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desiree   0

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I want some advice.I got the visa,now all i have to do is jump in a plane and fly to my fiance.I was very happy,but now i'm worried because he said that when i will arrive at the airport he will be at work,so i have to wait for him for a few hours there (after at least 15 hrs of travel! :blink: ) or take a "shuttle" to his home (he said this is some kind of bus...).Now i'm really worried and anxious.Later he said that he will make all that it's possible to wait for me at the airport,but anyway,how could he say what he said?We haven't seen each other for 6 months,all that time i waited to see him again;i never traveled that far,never been to US.He is the only one i know there.I'm really scared because the only person i know there is about tot treat me like this and thinks that is normal (for me to arrive for the first in US to move to him,to be with him and instead of been waited by him ,take a "shuttle").Is that something i should be worried about?All he has to do is take 1/2 day off at his job,instead he is able to choose to increase my disconfort about this long travel.Please tell me that this is not a red flag.

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I don't think anyone here will be able to tell you whether that is a "red flag" or not. I would say that most of us met our SO or had our SO meet us upon our arrival. But I have no idea what line of work your fiance is in and whether or not it is reasonable to say that he absolutely can't be there for your arrival.

The way I see it, you have two options: give him an ultimatum and say that you won't be coming at all unless he meets you at the airport (probably not the best idea), or suck it up and take the shuttle and hope for the best.

Good luck to you! (F)

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I want some advice.I got the visa,now all i have to do is jump in a plane and fly to my fiance.I was very happy,but now i'm worried because he said that when i will arrive at the airport he will be at work,so i have to wait for him for a few hours there (after at least 15 hrs of travel! :blink: ) or take a "shuttle" to his home (he said this is some kind of bus...).Now i'm really worried and anxious.Later he said that he will make all that it's possible to wait for me at the airport,but anyway,how could he say what he said?We haven't seen each other for 6 months,all that time i waited to see him again;i never traveled that far,never been to US.He is the only one i know there.I'm really scared because the only person i know there is about tot treat me like this and thinks that is normal (for me to arrive for the first in US to move to him,to be with him and instead of been waited by him ,take a "shuttle").Is that something i should be worried about?All he has to do is take 1/2 day off at his job,instead he is able to choose to increase my disconfort about this long travel.Please tell me that this is not a red flag.

Probably depends on what coutry you are from, if you speak english and what is job is. I know that my fiance was coming in from Russia spoke no englsh, or very little. i was going to go to NYC to meet her and then we would fly together to Fla. She said no "not a baby" I can get there.

Any way a shuttle is nothing more than a shared taxi van. You walk out to where the sign says shuttle, give the woman at the booth the addressyou wish to go to. She says wait for number ___. You get in tell the driver the address and he drops you off at the front door.

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desiree Newbie

desiree   0

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He works in IT,a day off is not a problem.I speak english pretty well (i think) and i think i'm able to get to his house by myself,if i really want to.But i think it's weird and unusual not to wait for me at the airport.

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I would never have made Sian wait at the airport... I took off of work each time she flew over here.

Lady, people aren't chocolates. Do you know what they are mostly? Bastards. ####### coated bastards with ####### filling. But I don't find them half as annoying as I find naive bobble-headed optimists who walk around vomiting sunshine.
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Hi desiree,

YOu said that its been 6 months since you havent seen each other. so, if that long months he must be excited to see you and wait for you at the airport and take you to your new home. Welcome you with warms and great hugs and familiar with your new place, home and neigbhor. I hope you will not get mad if I say that he is not that interested if you will come or not, because if a guy really in love with you, YOU are his number one priority and not his work or other things. Work can leave behind, but your safety is very important. He must spend his whole day to you or probably more than 2 days with you and make you feel welcome and loved. I think, it is not the proper way to treat his fiancee and it is being rude. sorry for my words. Take care!

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I would tell him I would fill comfortable if he picked me up. If he refuses to take off or offer another date that is more convienent for you to arrive. I would think that was shady.

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featherB   1

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It does sound very odd... maybe if your flight had been booked and then he'd suddenly found out for whatever reason that there was absolutely no way he could take the time off without losing his job, or something... but if that were the case, surely he would apologise profusely and explain this to you. Oh, and send a cab or even better, a friend or family member to pick you up.

But just telling you to make your own way via airport shuttle... hrmm. I agree - that just doesn't sound quite right. It's not a question of whether or not you speak english or have been to the US - you are his fiancee, finally arriving in the US to be with him - I can't imagine why he wouldn't want to be waiting there for you! :unsure:

I'd ask him to give more explanation as to why he's not going to be there...

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perfect   39

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You're all so cynical... :)

Perhaps he's really an old romantic who just wants to give her a huge surprise!??? (trying to think the best and not the worst!)

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JenT Experienced

JenT   0

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You're all so cynical... :)

Perhaps he's really an old romantic who just wants to give her a huge surprise!??? (trying to think the best and not the worst!)

I wouldn't use the word 'cynical' but I would use the word 'realistic'. Sorry, but I couldn't even conceive of not being there when David arrived, nor would I send another family member in my place. We talked about the best time to schedule his arrival so that time away from work was minimized (we wanted to save my time off for the wedding....). I would personally not settle for anything less than him being first priority on the day of our reunion and I made sure my schedule was evidence of that.

OP - red flag or not, you should be able to tell pretty quickly whether you will be a priority in his life. I hope you are.

Jen

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3-28-06 David 'officially' proposed

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It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.

 
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