Married Before.....Scared Of The Biographic Information

[pinkvirgo 0]

So hey everyone...I have been searching for a place that could give me some much needed answers and advice...and I think I finally found the place. Yayyy Okay here's the story (I'll try to keep it short lol) A few years back I felll in love with this wonderful guy from Nigeria.....he was attending school in London and I went to visit him a few times there. While on my last visit he proposed and we were all set to plan a wedding....then suddenly things took a turn for the worst and due to distance and frustration of my work schedule and his school schedule constantly conflicting we seperated and stop talking While seperated a year later I met what I thought was another great guy from Ghana (Who came to the USA on a tourist Visa and lived in Chicago during his stay) and instantly feel head over heels.....He propsed to me within only 2 months of dating and stupid me *I already know no need for bashing * went and got married to him, only to find out he only married me to get his papers.......I was so pissed at the idea...I immediately broke things off and filed for a divorce. Meanwhile, guess who was there to support me and be by my side the entire time (MY EX from Nigeria) he was so caring and understanding and the experience drew us back closer together. A few months later after filing for the divorce me and my Nigerian love have been planning our lives together. I know for a fact this is the man that i want to spend the rest of my life with, but i know it will be hard to explain this to Immigration (seeing that he does not have his papers either and I want to apply for a K-1 Visa). I never applied for any type of documents for the guy from Ghana....but I want to apply now for my fiance that is from Nigeria. On the G 325-A (Biographic Form) & the I 129-F (Petition For Alien Fiance) it asks about Prior Spouse info such as when the marriage started and when it ended (The marriage lasted approx 2 months and we seperated but we couldn't file for divorce until 6 months after our seperation due to laws and restrictions in Illinois, in which time I reconnected with the guy from Nigeria). Do you think this previous marriage that was so quick will affect my application process in any way and if so how long after my divorce should i wait to apply for the K-1 Fiance Visa or would it just be smarter to go ahead and get married and file for the Spousal Visa?? I know this all seems complicated and crazy but...mistakes were made i have moved on...and i would love to words of wisdom instead of criticism..Thank You Soooooo Much In Advance... Any questions feel free to ask i will respond honestly

Edited January 9, 2014 by pinkvirgo

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Are both of you legally able to marry, each other, in both his country, and yours? Other than all the obvious red flags that will cause some concern in a country that already had a reputation as a high fraud country, that is the question that matters as far as your marital status.

Unless you really are in love with this individual, and you are absolutely certain about him, without any reservation, I suspect you are in for disappointment, and should walk away from this relationship. That is my impression, but the best of luck to you, no matter what you decide.

[raven52 233]

Your story is kind of crazy, but that is life. I would monitor this site all I could and keep posting with up-dates on your relationship, with the guy you went back to. Also, like the previous poster, the country this man comes from may be the highest fraud country, USCIS deals with.,.,.,but there may be some others that are close to it..,.,

Remember this, so MANY people want to come here.,.,.,any way they can.,.,., test him in subtle ways.,.,stretch his patience, with maybe ficticious problems.,.,.see how he reacts. You have been fooled once, and hurt once.,.,you do not need it again, be careful!

[yraheem 9]

I would agree with the Postmaster, you have two guys which are from country whereby marriage fraud is rampid, Nigeria and Ghana. I cannot speak for the state of Illinois, only for the state of Texas. In Texas you can get re-married the same day that you filed for a divorce. I am marrying my 2nd Filipina. I divorced my 1st wife (who was Filipina), and the day that I got my divorce papers, I sent off my K-1 Visa paper work for my 2nd desire. I believe what I have read that USIC will begin to frown and investigate on the 3rd K1-visa petition. So, you may be good however, "MAKE SURE!!".

I learned a lot from my 1st marriage, and became very wise the 2nd time around. So, go for it, provided you apply within the scope of the laws within the state of Illinois. But please put your emotions asside and be certain, else you will find yourself being used again. Men from Nigeria and Ghana are natorious for scamming American women. My 1st wife was 99.9 percent of what I wanted however, she didn't want to work, so that changed the dynamics of our marriage and I filed for divorce, some people may call the cruel, I call it being realistic and sticking to the agreement. It wasn't personal it was about the business of having a successful marriage and I'm not one of those men who just need a woman in my life.

