Reasons for wanting your spouse in USA

[Jeff @ Missy 9]

I can file for the baby but then there's a lot of extra documents I'll need to bring.

I'm basically just taking the relationship evidence we sent for the I130 because we included there boarding passes, tickets and credit card receipts to prove that I was in Texas. I hope we won't have to do the DNA test because he can't fly here. I'll just bring my prenatal stuff too so I've been organizing them the best I can. We also got married a month after baby was conceived. I hope it won't be too difficult for us. We just want to be together as a family, I'm sure yall understand the sentiment.

Are the prenatal documents from the USA? They can as I am sure you know predict the time of conception and estimated delivery date from the ultrasounds. As long as the were in the states a month or more after I would think it would be fine. I would think if they request DNA you would have to bring the baby to the states and have it done if thats even possible, otherwise it is St Lukes and is pricey. For myself they really did make sure, you should have multiple ultrasounds for them and for sure have your husband fill out and sign and mail to you the form...don't remember the number but sort of like the affadavit of support but is for the child

[SennaBrigante 92]

I have one ultrasound from the US and the pregnancy confirmation we got for free in a pregnancy center in Amarillo. I should have taken a pic of me and my husband at the ultrasound room. Ugh. So stupid for forgetting. We were just super excited to see the baby nothing else we said we would do were done. We conceived mid-August, I arrived in Texas a month earlier and I left early October. I'm really bad with math and dates so I hope it all adds up lol but we have no worries about the paternity unless it was the Holy Ghost haha

The rest were done here. I have about 5 ultrasound pics, official receipts from doctor's appointments, test results, baby bump pics, prescriptions... everything the doctor handed out, I kept in a binder.

How long did it take you to get the NSO birth certificate? Someone told me it could take up to 6 months O_O

[Jeff @ Missy 9]

I have one ultrasound from the US and the pregnancy confirmation we got for free in a pregnancy center in Amarillo. I should have taken a pic of me and my husband at the ultrasound room. Ugh. So stupid for forgetting. We were just super excited to see the baby nothing else we said we would do were done. We conceived mid-August, I arrived in Texas a month earlier and I left early October. I'm really bad with math and dates so I hope it all adds up lol but we have no worries about the paternity unless it was the Holy Ghost haha

The rest were done here. I have about 5 ultrasound pics, official receipts from doctor's appointments, test results, baby bump pics, prescriptions... everything the doctor handed out, I kept in a binder.

How long did it take you to get the NSO birth certificate? Someone told me it could take up to 6 months O_O

Smart woman, sounds like you're covered. When you get the original birth certificate from the place you birth, think there are 4 copies that go different places, take the one they would send to the NSO and do it yourself or give them the means to LBC it directly. My childs copy went from a lying in clinic to the Provincial Capitol of my island, where it sat for almost 2 months before being sent to Manila. I requested the NSO BC through ecensus.gov.ph and got back a negative search, that was 1.5 months+ after the birth. I traveled to Cebu to check the NSO office there and they gave me contacts who finally emailed me back months later. I had to go to the Prov Cap NSO office (no database ties to MNL) who had the shipping info and then I went from there. Finally, maybe 3+ months after I did the NSO request again and received the copies, then immediately filed the CRBA and passport papers, everything was in good order, I thought...

So at about 2.5 months I am calling the Cebu Consular if they have the docs, they said call back later. I call later and they gave me number of the person working the case in Manila. I call them and they said I had not sent the BI report that they had requested 2 months earlier, I never got it because they entered my email address incorectly and never sent a hardcopy to my home. Anyways, the clock was ticking as you have 3 months to get it all done or start over. I got the report they wanted and had the passport and CRBA 2-3 weeks later, I then went to Manila and got his SS# as it was tax time in the USA and at the same time went to my Visa service place and got my petition all in order, I had wanted to get the CRBA copy and all in the petition cause I figured it can't hurt. So with all this CRBA delay BS I take off to find a place that will send in my I-130 to the lockbox in USA which is only a PO box, Philpost is the only one (EMS) that would accept it. All this and I could have done the DCF the same day. If you are lucky hopefully you do not have to experience such delays.

