Just want to vent a little... I am so sad... this hurts so much.

[skysofialila 45]

This is so difficult. I have no idea how I've handled everything thus far. It really seems like this will never end and that I am condemned to spend the rest of my life at immigration's mercy (or lack thereof.)

My husband came to the US for graduate school in 2005 (J-1 visa, subject to INS 212(e) - two year home residency rule requirement). We met in Feb 2008 and got married in April 2011. He graduated in Dec 2011 and we couldn't adjust status due to the J-1 visa... and applying for the waiver would mean paying back over $200K to the scholarships given to him by his country. So, we began a long distance relationship flying back and forth visiting each other every 4 months. Finally, we sent off the I-130 application July 2013. Dec 2013, the two year residency rule expired (yay!!!) but we're still waiting and waiting for that elusive NOA2. Our application is at the NBC. I check visa journey and the USCIS site several times a day with the hopes of seeing some kind of "approval". At this point, I'd be happy with a transfer or even an RFE!

I suffer from nightmares. I have dreams that my application has been either lost or in some cases, denied completely. In one dream, I was at the NBC trying to find out why I was denied and I was being told to take a seat and wait... and wait and wait....

I'm in his country now visiting. This separation has been tortorous for me.. for the both of us, really. I've been suffering from depression and anxiety. Now it is my turn to be in graduate school (I'm a 3rd year student) and it has been so difficult going through this without him by my side. It is so difficult to go out to places and see couples together. I die of envy. I wish that was me. I'd give anything to have my husband by my side. I've become a recluse. I don't want to go out because seeing couples together hurts me so badly. I have some friends who have gone through the green card process but they're all status adjusters and they don't understand. They got to wait in the US for 2-3 months for their green cards without having to endure being separated for over 2 years because of a stupid two year rule plus immigration dragging their feet on I-130 processes.

This is so difficult. I don't know how to be strong anymore. I've come close to quitting school and everything and just flying down to my husband's country (unemployed) to be with him. Job prospects are not good for me there and going to graduate school has been a dream of mine. I really thought that this would be easier.

Sorry, I'm crying as I write this. I just want a shoulder to lean on. You all here understand me - especially the I-130 filers. This is so painful and difficult. I don't know how to endure this anymore.

2013 was a $#!tty year as was 2012. I hope that 2014 brings us all many blessings and reunites us with our loved ones. I just want my husband back. Why should we need a country's permission.. a damned piece of paper telling us that we can live with our spouse under the same roof? I hate how they refer to the beneficiaries as "alien relatives". We are all human beings regardless of where in the world we come from. Why should we need bureacracy and papers granting us "permission" to live with our spouses????

This is so unbearable. I don't know how to be strong anymore I honestly feel that my I-130 packet went to a black hole and it will never, ever be adjudicated - just like in my nightmares.

[ashallm12 5]

I know this is difficult, you are getting super close to getting a transfer though if things keep moving like they are. Chin up, there IS a light at the end of the tunnel!

[Fabian&Rossy 120]

Yes, you are passing thru the worst part of the visa process but you are almost there! My wife and I are also frustrated with this process since it will be more than 2 years for us. I was just able to file my I-130 in June 2013 (more than a year after we got married) only because my wife's home country messed up my name on the marriage certificate and it was ridiculous the things we had to do to get it corrected. Nevertheless, the process is now moving and it will all be worth it when we are together for good. Before you know it, your case will also start moving faster thru the NVC stage and your husband will be with you once again! So, keep thinking about that day and cheer up! You guys will do great!

[skysofialila 45]

Thanks for the support, guys...

[Ryan H 3,828]

Moved to IR-1/CR-1 Progress Reports.

[skysofialila 45]

Tonight is the last night I will be spending here with my husband before returning to the US. I really, really hope it is the last time we will ever say goodbye to each other. I hope that the next time we reunite will be with the IR-1 in hand.....
Please USCIS, at least touch my application... anything at this point to let me know that it actually made it to someone's desk...!

[nnbattle 0]

I'm feeling the same way so I know how u feel .we keep saying why the uscis is keeping there loves ones apart .I was in the usa for 2 years got married and my mother got so so sick I had to come see her in trinidad I bring my 3 kids with me to see my mom to .but my husband told me is only one mom I have so go an see her and he give me money to take her at a good doctor now my mom is well thanks to my loving husband who I love an my kids love him to .but we didn't know if someone overstay in the usa they will get a 10 year bar now I'm here can't go back to my husband he's so sad also me I spend my christmas and new years without my love an he was all alone its hurts and there's no one who can help our marriage is very young I got married in 10-26-12 and I come to trinidad on the 3-9-13 we didn't even have a good family time .he file a i130 on 7-1-13 when we see nothing from uscis he file on the 11-18-13 a i129f for a k3 to get me back to him fast but I guess we have to wait and wait every day I keep looking to see any emails from uscis saying they approved our i130 or i129f

[Kaylara 814]

If you overstayed, he will probably also have to file a waiver.