So, proceed with caution, be skeptical, and do your research about the person. I actually hired a Private Eye to investigate my 2nd choice, sound creul but I learned my lesson from my 1st marriage. So, BE CAREFUL!!! and since he is male, TEST, TEST, TEST, TEST, TEST Him for he may already have a gf in the U.S. or he may even just want what the 1st guy got. I don't know too many men who would accept such a mistake, men are just not that patient by nature. I'm sure that's not what you want to hear but I'm very pragmatic.

Edited January 9, 2014 by yraheem

[KayDeeCee 4,893]

Not sure your short marriage is a red flag for your current situation and wanting to file for a K-1. It would have been if you had filed immigration papers for your ex husband, but you did not. Lagos is a tough consulate to go through, so just make sure you provide plenty of solid evidence to prove your relationship is real. Read the reviews for Lagos and read through posts in the Africa regional forum to get a sense of what you will be going though and dealing with.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Having helped the first husband get his papers and immediately divorcing ( not that it was your intent to help Mr Ghana ) it will appear that you are marrying for profit. Expect the CO to treat the relationship like this. Be honest and be prepared for what I just said. If your relationship is honest it will survive but your path may be less than smooth.

[christeen 966]

I read you never applied for any visa for the Ghana husband correct? Of course you will have so e extra scrutiny. I wou,d be prepared with a lot of proof of ongoing relationship as Nigeria is difficult. You can also provide a relationship timeline with the package. I recommend front loading your package with lots of evidence and hopefully you have spent some quality face time, including visits to Nigeria to meet his family...

[pinkvirgo 0]

I would agree with the Postmaster, you have two guys which are from country whereby marriage fraud is rampid, Nigeria and Ghana. I cannot speak for the state of Illinois, only for the state of Texas. In Texas you can get re-married the same day that you filed for a divorce. I am marrying my 2nd Filipina. I divorced my 1st wife (who was Filipina), and the day that I got my divorce papers, I sent off my K-1 Visa paper work for my 2nd desire. I believe what I have read that USIC will begin to frown and investigate on the 3rd K1-visa petition. So, you may be good however, "MAKE SURE!!".

I learned a lot from my 1st marriage, and became very wise the 2nd time around. So, go for it, provided you apply within the scope of the laws within the state of Illinois. But please put your emotions asside and be certain, else you will find yourself being used again. Men from Nigeria and Ghana are natorious for scamming American women. My 1st wife was 99.9 percent of what I wanted however, she didn't want to work, so that changed the dynamics of our marriage and I filed for divorce, some people may call the cruel, I call it being realistic and sticking to the agreement. It wasn't personal it was about the business of having a successful marriage and I'm not one of those men who just need a woman in my life.

So, proceed with caution, be skeptical, and do your research about the person. I actually hired a Private Eye to investigate my 2nd choice, sound creul but I learned my lesson from my 1st marriage. So, BE CAREFUL!!! and since he is male, TEST, TEST, TEST, TEST, TEST Him for he may already have a gf in the U.S. or he may even just want what the 1st guy got. I don't know too many men who would accept such a mistake, men are just not that patient by nature. I'm sure that's not what you want to hear but I'm very pragmatic.

[pinkvirgo 0]

Thank you soooo much and nothing you said was cruel.....I appreciate & respect your advice and the decisions you decided to make regarding your own situation. As far the Nigerian guy goes.....it's not a new relationship....we dated long before, and I know him like the back of my hand. He genuinely loves me. I know that people will do anything for a green card but he has plenty of ways to get here to the USA (including a father that lives here already). We have mutual friends that would marry him illegally in a heartbeat to get him here and he refuses. He wants to do things the right way and be with someone he authentically loves and there is no doubt in my heart that he truly loves me. He was so heartbroken and torn when I married the guy from Ghana.....(he never really moved on with his life), but when I called him to tell him everything he was an pure angel. I know I hurt him and caused him a great deal of pain.....but we have this connection. He is definetly my best friend before anything, even gave me the money to pay for my divorce. He just wants my happiness and I wish I could tell you our entire history prior to the breakup but it would take entire book report and several cups of coffee lol......We both genuinely love each other and to be honest HE DESERVES BETTER but he gave me a second chance at love and this time I just want to do things right.