As they say it's more fun...

[Jeff @ Missy 9]

I expected a few replies on this post to be more like "Im an older guy who can't pick up chicks so I went to the PI and married one cause I am ugly and lonely". Take no offense but I think that would be a good honest reply for most. I just did it the other way and moved to the PI as many do and found my 'dream wife' and thought I would live the rest of my life there but not so many guys feel comfortable doing so. I would like to have a home in both places actually if I had the resources to do so, and I just may start that process and buy land when I go back to get my family. I heard 90% of the foreigners have left Leyte so there must be some good land deals to be had.

[Hank_ 9,174]

... so you were trolling only no one grabbed the bait?? Very old topic, has gray hair even, heck has extremely long gray hair....

Sometimes letting sleeping dogs lie is not a bad thing.

[Jeff @ Missy 9]

... so you were trolling only no one grabbed the bait?? Very old topic, has gray hair even, heck has extremely long gray hair....

Sometimes letting sleeping dogs lie is not a bad thing.

Somewhat, but I was also curious why the petioner is not willing to live in their country, and I am using the Philippines as the prime example because there are more lovelies there than almost anywhere in the world and thats where I lived. Myself I have always been a wanderer so picking up my measly belongings and moving to a foreign country was not an issue at all, never thought it would be the Philippines as I have traveled a fair amount and had never been there before I sold out and moved. For those that under no circumstance want to leave the good 'ol USA it makes good sense, even for a younger handsome guy such as myself, hehe, but I think relationships end up better over there than here. We are giving them leverage here that they probably never dreamed they could have and I really question my own decision on doing this but I have been with my wife for 3 years and have gotten to know her very well, good and bad but I understand the Filipina much better now and have modified my own behavior, humor and open comments I sometimes make and am more reserved. Hope the best for all of us!

Edited January 9, 2014 by Jeff @ Missy

[SennaBrigante 92]

Smart woman, sounds like you're covered. When you get the original birth certificate from the place you birth, think there are 4 copies that go different places, take the one they would send to the NSO and do it yourself or give them the means to LBC it directly. My childs copy went from a lying in clinic to the Provincial Capitol of my island, where it sat for almost 2 months before being sent to Manila. I requested the NSO BC through ecensus.gov.ph and got back a negative search, that was 1.5 months+ after the birth. I traveled to Cebu to check the NSO office there and they gave me contacts who finally emailed me back months later. I had to go to the Prov Cap NSO office (no database ties to MNL) who had the shipping info and then I went from there. Finally, maybe 3+ months after I did the NSO request again and received the copies, then immediately filed the CRBA and passport papers, everything was in good order, I thought...

So at about 2.5 months I am calling the Cebu Consular if they have the docs, they said call back later. I call later and they gave me number of the person working the case in Manila. I call them and they said I had not sent the BI report that they had requested 2 months earlier, I never got it because they entered my email address incorectly and never sent a hardcopy to my home. Anyways, the clock was ticking as you have 3 months to get it all done or start over. I got the report they wanted and had the passport and CRBA 2-3 weeks later, I then went to Manila and got his SS# as it was tax time in the USA and at the same time went to my Visa service place and got my petition all in order, I had wanted to get the CRBA copy and all in the petition cause I figured it can't hurt. So with all this CRBA delay BS I take off to find a place that will send in my I-130 to the lockbox in USA which is only a PO box, Philpost is the only one (EMS) that would accept it. All this and I could have done the DCF the same day. If you are lucky hopefully you do not have to experience such delays.

As they say it's more fun...

