madness/abuse go for your EAD as quick as possible, you could at least get a part time job.

Like sandranj said it is best to join the vawa part 4 thread. http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/435545-vawa-part-4/page-182

You can do VAWA yourself and many people do. You will have to do yours yourself with the help from the VAWA thread part 4 community.

You will have to fill forms in for immigration each comes with a price don't worry you will get them free by filling in a fee waiver form.

At some stage you will get a Employment Authorization Document (EAD) to allow you to work. People will tell you to do AOS which means at some time you will do a medical, costs around $600. You pay for this after using Employment Authorization Document to get work.

Step 1:

Write out an affidavit saying how you met and fell in love with your spouse. Include copies of marriage certificate, spouse social security card etc. Proof of living together (again difficult for you). Usually 15 pages long on average.

Step 2:

Write out the details of abuse. You should have proof of the abuse in your situation it will be hard to get details of proof.

Step 3: You will need to see a psychologist this again is going to be very difficult for you.

Step 4: You will need police clearance.

Step 4: Fill out forms

I-765 http://www.uscis.gov/i-765 Employment authorization.

I-485 http://www.uscis.gov/i-485 AOS

I- 360 http://www.uscis.gov/i-360

I- 192 http://www.uscis.gov/i-192 Fee waiver

Send to your nearest center I dont know yours the guys in VAWA part 4 can help.

[tdiva 0]

I am in the same postion I came here in march2012 I met my usc husband july2012 by a family member we got married april 2013 I thought he was my soulmate boy I was wrong smh he petition i130, i485 everything was wonderful until he lost his job he started checking my calls my friends couldn't come to the house he even monitors me talking to my mom smh he didn't celebrated no important holidays and I couldn't either my son came to visit me and my son his so scared of him I forget bringing my son in this anyway In January he got a job I thought it would get better I found out I was pregnant thought things would change and bring him happiness since he dont have a child of his own he scream and told me to get rid of the baby he dont want it he even told me I could try and slip on the slide and see if I could lose the baby so he dont have to find the money he told me I am getting super ugly he called me every name in the book!!!!!! Eventually me convincing him to let me keep the baby was not an option he brought me to do it. And told me if I ever say anything he wouls let them deport me before I could blink smh I was being sexually abused I keep thinking if I dont try do something that little voice in my head is telling me to end my life but my son is keeping me my interview was feb 27, 2014 he didnt show up he said he didnt feel like it so knw he think i get denied but i found away went to the interview and reschedule..I research and found out I can file a i360...how do I go about it I have no money I have all the documents but he hid his passport which prove his citizenship.how would I prove his citizen ship. ...please I need help I beg u

[Unknown Guest 15]

If your spouse is physically abusive, you should call the police and get a police report filed. Physical violence should not b tolerated regardless of whether u have a green card or not.