Annoyed with rude responses on VJ

[christeen 966]

Yes, the waivers section can get pretty rough at times... Sometimes. Guess it is hard for folks to imagine making mistakes or bad decisions... But you find that in life I think... One of the issues with new members is that they sometimes give advice on here say or based on what they "think" rather on what is known... Giving advice on immigration matters should be taken very seriously as what you say can effect someone's life and family and if you do not "know" then you Should not advise as you can really mess someone up with the wrong information...

[lost_at_sea 995]

I'm honestly not surprised that there are altercations on here. I mean, yes, the internet is kind of a breeding ground for people who like to make digs at folks, but you have to sympathise, too. A huge majority of people on here are going through a process that is emotionally stressful, very long and extremely taxing in many senses. It's not surprising that tempers are easily frayed (particularly in a situation where someone feels they are being treated less fairly than someone else by the process). It's always worth keeping that in the back of mind when dealing with someone who appears to either not be listening or getting the wrong end of the stick. It's tough dealing with US immigration and it really puts a drain on someone to be away from loved ones.

On the other hand, blunt != rude if it's just someone giving out information to a question. Old hands on here have been answering the same questions day in day out on here for years - I don't blame anyone who's trying to disseminate accurate information in the most efficient method possible (short and sweet, maybe blunt). I'd applaud them for sticking around, instead. This place would be useless without them.

+1 for reporting people. I often report posts for threads I'm not even participating in if I see someone acting like a *insert your choice*, being aggressive or derailing posts with off-topic criticism.

Edited January 5, 2014 by lost_at_sea

[Jawaree 717]

Here is my take on this after using Vj for several years

Impatience with the process fosters grumpiness in almost everyone at some point.

A little more in-depth analysis of different visa categories seems to shed light on what appeared to be

rudeness in the forums.

Based on many of the comments, It seemed to me that there is a category of applicant for VISA's .. that feel entitled to recieve thier VISA because

they feel superior in either educational or moral attributes to other applicants.

Another observation on attitudes if you will is toward I601 forum and any other applicant/ poster that is in need of a waiver of any sort.

the posts in reply to these folks are often very rude and condescending. A mini vent here this one struck me personally as most offensive

to see a 3-4th generation US Citizen in a long term marriage with waiver "issues" being cut to shreds by someone who met thier spouse on line 3 months ago

claim moral high ground and tossing snide comments.

The waiver forum consequently has never really developed on this site and most often rather than answer questions and work on forum development

in this area , the posters are encouraged to jump ship and go to I2US.net . This always baffeled me even some of the people who appear to work

or volunteer on this site seem to encourage waiver cases to leave the forum and go elsewhere for answers.

Another area of rudeness is the "newbies" who jump in complaining they have been waiting for a couple weeks.. and sound annoyed

to seasoned VJ users who have been waiting patiently for a long time this rubs the wrong way...

many newbies come on the board and rather as suggested above than read the guides and become "socially aware" of the forum they are posting in, just spam the board with nonsense and eventually someone pops out rude comments.

Agree, I try my best in posts to give encourage, sympathize & inform if I know

I have never been disciplined, I had two posts disappeared (maybe I did something wrong)

also ppl tried to be insulting, which I ignore, but I do notice ppl R nicer to some from other

countries or their own than to others....That's life cant get away from ppl like that

[Captain Ewok 1,891]

Hey all,

Just needed to vent... Lately I've asked a few questions (which I didn't think were THAT stupid) and I get snotty, and sarcastic replies... I believe this website is here to H-E-L-P people through immigration. Just because you aren't a "Newbie" on VJ doesn't mean you somehow have the ability to treat people like they are lower than you. If you can't respond with a nice, polite response - don't respond at all??? We're all here and in this together, there is absolutely no need to be rude to anyone on here...

Rant done.

Hi Katie (or Ray?)-

Thanks for being a member and truly I hope this was an isolated comment or two. Many (if not all) of us have felt the pressure of immigration and sometimes that can rub off in certain replies on the forums. What I can say is that from the top down on this site we listen to everyone and try our best to make VJ a helpful and 'warm' home for folks during their immigration journey.

Thanks again and let me know if I can help in any way!

-Capt Ewok

[Used to be broken 147]

Yes, the waivers section can get pretty rough at times... Sometimes. Guess it is hard for folks to imagine making mistakes or bad decisions... But you find that in life I think... One of the issues with new members is that they sometimes give advice on here say or based on what they "think" rather on what is known... Giving advice on immigration matters should be taken very seriously as what you say can effect someone's life and family and if you do not "know" then you Should not advise as you can really mess someone up with the wrong information...

I would say wrong info posted by newbies is one of my "peeves" as well. I think every time some one wants to post for thier first 5-10 posts

VJ should run them into a wall with an application that makes then read the guides on thier top and acknowledge they have at a minimum

read the Immigration Topic they will be posting about in the forum.