Wow. That's a lot of traveling just to get documents processed. I'm very lucky that the head office of the NSO is just a couple of blocks from our house but I'm very unlucky that the birth report will have to go through the Quezon City Hall which is always a traumatic time for anyone. My mom's boss supervised the processing of his daughter's birth cert and it took him just 2 weeks to get it. Not sure if he had to pay fixers to help him out but he did his in Makati. I just hope I'll be able to find a decent nanny who I can leave our daughter with so I can go chase pavements for her papers. It's really more fun... *rolls eyes*

I'm surprised nobody told you about the DCF. I'm pretty sure that if you followed that route you'd prolly be in the US with your family by now. Ahhh but no use dwelling on that as I am sure it's frustrating. I would be frustrated too. I think I'm frustrated for you lol. And be careful with using EMS. When I was in the US, my mum had to send my medications by mail since no pharmacy in the US would dispense to a foreign prescription. It never arrived and I ended up in the ER while waiting. That was back in Sept and it still hasn't arrived by now. That's $100 worth of medicine plus postal fees. I hate the Philippines sometimes.

[MizzyJhade 3]

PRE-NUP? Is money really more important to some than love or you just don't trust her even after 2 years of marriage and giving birth to your child...

[Jeff @ Missy 9]

PRE-NUP? Is money really more important to some than love or you just don't trust her even after 2 years of marriage and giving birth to your child...

Pre-nups are before a marriage not after, and yes money is very important.

[MizzyJhade 3]

Pre-nups are before a marriage not after, and yes money is very important.

So in case of divorce she gets nothing? or is she still your responsibility because of Affidavit of support?

[Jeff @ Missy 9]

So in case of divorce she gets nothing? or is she still your responsibility because of Affidavit of support?

It is all stated in the Pre-nup. The affadavit of support is for the first three years or until she departs the USA, that is non negotiable.

I would advise all who get married to have a pre-nup drawn up by an attorney and that when your spouse enters the country to have an appraisal of any properties you hold. Any appreciation of property in most states I assume is split 50-50. CYA

[Jeff @ Missy 9]

Something else to consider is under Philippine law for those that marry in the Philippines (as I understand it) that all properties and assets are from that day forward a 50-50 deal, in case of separation or anullment. Say you bring your spouse to the USA after marrying then decide to move back to the Philippines, see a potential issue here? Most of us guys I think already are protected in the states as in pensions, SS or other pre-earned assets. Any Capital gains or appreciation is fair game and should be split 50-50 with your spouse.

[MizzyJhade 3]

Something else to consider is under Philippine law for those that marry in the Philippines (as I understand it) that all properties and assets are from that day forward a 50-50 deal, in case of separation or anullment. Say you bring your spouse to the USA after marrying then decide to move back to the Philippines, see a potential issue here? Most of us guys I think already are protected in the states as in pensions, SS or other pre-earned assets. Any Capital gains or appreciation is fair game and should be split 50-50 with your spouse.

Yes married in the Philippines is 50-50 split. What about lawyer does she have her own? Is the prenup translated to her native language?

[Jeff @ Missy 9]

Yes married in the Philippines is 50-50 split. What about lawyer does she have her own? Is the prenup translated to her native language?

Prenup does not need to be translated and is in the actual agreement since she understands English and agreed, her laywer made sure she understood everything in English and native language. The details of prenups is not something to be discussed in a public forum. Anyone who has ever been through a divorce knows it can be easy or a living hell, mine was easy but again CYA.

I know a guy who brought a Filipina over to the states, married 20 some years and they decided to move to the Philippines, OMG what a mess. He said he thought he knew her after all that time but she had other motives. CYA

If the couple are of similiar age and earning potential probably not an issue but the Philppines as I well know is chock full of scammers. On the other hand the Philippines has an almost endless amount of honest caring ladies who just want a good life and a caring husband. Choose wisely but if your on a short timetable, best of luck.

Or men...as I think your case may be as I assume you're a lady who is bringing your hubby over?

Edited January 11, 2014 by Jeff @ Missy

[MizzyJhade 3]

It is all stated in the Pre-nup. The affadavit of support is for the first three years or until she departs the USA, that is non negotiable.

I would advise all who get married to have a pre-nup drawn up by an attorney and that when your spouse enters the country to have an appraisal of any properties you hold. Any appreciation of property in most states I assume is split 50-50. CYA

Affidavit of support - Usually lasts until the family member or other individual either becomes a U.S. citizen, or can be credited with 40 quarters of work (usually 10 years).

Both appraisal and prenup needs to be done before marriage.