[pinkvirgo 0]

Thank You for this info....I will start working on a timeline. And yes we have alot of pics and I have traveled abroad numerous of times during our school breaks and have hung out with his dad here in the states a few times as well......as far as visiting Nigeria.....No....we have discussed It and I talk to his mom & sisters via the telephone regularly but as far as visiting Nigeria not as of yet....He isnt in Nigeria, so we want to travel together when we go

[pinkvirgo 0]

He is on a student visa where he lives now and Yes I am a legal US citizen.....Honestly if we wanted we could run to City Hall and get married because the law here says just one of us has to be a citizen....so that isnt an issue.....but thank you so much for your advice

[pinkvirgo 0]

The Ghanian guy never got his papers, I immediately divorced him when I learned of his cruel intentions.

Having helped the first husband get his papers and immediately divorcing ( not that it was your intent to help Mr Ghana ) it will appear that you are marrying for profit. Expect the CO to treat the relationship like this. Be honest and be prepared for what I just said. If your relationship is honest it will survive but your path may be less than smooth.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

He is on a student visa where he lives now and Yes I am a legal US citizen.....Honestly if we wanted we could run to City Hall and get married because the law here says just one of us has to be a citizen....so that isnt an issue.....but thank you so much for your advice

That would probably be easier and more likely to succeed, than for him to return and start the K-1 process. People fall in love and get married all the time. There is nothing to stop you from getting married and adjusting here.

[pinkvirgo 0]

Thank you soooo much and nothing you said was cruel.....I appreciate & respect your advice and the decisions you decided to make regarding your own situation. As far the Nigerian guy goes.....it's not a new relationship....we dated long before, and I know him like the back of my hand. He genuinely loves me. I know that people will do anything for a green card but he has plenty of ways to get here to the USA (including a father that lives here already). We have mutual friends that would marry him illegally in a heartbeat to get him here and he refuses. He wants to do things the right way and be with someone he authentically loves and there is no doubt in my heart that he truly loves me. He was so heartbroken and torn when I married the guy from Ghana.....(he never really moved on with his life), but when I called him to tell him everything he was an pure angel. I know I hurt him and caused him a great deal of pain.....but we have this connection. He is definetly my best friend before anything, even gave me the money to pay for my divorce. He just wants my happiness and I wish I could tell you our entire history prior to the breakup but it would take entire book report and several cups of coffee lol......We both genuinely love each other and to be honest HE DESERVES BETTER but he gave me a second chance at love and this time I just want to do things right.

I would agree with the Postmaster, you have two guys which are from country whereby marriage fraud is rampid, Nigeria and Ghana. I cannot speak for the state of Illinois, only for the state of Texas. In Texas you can get re-married the same day that you filed for a divorce. I am marrying my 2nd Filipina. I divorced my 1st wife (who was Filipina), and the day that I got my divorce papers, I sent off my K-1 Visa paper work for my 2nd desire. I believe what I have read that USIC will begin to frown and investigate on the 3rd K1-visa petition. So, you may be good however, "MAKE SURE!!".

I learned a lot from my 1st marriage, and became very wise the 2nd time around. So, go for it, provided you apply within the scope of the laws within the state of Illinois. But please put your emotions asside and be certain, else you will find yourself being used again. Men from Nigeria and Ghana are natorious for scamming American women. My 1st wife was 99.9 percent of what I wanted however, she didn't want to work, so that changed the dynamics of our marriage and I filed for divorce, some people may call the cruel, I call it being realistic and sticking to the agreement. It wasn't personal it was about the business of having a successful marriage and I'm not one of those men who just need a woman in my life.

So, proceed with caution, be skeptical, and do your research about the person. I actually hired a Private Eye to investigate my 2nd choice, sound creul but I learned my lesson from my 1st marriage. So, BE CAREFUL!!! and since he is male, TEST, TEST, TEST, TEST, TEST Him for he may already have a gf in the U.S. or he may even just want what the 1st guy got. I don't know too many men who would accept such a mistake, men are just not that patient by nature. I'm sure that's not what you want to hear but I'm very pragmatic.

Sorry if I am posting things twice lol....just want to make sure I am responding to the correct people

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

If he's aged out, his dad may not have the ready immigration value that you think.