[nnbattle 0]

Yes we did a i601 waiver on the 18-11-13 . I think its in NBC not sure but thanks and I'm new to this site sometimes I don't know where to click to see new post because I'm useing my phone don't know much about this new phone lol my son is 10 an he knows more about phone and computer than me .so ppl thanks I'm not alone hope we all get good news fast from uscis

Edited January 8, 2014 by nnbattle

[chrissyb 27]

Tonight is the last night I will be spending here with my husband before returning to the US. I really, really hope it is the last time we will ever say goodbye to each other. I hope that the next time we reunite will be with the IR-1 in hand.....

Please USCIS, at least touch my application... anything at this point to let me know that it actually made it to someone's desk...!

I completely understand you. Holiday shoppers were the worst. I would see couples disagree in the toy store thinking wish it was me. But stay positive, hold your head high. Pray and be specific what you pray for. You will be approved soon I can feel it!

[Virtuous45 31]

This is so difficult. I have no idea how I've handled everything thus far. It really seems like this will never end and that I am condemned to spend the rest of my life at immigration's mercy (or lack thereof.)

My husband came to the US for graduate school in 2005 (J-1 visa, subject to INS 212(e) - two year home residency rule requirement). We met in Feb 2008 and got married in April 2011. He graduated in Dec 2011 and we couldn't adjust status due to the J-1 visa... and applying for the waiver would mean paying back over $200K to the scholarships given to him by his country. So, we began a long distance relationship flying back and forth visiting each other every 4 months. Finally, we sent off the I-130 application July 2013. Dec 2013, the two year residency rule expired (yay!!!) but we're still waiting and waiting for that elusive NOA2. Our application is at the NBC. I check visa journey and the USCIS site several times a day with the hopes of seeing some kind of "approval". At this point, I'd be happy with a transfer or even an RFE!

I suffer from nightmares. I have dreams that my application has been either lost or in some cases, denied completely. In one dream, I was at the NBC trying to find out why I was denied and I was being told to take a seat and wait... and wait and wait....

I'm in his country now visiting. This separation has been tortorous for me.. for the both of us, really. I've been suffering from depression and anxiety. Now it is my turn to be in graduate school (I'm a 3rd year student) and it has been so difficult going through this without him by my side. It is so difficult to go out to places and see couples together. I die of envy. I wish that was me. I'd give anything to have my husband by my side. I've become a recluse. I don't want to go out because seeing couples together hurts me so badly. I have some friends who have gone through the green card process but they're all status adjusters and they don't understand. They got to wait in the US for 2-3 months for their green cards without having to endure being separated for over 2 years because of a stupid two year rule plus immigration dragging their feet on I-130 processes.

This is so difficult. I don't know how to be strong anymore. I've come close to quitting school and everything and just flying down to my husband's country (unemployed) to be with him. Job prospects are not good for me there and going to graduate school has been a dream of mine. I really thought that this would be easier.

Sorry, I'm crying as I write this. I just want a shoulder to lean on. You all here understand me - especially the I-130 filers. This is so painful and difficult. I don't know how to endure this anymore.

2013 was a $#!tty year as was 2012. I hope that 2014 brings us all many blessings and reunites us with our loved ones. I just want my husband back. Why should we need a country's permission.. a damned piece of paper telling us that we can live with our spouse under the same roof? I hate how they refer to the beneficiaries as "alien relatives". We are all human beings regardless of where in the world we come from. Why should we need bureacracy and papers granting us "permission" to live with our spouses????

This is so unbearable. I don't know how to be strong anymore I honestly feel that my I-130 packet went to a black hole and it will never, ever be adjudicated - just like in my nightmares.

Hang in there my dear. I can empathize with your pain, although I'm just almost 3 months in my marriage. One good thing is that I'll be seeing my husband for our three month anniversary. Try to pull all the inner strength you can muster and be positive for both you and your husband..that will keep him positive too. I know my husband gets very depressed when I'm not happy, and we haven't started the journey yet. We will be submitting our application next week (January 14, 2014)

So, try practicing turning the negative talk in to positive ones...like "USCIS and NVC, you may delay my application but you will not steal my joy"..etc. We try to find ways to keep our connection as personal as we can...whatsapp, yahoo IM and video, skpye, watching movies together while we do video chats, playing Word with Friends on FB, etc...all that we can possibly do to pass the time away, but still being in touch daily.

It will soon be over...you've gone over 2 years already so the end of the tunnel in right around the corner. Hang in there. You can do it.

[skysofialila 45]

Thank you so much for the support. I'm thankful for all of you because of your kind words and support.

I'm on the last leg of my trip back home and I miss my husband so much. I will only think positive thoughts and give thanks to God for this wonderful love we share.

<3

[Ryan&Joanna 44]

I so understand how you feel. It truly sucks and I can relate to the 'dying of envy' part when you see other couples! I've become sort of a recluse myself, opting to stay home rather than go out and socialize. My husband over in the US is the same! It doesnt help that we have a 13 hour difference between us, which makes talking on the phone or Skyping (other than the weekend) almost impossible! I wish I could reach through cyberspace and give you a big hug! But hang in there is all I can say. And pray, trusting that God will make this entire process swift and smooth!